THINKING AND KINKING

If a demon hits on your submissive, stalks them, and is a predator what are you supposed to do? Block the demon you say? Well that is really funny to me. NOT!

You see it's not funny because the demon has blocked me and my kitten from responding to his advances and nasty messages and lies. Report the demon you say? Tried that and nobody in Admin seems to care or respond about the demon.  

So I went into chat and tried to confront the demon and he won't talk to me. Every time that I enter the chat room, the demon would leave right away like he was possessed by a demon. I then tried to warn other subs in chat about the demon's behavior so they don't become his next victim and I hear from some Doms and subs that is not allowed because it is against Terms of Service. 

Now I know why I haven't been in chat since December! I guess they will need to learn the hard way...

You see this demon is a newbie. A wannabee Dom. A real demon!! He has blogged a couple times about always being in the shadows and also about how he always feels so alone. Well all I have to say about that is keep acting like a predator and a stalker and you will always be alone and most likely end up in jail. You are in for a rude awakening! 

His demonish profile talks about how he is new to the bdsm lifestyle and not looking for a sub right now. But he is looking for a teacher to teach him how to do things the right way so he doesn't hurt his sub when he decides that he is ready for one. That sounds respectable to me but he has already disproved this by stalking my kitten and acting like a true demon.  

This demon scared the shit out of her the other night while in her home after she took him in to try and be nice because  he needed a place to stay. He barged down her door, breaking the lock while she was asleep!! For about 2 months, while living there, the demon did nothing but follow my kitten around, tell her and her children that they would end up together and that she always loved him. Typical stalker and predator behavior. Like I said earlier, if I didn't know any better he seems to be possessed by a demon.

He has been kicked out and removed from her home now. However, now the demon is preying on other subs here on Cage so please, please, take my warning and be cautious!! 

*disclaimer- any coincidence to a real user name is just that, a coincidence. I am simply stating that the stalker/predator is indeed possessed by a demon and has a demonish personality and profile. 

MDG

PATIENCE

There is no possible way we will listen to your noise,

She will continue to play only with all of MY toys!

Your jealousy is just so extremely sad and green, 

It really seems like now I need to intervene.

Anything that you already have said or try to say I will silence,

You are a wannabee and don't understand our bond and alliance.

For N, my kitten.

All we need is a little patience! ❤️🤗❤️ 

I love you whole bunches and I am sending armloads of hugs and kisses your way!    🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗😘😘😘😘😘

MDG

This post is for all of you beautiful people here on Cage whether you are currently involved in a dynamic or you wish to be in one someday. It doesn't matter whether you are a Dom/me, a submissive, a switch, a slave, or any other label you want to put on a dynamic within the BDSM lifestyle. A D/s relationship is ALWAYS worth fighting for especially if that strong bond has already existed. You don't have to quit or give up if you believe it has a chance to work. The following shit is important so take it for what it is worth. If this helps just 1 person then it was worth posting. 

I almost lost my love this week. It was an extremely emotional and tough week on both of us. I do however, now truly think we will make it through, but only time will tell...After 6 months of being together in a LDR and her totally and completely submitting to me and me totally and completely knocking down and removing ALL of her MANY walls and her not having her fears any longer, things took a dramatic turn for the worst. Ugh!

She came to visit me in Massachusetts back in May and spent 2 unbelievable and unforgettable weeks with me. However, when she left she had an incredibly hard time dealing with her emotions and being away from me and she starting to shut down. I tried to reassure her constantly but to no avail. Her walls slowly went back up and she stopped communicating with me correctly, began disappearing on me, and was slacking on completing a task or journal on time if at all sometimes. (and FYI, I am really easy and ask very little of her) 

I began to feel like a failure as a Dom. I felt broken. And I felt like a broken record for about 3+ weeks because I kept trying to talk with her and ask her why she was being so distant, non communicative, and had her walls back up etc. I told her that we needed to work together to fix this ASAP. She kept agreeing, apologizing, saying she would "get her head out of her ass and stop slacking" but things got worse!

Finally, the middle of this week it all came to a head after I was done begging her to talk to me for several days. I hadn't slept or eaten a thing for 3 days and was extremely emotional but I was done and at my breaking point! I had to let her know that if she didn't get her act together and snap out of it, things would have to end. I ripped her a new one because it was the only way to get through to her after trying everything else for weeks, and then I broke down hysterically crying telling her how hurt I was. (Yes I am a sensitive Dom) But I am also never afraid to be real and show my true raw emotions. 

It finally sunk in and hit her after 3 or 4 weeks! Phew!! It was WAY past the time for a video chat right then and I wasn't taking any more excuses! So we both talked openly about it and I told her I didn't want to end things, but things needed to change! She totally woke up and agreed! YAY!!! I also wanted her to talk to a very close sub friend of mine to help guide her through her journey. It's very important to have sub sisters as you know.  You know who you are and I cannot thank you enough! It has already started to help her and it means the world to both of us! 🤗😘❤️

It has now been 3 days since I almost lost her and I am hopeful. She is planning to come and visit again very soon so we can tackle any and all issues one at a time. I am going to get my sledgehammer back out to make sure each and every one of her walls and fears are knocked down and crumbled for GOOD this time!!!

Open and honest communication is the name of the game. Whether it is good, bad, or indifferent. You MUST talk about your feelings or it WILL NOT WORK!! It is the key to every single relationship but if you want to truly experience that unbreakable D/s bond, then please make sure you do it EVERY SINGLE DAY in your dynamic! 

Please be kind, gentle, loyal, but most of all please talk openly and honestly to your partner so that you can have success in your dynamic and feel the bond that my Kitten and I have felt. I wish everyone tons of love & peace always! 🤗❤️

I am now in desperate need of heading to my closet to get my sledgehammer dusted off! Got some walls to knock down again Kitten so get ready! I love you to the moon and back!!!!! 😍🤗😘❤️

Enjoy the the wacky video!

MDG

Here's hoping that everyone has a happy and kinky  Saturday!

MDG

I sincerely hope that everyone near and far has a safe, kinky and Happy 4th whether you celebrate the holiday or not!! Now you know where my head is at today!!! 😜😋🤗👋

MDG

A two-sided surrender:

The only way I want to be equal to you is in hunger. I want you sharply, fiercely, furiously in need of me. I want to be sharp and fierce and furious in my need back.

The power I admire second-most is unequivocal want. The power I admire most is a comfort with wanting and being wanted, an ability to feed on hunger without being consumed by it. Being desired is intoxicating, but getting too drunk on desire too quickly often kills the source of the desire in the first place. I want people who know how to surrender, either to their desires or to mine. I want people for whom surrender is a choice.

If you don't want me enough to take me, you don't want me enough. If your desire isn't hot enough to come to a white-hot point, a point where you can assert it and use it even though you can scarcely touch it, it's not the desire I want carving me to pieces. And if you can't stay yourself under the weight of my desire, using me through my need to use you, you're not rewarding me for my lust in the way my lust for you deserves.

For hunger should be rewarded, when it's mutual. Merely satiating it shouldn't be enough. We should celebrate our hungers, and celebrate it by both torturing and indulging the hungry. I rejoice in your hunger by making your stomach growl, your lips tremble, your eyes plead, your body melt with want for me. I reward you by petting and stroking, smothering and embracing, scratching and pinching and biting—whichever treat you personally crave.

And I want you torturing and indulging me right back. Getting in my head at the moment I most want you. Tormenting me until my lust shines out as if through stained glass, mythic and vibrant and all-too-real. Rewarding me as if to delight in how eagerly I take in the sight and feel and sound of you as a reward. Rewarding me as if you finally understand your own value, your own worth. Reward me tenderly and generously, playfully and teasingly, and finally reward me darkly, as my hunger awakens a new kind of greedy cruelty in you.

We should both want to lose, and we should both know how to take ferocious joy in the other's loss. Savor my desperations as I savor in yours. Thrill in the unique forms my hunger takes, the unique demands I make of you, and I will study you in turn like you're my classroom and my teacher and my eager student too.

Our hunger is as individual as anything about us. I love you for the ways you want to be consumed—and the ways you would consume the willing. I want to be so loved in turn. To hunger blindly, without either seeing or being seen, is to forsake the most tender moments of being alive: the moments where we define ourselves by our need for someone else. We cannot need without knowing; we cannot hunger for another person in their entirety until we know the forms their hunger takes. You can't surrender to me until you know and embrace the ways in which I would surrender back to you.

Take me, so you may finally be taken.

The 2-sided surrender is a motto that I now live by every day and it is EXTREMELY important to me! I did not write this, although it is now part of my soul. All of the credit for this writing belongs to WhyTrustTomHanks from FetLife.

I dedicate this blog to my love, my kitten, my Nina. You are my world and I love you so very much today, tomorrow, and always!!

❤️😘🤗🌹

Wishing everyone love, happiness, peace and joy!! ❤️

MDG

It takes two to surrender

Surrender is the deepest intimacy two people can share. It's an act of the purest devotion: devotion to the one you surrender yourself to, or devotion to the one who wants nothing more than to surrender. Both devotions are necessary. You can't surrender yourself without someone who sees and knows you enough to ask for your surrender.

Surrender is only ever voluntary, only ever wanted. To submit without desire isn't surrender—it's acquiescence, nothing more. To surrender is to admit your need for closeness. It's to admit that you want nothing more than everything: every part of your captor, your master, your owner, as dedicated to taking you as you are to being taken. You offer everything, but you demand everything in turn.

Don't make the mistake of thinking that it's easier to be surrendered to than it is to surrender. If you are prepared for their surrender, if you understand the depths to which you must receive your partner, it will feel effortless, but most make the mistake of underestimating their partner's depths. This will take a commitment from you: likely one of months, even after the years it will take you to learn exactly what you should be looking for. Master it, and they'll surrender to you in a heartbeat. But the speed there is one of genuine mastery, rather than a suggestion of simplicity.

Mutual devotion. Two people seeing. Two people being seen. Many who surrender find, to their surprise, that it's easy to turn their partner's devotion into a surrender of their own. Many who seek their partner's surrender are surprised, in turn, to find how readily they'll beg to give themselves away. Intimacy is intimacy, after all, and devotion is devotion. Deep in the formless depths of need, your need for me can become mine for you before either of us realize what has changed.

If you want your partner's surrender, you'll have to learn just how to ask it of them. And if you want to surrender, you'll have to learn just how to teach your partner how to ask. They won't know how to ask otherwise. They might not even think they need to ask.

Surrender isn't a natural part of any person. The desire to surrender may be; the capacity to surrender certainly is. But surrender must be made. It's a creative act, forged by two people seeking to sharpen the blunt needs of the present into a gutting, lethal want. The raw materials of desire must be forged into something with a point, something manufactured with a purpose, something capable of spilling blood. It won't come into being on its own, no matter how much you try and will it. Your partner must draw your surrender from you, take it, shape it, pierce you with it.

We don't surrender until we're known. We can't surrender until all parts of us are taken and accounted for. Each piece we offer up becomes a part of our ultimate surrender, the point past which there is no possible return. But all you can do is offer. It's up to your partner to take those offerings and offer you a heaven made from them, a paradise borne of your devotion. 

Do you have someone who can bring you to that paradise? Do you have it in yourself to be that paradise for your partner? Are you prepared to offer yourself to them that utterly, that wholeheartedly? Are you ready to take them in as they truly are, without judgment or defensiveness or apathy? Are you prepared to find their surrender utterly beautiful, so much that you can lose yourself in your quest to make them offer it? 

It feels so blissful, once you finally have it. A voice from up high. A voice that could offer you anything and everything—and makes that offer. A person willing to sacrifice themselves to receive your blessing. A soul desperately in need of your salvation. A sinner and a saint: both of them human, both of them yours. It takes both. And each is a unique form of devotion. We may call the one surrender and the other taking, but they're both surrender, in their respective senses. Each is a total loss of yourself, and a total gain of the one you're with. Each is a total acceptance of the one you have, and a complete admission that you want the one you've got so entirely that you'd sell your soul just to have theirs instead.

Give yourself to this surrender, and you'll never feel more seen and seeing, more knowing and known. Surrender to this, your private paradise, now finally, finally, entrusted to another, so they might join and share it with you.

The 2-sided surrender is a motto that I now live by every day and it is EXTREMELY important to me! I did not write this, although it is now part of my soul. All of the credit for this writing belongs to WhyTrustTomHanks from FetLife.  

Wishing everyone tons of peace, love, and happiness!! ❤️

MDG

No details are really necessary. The two weeks were incredibly awesome!! Time certainly stood still for a while and it was amazing!!! ❤️

Wishing everyone peace, love & happiness!

MDG

After 4-1/2 months, my kitten is finally driving to visit me today for 2 weeks! It reminds me of the old Heinz ketchup commercials from the 70's. Cannot wait! I'm counting down the minutes until she arrives and then I just want time to stand still...

Wishing you all peace, love, and happiness. Happy Friday! 

MDG

MDG