This post is for all of you beautiful people here on Cage whether you are currently involved in a dynamic or you wish to be in one someday. It doesn't matter whether you are a Dom/me, a submissive, a switch, a slave, or any other label you want to put on a dynamic within the BDSM lifestyle. A D/s relationship is ALWAYS worth fighting for especially if that strong bond has already existed. You don't have to quit or give up if you believe it has a chance to work. The following shit is important so take it for what it is worth. If this helps just 1 person then it was worth posting.
I almost lost my love this week. It was an extremely emotional and tough week on both of us. I do however, now truly think we will make it through, but only time will tell...After 6 months of being together in a LDR and her totally and completely submitting to me and me totally and completely knocking down and removing ALL of her MANY walls and her not having her fears any longer, things took a dramatic turn for the worst. Ugh!
She came to visit me in Massachusetts back in May and spent 2 unbelievable and unforgettable weeks with me. However, when she left she had an incredibly hard time dealing with her emotions and being away from me and she starting to shut down. I tried to reassure her constantly but to no avail. Her walls slowly went back up and she stopped communicating with me correctly, began disappearing on me, and was slacking on completing a task or journal on time if at all sometimes. (and FYI, I am really easy and ask very little of her)
I began to feel like a failure as a Dom. I felt broken. And I felt like a broken record for about 3+ weeks because I kept trying to talk with her and ask her why she was being so distant, non communicative, and had her walls back up etc. I told her that we needed to work together to fix this ASAP. She kept agreeing, apologizing, saying she would "get her head out of her ass and stop slacking" but things got worse!
Finally, the middle of this week it all came to a head after I was done begging her to talk to me for several days. I hadn't slept or eaten a thing for 3 days and was extremely emotional but I was done and at my breaking point! I had to let her know that if she didn't get her act together and snap out of it, things would have to end. I ripped her a new one because it was the only way to get through to her after trying everything else for weeks, and then I broke down hysterically crying telling her how hurt I was. (Yes I am a sensitive Dom) But I am also never afraid to be real and show my true raw emotions.
It finally sunk in and hit her after 3 or 4 weeks! Phew!! It was WAY past the time for a video chat right then and I wasn't taking any more excuses! So we both talked openly about it and I told her I didn't want to end things, but things needed to change! She totally woke up and agreed! YAY!!! I also wanted her to talk to a very close sub friend of mine to help guide her through her journey. It's very important to have sub sisters as you know. You know who you are and I cannot thank you enough! It has already started to help her and it means the world to both of us! 🤗😘❤️
It has now been 3 days since I almost lost her and I am hopeful. She is planning to come and visit again very soon so we can tackle any and all issues one at a time. I am going to get my sledgehammer back out to make sure each and every one of her walls and fears are knocked down and crumbled for GOOD this time!!!
Open and honest communication is the name of the game. Whether it is good, bad, or indifferent. You MUST talk about your feelings or it WILL NOT WORK!! It is the key to every single relationship but if you want to truly experience that unbreakable D/s bond, then please make sure you do it EVERY SINGLE DAY in your dynamic!
Please be kind, gentle, loyal, but most of all please talk openly and honestly to your partner so that you can have success in your dynamic and feel the bond that my Kitten and I have felt. I wish everyone tons of love & peace always! 🤗❤️
I am now in desperate need of heading to my closet to get my sledgehammer dusted off! Got some walls to knock down again Kitten so get ready! I love you to the moon and back!!!!! 😍🤗😘❤️
Enjoy the the wacky video!
MDG
