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3 months ago. February 1, 2024 at 9:32โ€ฏAM

Oooh this blog could go so many directions!! 🤔

I have a subject weighing heavily on my mind and have wanted to "write it out" for a long time.

That title just popped in my head and so . . . .

Here we are.

Btw, I asked Bob and Sharon if they minded

"plagiarize our NYT best seller for the sake of your blog on a kink site? Sure, go ahead"

(not really)

As im sure many of you are aware, the book is about financial smarts - thinking the right way about money.

Full circle back to what this blog is about -

where is the line between "you're not even Domming your own life, how could you expect to Dom mine?"

And

"Its ok, I know you are trying, i'll love you anyway" ?

 

(I have to tip-toe around this subject because I could easily piss people off, and that is never my intention)

 

Money - lets face it, it sweetens the pot, right?

all the fun things you can do, and places you can go and etc, etc, etc

Well, I dont have any . . . . 

 

I cant talk about how I got this way

(no, seriously - legally cant)

but as the saying goes "The higher you are, the further you fall"

I had it all not all that long ago - king shit! 

And yeah . . . .

Not so much now.

 

Sooooo, after the dust settled, because it always does -

I said "screw this shit!" And turned everything I had left into numbers on a banking app. And I mean eeeeeverything! For the first time in my life I didnt own keys - it was scary and liberating at the same time.

With a backpack and a suitcase - I bought a one way ticket to another country, and peaced out!

 

Lies

Disputes

Deceit

Jealousy

Fear

And tarantulas . . . 

 

A few months later I returned to the states. 😔

Let me tell ya, the climb back up from nothing can be brutal!!

 

Back to my question, I suppose its rhetorical

 

Im a fighter, ive always been a fighter - I ended up homeless and now, by god! Own my own home just five years later - free and clear, its mine!

Butt ☝️

Yeah . . . 

Webster had to call a seperate meeting to see if it fit under the definition, and mine just squeaked by 😏

 

Can you be knocked down so far, you're just out of the game?

 

Like always, thinking out loud.

You guys are my 'dear diary'

 

kinda creepy, right? A diary that leaves comments

 

Btw - Can I borrow a cup of sugar? I accidently bought 'unsweetened' cereal 😔

Oh, and some milk? 😁

 

 

Well anyway, trying to learn all I can about camping in other countries 'cuz ya just never know' . . . 

 

FlitterFly​(sub female) - Wow I have learned more about you today, and I have to say.
Congratulations
Not everyone can do what you did, and make it.
Takes hard work, courage, strength, and determination.
You go....
Also I just love the analogy.
We are your Dear dairy that leaves comments
Hmmmm now they need to make those for real. ๐Ÿค”
3 months ago
Jack in the box -
Ikr! Is that a great idea or what!? ๐Ÿ˜ƒ
And so, thank you young lady, I appreciate that ๐Ÿ˜˜๐ŸŒน
Some know my story, many dont.
Most think im younger than I am ๐Ÿ˜
3 months ago
FlitterFly​(sub female) - We are survivors, and many of us have been there.
Now how to get this kinky comunity to donate comments to Mr. Jack In The Box to sell his new crafty idea. .
The kinky cage diary with commentary By: Jack In The Box
And I'll be your first customer.
I Neeeed One. โค๏ธ
Hehehe
3 months ago
Jack in the box -
Lol, a kickstarter campaign? ๐Ÿค”
I actually had the idea a few years ago - being able to text random people from an app when you just needed someone to talk to. Good in theory, but yeah - thats what Ai is for
3 months ago
FlitterFly​(sub female) - True that.
But the kinky comments now thats a win win. 18 and older. Hehehe
3 months ago
Jack in the box -
You are certainly in high spirits this morning young lady - all is well then, yes?
3 months ago
FlitterFly​(sub female) - Yesss now that I am awake. Lol
3 months ago
Jack in the box - Yyaaaaayy!!! ๐ŸŒž
3 months ago
Lazuli - I thought you were older like graduating class of Methuselah?
3 months ago
Jack in the box -
Are you being snarky Ms Lapis? ๐Ÿค”
3 months ago
Lazuli - Being? Open the dictionary and there is my darling face, I am Snark. ๐Ÿ˜
3 months ago
Jack in the box - Lol, fair enough then ๐Ÿ˜
3 months ago
Sir Don​(dom male){Not lookin} - I like that jack and I graduated together from different schools. Methusela was a teacher of mine. Jus sayin
3 months ago
FlitterFly​(sub female) - Hehehe
2 months ago
Sir Don​(dom male){Not lookin} - You know Jack I keep waiting for the "phrase " .I am sure it will come to you in a second.
3 months ago
Jack in the box - ๐Ÿค”
3 months ago
Jack in the box - Ooooh , yes ๐Ÿคฃ
3 months ago
Jack in the box - Right now'd be perfect, eh?
3 months ago
Sir Don​(dom male){Not lookin} - Ikr.
3 months ago
FlitterFly​(sub female) - Hehehe
The suspense is killing meee. ๐Ÿคญ
3 months ago
Jack in the box -
Run along dear, you wouldnt understand ๐Ÿ˜
3 months ago
Jack in the box - ๐Ÿ˜
3 months ago
FlitterFly​(sub female) - And here I had something special all picked out for Mr. Jack.
Oops your loss.
Bye ๐Ÿ‘‹
3 months ago
Jack in the box -
Nnoooooo!!
come back!
"picked out"? Like . . . Clothes picked out? ๐Ÿ˜ƒ
3 months ago
FlitterFly​(sub female) - ๐Ÿ˜
3 months ago
Sir Don​(dom male){Not lookin} - Damn
3 months ago
FlitterFly​(sub female) - Oooohhhh all the posabilitys.
3 months ago
Jack in the box -
You see, in my on line life, and my real life - I am know to say "what are you wearing?"
From time to time
Sometimes inappropriately ๐Ÿ˜
I know right!! The horror!!
Its kinda become my thing
3 months ago
FlitterFly​(sub female) - Yess and what was that you said to me.
Ohhh
Run along dear, you wouldn't understand...

Buttt ohhhh, I feel soooo good now. I must wash all this off of me.
See ya later Mr. Jack ๐Ÿ˜—
3 months ago
Jack in the box - ๐Ÿ˜˜
3 months ago
Jack in the box -
Butt โ˜๏ธ
Before you go . . .

. . .

Whatum . . .
What are you um . . .
Wearing?
๐Ÿ˜
3 months ago
Sir Don​(dom male){Not lookin} - Lmao
3 months ago
Sir Don​(dom male){Not lookin} - ๐Ÿฟ๐Ÿฅค
3 months ago
Jack in the box -
Lol, like the old days, right?
3 months ago
Sir Don​(dom male){Not lookin} - Oh the good ole days
3 months ago
Jack in the box -
What ya think Don, did I hurt her feelings? ๐Ÿ˜”
Now we may NEVER know what she was wearing ๐Ÿ˜ฅ
3 months ago
Sir Don​(dom male){Not lookin} - Ya know Jack, she still lives in my house, so ........
3 months ago
Jack in the box - ๐Ÿ˜ณ
3 months ago
Jack in the box -
Is she the same . . . That girl from . . . . . .
Oh shit!!
3 months ago
Jack in the box -
Playfulness gone wrong, gets me into trouble every time ๐Ÿ˜”
3 months ago
Sir Don​(dom male){Not lookin} - What a way to start the day.
Now where is that damn coffee cupโ˜•๏ธโ˜•๏ธโ˜•๏ธ
3 months ago
Lazuli - Don, youโ€™re a classy guy.
3 months ago
Sir Don​(dom male){Not lookin} - Thank you
2 months ago
Sweetlydepraved​(masochist female){Owned} - At a minimum I expect the D to have some type of career. Iโ€™m not so concerned about the $$ so long as he reflects fiscal responsibility, and has something to show โ€œthis is what I have done or do my lifeโ€ in a meaningful way.
3 months ago
Innocent Me​(sub female){Protected} - Agreed Sweetlydepraved, there needs to be some proof of financial responsibility and capability to be able to show he's choosing a way of life as opposed to just kinda floundering. Not everyone wants the big house and the fancy cars. Me and my Daddy talk about camping in a car at some point in the near future...some people enjoy less.
3 months ago
Jack in the box -
Thank you for your input girls, much appreciated ๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน
Thats really the defining difference, isnt it?
at least trying.
I took up alcoholism, its going well ๐Ÿ˜
3 months ago
Sir Don​(dom male){Not lookin} - Just to add I am retired so . I have what I have.
3 months ago
Innocent Me​(sub female){Protected} - Being retired is a plus in my book. My Daddy is retired...just means more time for me! Lol
3 months ago
Sir Don​(dom male){Not lookin} - So true and awesome to boot
3 months ago
Lazuli - Iโ€™m sure I have no idea what retirement feels like and being of the generation I am, never will, but doesnโ€™t everyone have what they have? There always comes a point where there are only so many hours in a day. Itโ€™s not like we can just split ourselves and work four jobs.
3 months ago
Sir Don​(dom male){Not lookin} - My response was meant to mean
I have worked and now I don't, but it doesn't mean I'm a slacker or wondering around aimless. I have something that I want and I am happy and I live within my means.
3 months ago
Innocent Me​(sub female){Protected} - I think he meant more like...I have what I have and I'm happy with what I have. He's no longer a part of the rat race or trying to obtain more. He's gotten to his sweet spot and he's happy, so anyone looking to join him would have to happy with what he has 'cause he's not looking to 'acquire more'.

At least, that's how I took it. :)
3 months ago
Sir Don​(dom male){Not lookin} - Thank you very well interpretation
3 months ago
ButterfliesAndCuffs​(sub female) - My stance has always been that a Dom doesnโ€™t have to take care of me (financially), but he needs to be able to support himself. I already financially support myself and my daughter. Iโ€™m not adding anyone to that. But he also has to be able to have enough money that we can enjoy dinners out or the movies occasionally. Maybe take vacations together eventually - nothing extravagant. Again I donโ€™t expect him to pay the entire amount. Iโ€™m absolutely willing to pay my own way.
3 months ago
Jack in the box -
Theres that side of things too, eh Ms B&C?
the financial independence from one another. Living seperately even, another aspect.
Thank you for participating ๐Ÿ˜˜๐ŸŒน
3 months ago
ButterfliesAndCuffs​(sub female) - Youโ€™re welcome. Great blog post. ๐Ÿ˜Š
Living with someone else would be a huge huge step for me. I enjoy my own space. Plus I think how long it took my ex husband to move out probably traumatized me. ๐Ÿ˜
3 months ago
Jack in the box -
I totally get that ๐Ÿ˜ฎ๐Ÿ’จ
And thank you again,
It is nice to see when people join in and enjoy my blatherings ๐Ÿ™‚
3 months ago
The Kinky Poet​(other male) - Brilliant share Jack
Love and light T.K.P
3 months ago
Jack in the box -
Thank you my friend, I hope you are doing well these days ๐Ÿ™‚๐Ÿ™๐Ÿป
3 months ago
Literate Lycan​(dom male) - I keep thinking of the song by Chumbawamba "Tubthumping" (although I guess most people just call it by its chorus - I get knocked down, but I get up again). You are never truly down and out as long as you yourself get back up again, as you attest in your personal journal. Some individuals find life is so "hard" they cry, throw up their hands and give up. As for Rich Dom, Poor Dom - it depends upon your value system. Money and wealth don't always equate to value in life.

But I would say and concur with above - can the Man take care of himself first? If not - then no, they are not mastering themself first which is necessary. A Dominant doesn't have to be a billionaire - but they must be able to fend for and provide for themselves and whatever they claim to Dominate (and I don't mean just financially - can they provide the right amount of emotional coverage, the right amount of physical coverage, the right amount of mental and intelligence coverage? But can they also buy dinner?)

I've seen at least one individual claiming the big "D" who had no financial prospects and was looking for a good, submissive woman of substance and wealth to provide for them both, while he apparently offered his "Dominance" - which was and is a total fail to begin with. What was he offering? To literally sit on his fat ass and be lord and master of someone else's hard earned resources. Negative. Fail. Be an adult man first.
3 months ago
FlitterFly​(sub female) - Hahahha, that last part.
3 months ago
Sir Don​(dom male){Not lookin} - Damn tell us how you really feel LL
LMAO
3 months ago
Jack in the box -
One of my favorite reminder songs, lol
Well said my friend, as always - well said.
Thank you for participating, I 100% agree with you. And I hope my blog and comments such as these, place perspective for the new and/or young in this lifestyle.
๐Ÿ™‚๐Ÿป
3 months ago
Sir Don​(dom male){Not lookin} - Absolutely Jack
3 months ago
Lazuli - Modern day Kings of Castles ๐Ÿฐ all shiny armor bought by the missus.
3 months ago
Satindragon - Great topic. Once upon a time, I sold my home and everything I had in the name of love. Came home 8 years later at age 58 with all my belongings in a 20' uhaul. Lived in my son's basement and drove my grandson's car for a year. Two years later begged and borrowed enough money for a down payment on my place. Now I own it and my auto is paid for.

I expect a man to have his shit together. He doesn't have to be rich(been down that road, money more important than me.) But he does need to be able to take care of himself. If I can do it so can he. Who knows together we might have something pretty nice.
3 months ago
Jack in the box -
You are a Diamond, Ms Satin, this I know.
Been through the storms and came out victorious. A true fighter.
๐Ÿ˜Œ
๐Ÿ™
Thank you for participating on my blog, I appreciate you ๐Ÿ˜˜๐ŸŒน
3 months ago
Satindragon - ๐Ÿฆ‹๐Ÿฅ‚๐Ÿฆ‹
3 months ago
Lazuli - My final thoughts on richer or poorer joint bank accounts:
โ€œI would do anything for love, but I wonโ€™t do that.โ€ ~Meatloaf, Sir Meat, Mr. loaf
3 months ago
Jack in the box -
Ya know, I always wondered what the "that" was that he was talking about in that song ๐Ÿค”
3 months ago
Lazuli - Itโ€™s a joint checking account ๐Ÿฅธ
3 months ago
Jack in the box -
Hey so, yeah - thank you all who joined in on my blog. It truly does my heart good as I navigate my way through this thing we call life, my peeps - my fellow kinksters
๐Ÿ˜Œ๐Ÿ™๐ŸŒน๐Ÿป
3 months ago
Drinfear​(dom male){Owns PFP} - My hat is off to You, Boss.. I, too, have had some hard learned lessons on this journey W/we call life.. Have made bad choices and ended up homeless more than once, but never stopped being ME, nor will I ever stop.. I pushed My way back, not quite as well as YOU did, but back on top is back on top.. Each perspective is relative. I applaud Your tenacity, and you KNOW, if You ever want or need to talk, I'm here, Boss. Cheers!
2 months ago
Drinfear​(dom male){Owns PFP} - For the record, the sub I was with in 95, living just outside of Minneapolis, I started My Own business with a $15 disposable camera from Walgreens.. A year later her mom, who had Alzheimers moved in with U/us but couldn't do cold well.. I sold My business for 187k, moved to Phoenix.. Within three months, SHE had a new house, in her name, of course, AND a new car (ditto) then came to Me telling Me that GOD didn't want U/us to be together any more, so I had to leave.. I KNOW where you're coming from, Boss.. Been there, have multiple tee shirts..
2 months ago
Jack in the box -
Very kind of you my friend, thank you ๐Ÿ™‚๐Ÿป
2 months ago

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