Name' sake

Morley​(sub female){Max Sterne} - Well this is a thought provoking post, In The! 😝. Personally, I typically don't look at what is "supposed to...." I have mostly had preference to "outside box" thinking. With that I love uniqueness and individuality, so be it man or woman - I find it refreshing when they are just who they are! So long as they aren't hypocrites.... I fucking hate LOATHE hypocrites! But that's just me. Great post! 💞❤️💞

Oh and the book you refer to, is it One Piece?

Jack in the box - I am the same (irony to my stage name). I have never fit into any mold - I am me!
I often ponder, like others I have seen - on where we are going and where we have come from. What does it mean to be a man in todays world. what does it mean to be a dominant in this particular arena.
I have seen so much unrest between the sexes.
(50 shades)

Tinysubtreasure​(other female) - 50 shades.... Totally Dumbfounded!

Morley​(sub female){Max Sterne} - And you to me me (unless hot erotica is written) will for be "In the" 😝

Jack in the box -
@Karyn. 😊

Tinysubtreasure​(other female) - As always... Ditto.... You have the same mindset as I.... mostly; as we are individuals 💓💓

Jack in the box -
Agreed. ☺

Jack in the box -
My blog is nestled comfortably between 2 hot Saturday's. ☺

Tinysubtreasure​(other female) - Awe.....😈💋🔓🔥🔥 🥰 Only one of the finest Doms out here.... that is a Huge Compliment Jack😘

Jack in the box -
Aawww. ☺😚

Tinysubtreasure​(other female) - Speaking truth!😘

slaveMikayla​(sub female){MstrJ } - Excellent and thought provoking.... the only thing I've to add is:
"There were times and places when such things were never to be spoken aloud, even though the desires were persistant."
^are places. currently.
There ARE places currently where this lifestyle is still illegal and can be incredibly hazardous to your health to participate in. <3 I look forward to an age and time when it is completely in the past tense.

Jack in the box -
Good point Ms Faith, thank you .

These were my thoughts as well when I saw the explosion that was that book and subsiquent movie (both of which I have never seen).

slaveMikayla​(sub female){MstrJ } - If we mean 50 shades, movies plural. ^__^ I'm actually not as against it as most are, to be honest. No, it isnt exceptionally realistic, but I don't think it was terrible either.

Jack in the box -
I didnt know there was more than one - my comment/s are not a reflection of the works - rather the massive response to them.

Tinysubtreasure​(other female) - ..... But I also believe it brought out way too many men, women who Jumped into this lifestyle with a blind eye... Never researched the true meaning behind a Dom, and a submissive..., hence... so many “wannabes”..... of which I have No time for. 😝😝

Jack in the box - Which brings me back to 1 of 2 points - what are we as a society searching for?

Tinysubtreasure​(other female) - This post is not the norm for you.... really shows you have been soul searching... but I’m so elated you are back my friend....
As far as your post.... What is man / women supposed to be like as technology continues to evolve....... I believe in my heart we stay as we are Jack.... speaking our thought, feelings from our soul......,. Whatever they may be. I love Change, my mind constantly “jumps” into different directions.... I like that about me. I can write a loving, sensual story.... an hour later.. a Hot as Fuckkkkkkkk kinky, filthy , slutty story about a Nsughty kitten & her master. I hope we all keep our individual personalities, I know I will❣️❣️
What I HAVE noticed, and it upsets me Terribly is so many hide behind the texting, and chatting..... they keep putting off speaking Live.... on the phone, or FaceTime.... The technology has taken away their social skills, and I find that so very sad.... Nothing can replace real communication, and the warmth of a touch.. at least Not to Me❣️ I feel it will only become worse... not better😝😝 And she drops 🎤 mic 😂lol

Jack in the box -
Well said Ms Free, thank you.

I agree, technology has given the ability to put aspects of ourselves out there and retain an ability to hide at the same time. I remember when that book came out - it seemed to sweep the world like a tornado - it caused me to wonder "where did all these people come from? Where have they been?" - In my own little circle of world, having alternative desires was not really talked about. I spent most of my life convinced there was something wrong with me.

Jack in the box -
And thank you - it is good to be back. ⚘

Tinysubtreasure​(other female) - 😊😊🙌👏👏👏💋💓

Tinysubtreasure​(other female) - Ohhhh, myself as well Jack.... I was totally convinced I was a freak.... “Super Freak”... lol ( The song).... I know you remember that one❣️

HeyLittleOne​(sub female) - Personally, I prefer the typical 50's lifestyle; the man is the hard worker that provides for his family, and the woman is the homemaker that takes care of her family. That is only how I would like to live my own life, though. People can be and do anything they wish so long as nobody is harmed (if your dream is to be a hitman though, you probably don't apply to this).

As for technology (social media, in particular), I think that it has drastically changed a lot people- often for the worse. Individuality is so incredibly important, and I've noticed that with my generation especially, they often strive to be someone they see online as opposed to themselves. I'll connect 50 Shades here, in that a lot of people never before interested in the lifestyle saw only the popularity of that story and made it their personality- often lacking authenticity.

I think that society as a whole is really just searching to fit in, to find their place. I think that, instead of trying to fit the norm, we should all simply try to be our truest selves. I honestly wouldn't say that there is a typical role for a man or woman anymore; we've gotten to a point where it is commonly accepted to be whoever you wish, and I think that it is best that way in order for everyone to have the chance at finding their own place and happiness.

I'm not sure if I answered exactly what you were asking, so please do let me know if my comprehension skills are lacking 🤔😁

Jack in the box - You nailed it!
Exactly what im talking about - your preference, the 50s life style - it was an excepted certain way of being - the role of the man, the role of the woman - that is what I saw growing up - my parents beliefs. Today there are those that would scoff at living like that. Ive watched changes (not to date myself) - and definitely not judging either /or - just changes.
This is the essence of my blog.

Thank you Ms Little One. ⚘

HeyLittleOne​(sub female) - Most certainly!

Thank you for always bringing up such interesting talking points 😊

Literate Lycan​(dom male) - Speaking strictly from what I have seen, today the outside world is confusing for both men and women. In the same breath there are groups who demand that women be allowed to live however they wish, the same groups chastise women who chose to be subservient to a man (of their choosing). But if it is the woman’s choice, how is it wrong? And how dare other’s judge?

As for men, who for years were taught to emulate a strong, caring dominant man in the movies (think 1940s 1950s characters), they are now being chastised for being . . . a strong, caring dominant man. It’s only in the hidden confines of communities like the Cage where men, women, trans and every shade therein can breath free and attempt to live how they feel.

I do believe with the evolution of technology, the confusion is amplified through social media and other outlets. I often find those who are the most outspoken about demanding freedom are the first to want to limit others’ freedoms because it isn’t how they envision freedom. Any individual who attempts to speak out in support of individual free choice (and I do mean when women may chose to submit or men speak of the joys of being a dominant over a loving submissive) are often stifled by the opposition - it’s only free choice if you agree with “their” opinion of what free choice is.

As for 50 Shades outselling the Bible - just going to say - that is only in recent sales as per the years and involves search engines, etc. The Bible in its run has sold something like 5 Billion copies worldwide over its span of time, and I think in the years to come, it will continue to sell long after we’ve forgotten about 50 Shades. 50 Shades and all the follow-on books have not sold those numbers . . . Yet. I think they are just over 150 million copies for all three books. Harry Potter by comparison has sold about 500 million copies (all seven books included) with Harry Potter and the Philosopher’s Stone (Sorcerer’s Stone) selling about 120 million alone. 50 Shades was the fastest selling book (even outstripping how fast Harry Potter sold it’s first 20 million copies) but so far the best selling book of all times is still the Bible followed by I believe the Qu’ran with just under a billion and Mao Tze-Tong’s Little Red Book at about a billion. I will add that the “frenzy” around the 50 Shades book was amplified by the internet, social media and the marketing of the movie which bolstered sales through the roof - and it was easier for literally millions to download the book on their Kindle or App and read it anonymously while at work.

Great topic Jack!

Literate Lycan​(dom male) - Oh and to be precise, I did satisfy my curiosity and looked up sales numbers for all the books I mentioned. Although I didn’t doubt the book sold very well . . . I had to ponder considering the length of time other books have been around. And I’m an avid reader, so . . .

Jack in the box - Thank you for your input LL,
Well said 👍
I have seen the same - younger generations, and like I mentioned earlier, I have seen so much unrest between the sexes - and within.

Thank you for clarification on the numbers -I suppose I was taking liberties there, wasnt I?

I trust you are having a pleasant weekend ?

Literate Lycan​(dom male) - So far I’m off to a phenomenal start! Just finished working out and then taking a hike. The weather is perfect. About to shower and then write and maybe even blog. I hope you are having an excellent weekend as well.

Jack in the box -
Good news!, and thank you - im having a pretty good one myself.
It is always a pleasure reading your blogs, I hope you do.

HGB​(sub female){Scottish M} - Great blog, to be able to sit around a table with beverage and food to discuss this, oh wait that's a munch. I miss those. My ex and his fragile ego turned me towards being Domme. Although our discussion prior to marriage was religious 50's household. Conversation is key.

Jack in the box -
Indeed it is Ms GoodBunny, thank you for sharing ⚘

Tinysubtreasure​(other female) - I wish we all could be sitting around a table discussing... like back in the 50’s! Us women getting everything prepared for All...Love that!! Preparing everything for my “Special one”.. if it ever happens again! 😂 lol

strawberrykiss​(sub female){Taken} - Seems like I am a little late to the discussion. Some really interesting points. Stereotypes are sadly still part of our lives in so many parts of our communities. Equality rallies and women’s movements changed the dynamics of the male / female relationship in many ways, but .... has it changed so much behind closed doors? I can only speak for myself but I like my role exactly as it is, I am still a housewife and mother but I have bite. I still want to be protected , feel safe and dominated but in a loving relationship. Maybe the only difference between me and a 1950s housewife is I have more choice, so I choose the role I have and revel in it.

As for those books.... I’m sure Ann Summers made a fortune in fluffy handcuffs! 🤦🏽‍♀️

Jack in the box -
Thank you for your comment Ms Kiss, better late than never. ☺

Jack in the box -
"So I choose the role" - might be volumes there. 🤔

strawberrykiss​(sub female){Taken} - Always the bridesmaid ! 🤦🏽‍♀️😂

Bunnie - I’ve always been a little unsure as to why everyone expects that a book written as fiction is supposed to be a non-fiction depiction. Is it not just expected that everyone knows the difference between fiction and non-fiction? Perhaps that is the true tragedy in this day and age.

Jack in the box - "Non fiction depiction"
I like that - might be a good band name, yes?
It brings me once again to my ponderence (?) - what are people seeking? Or maybe the question should be, what do people need?
Ms Free mentioned people just jumping in without a clue - as an example.
Musings of an analytical mind . . .

I wonder how one stops. 🤔

As always, a pleasure Ms Bunnie, thank you. ⚘

strawberrykiss​(sub female){Taken} - Hierarchy of Needs on a fundamental level, to have our basic needs met, but assuming they are all being catered for are our needs then on a physical , psychological or emotional level? A combination of them all? Maybe we should actively seek what we need the most.
Through exploration do we find the holy grail of self actualisation ... sometimes the biggest leaps of faith have the greatest rewards.
🤷‍♀️

OraclePollon​(sub female){NotYours} - Hello! Just wanted to pop by since I saw a blog I enjoy had a new post. Love the discussion and agree with all the awesome perspective. Never read the book or seen the movie, so I couldn't say... but I also never read the Bible or JK Rowling xD... too busy reading the really good smut. Lmao.

People will always look to belong, porn is the number one selling industry in the world. So the two clashing seemed inevitable. As long as you aren't hurting anyone, then do you. It is human nature to try and belong, being outcast used to mean death... still does in some very terrible places. All things echoed by others here.