Discommbobulated

Lion​(dom male){Hazel Eyes} - Damn good of you to stand your ground.

dollMaker​(dom male) - Report to site admin, pass on the identity and message so they have a record of this individuals behaviour. Based on what you have said your first encounter was not with a dom, but with a sadly commonly encoutered individual the HNG, or lesser spotted horny net guy, wanabe fantasist who has zero experience except with pamela and her five sisters, and thus doesnt know the first thing about dominance or being a dom.

Deserving - Thank you.

hisbaby​(sub female){MDG} - I am sorry that your first encounter was not a actually dom. However there are plenty here dont let one bad apple ruin the whole bunch.

notsounsureanymore - I’m sorry you have experienced this, sadly there are plenty like that on here but there are also some really good people! Take your time, the right one will come along 😊

Fate - Yes, report. This was not a real Dom. This was an immature idiot swinging between a pansy narcissist and an overly entitled prick with predatorial tendencies.

Bunnie - I’m glad you recognised that something wasn’t right. Here’s a link to a website that is a good read and may give you a bit more in depth information than the 50 shades...

http://www.submissiveguide.com/

welcome, and good luck :)

djinni​(dom female){smplylaura} - Good for you for saying no.... but dear sweet baby Jesus laying in the manger.... please get education beyond 50 shades. That is not a representation of real BDSM. There are a million educational books that will teach you. Start with an oldie but goodie, The Bottoming Book. Find a local or online mentor, a munch, do some extensive research. If you go into every experience expecting it to be 50 shades, you are going to be disappointed every single time.

WillowJ - Good for you for standing ground. Your limits are yours and no one gets to take them away. Many have posted some good book/articles to read I will just say sm 101 by jay wiseman is another good read to start with .

TheAnt​(dom male) - The problem with online dynamics is that you truly don't know what you are getting in the other end of the connection. He may have just read a story or watched a movie on Kink.com and decided it was too easy to do. As a Dom, I can tell you its hard.
As so many others said above, he likely was a complete fake or a complete newbie too. Neither is a what you need or want at this stage od tour journey.
I would suggest like a few said above, that you take a few moments and do the test thing to at least find out whom that inner sub is. She is likely not the slave type a sub, or at least that is my impression. There are a lot of sub types and a lot of Dom types. My sub and I, for instance are of the Daddy Dom and little girl dynamic. And even then the little girl sub has at least 4 sub types and of course dont get me started on the Adult Diaper baby lover dynamic which is sort of a dynamic offshoot of ours but not what my sub and I are into.
Point of my rambling is your prospective Dom should have been asking some awriois questions about that jnner sub and you about his Dom side, if there was even one beyond as so well put, "horny net guy".
Explore yourself, read some blogs, both Dom and sub ones. Read a book or go to a Kindle on the all knowing Amazon and discover you. Then you will know what you are looking for.

dollMaker​(dom male) - The Loving BDSM You Tube channel and website also a good watch and read. Kayla Lords along with her dom, John Brownstone have a nice way of explaining things. Kayla is a well regarded international educationalist, with a good reputation. The submissives guide also has a nice You Tube channel as well. Luna has a good reputation as well.

A couple of books I would suggest that are useful, even though they cover both dom and sub positions (knowing about doms and what is and isn't good dominance is useful). The books are Screw the Roses send me the thorns, and the Loving Dominant. The New Bottoming book as suggested is also a great read.

Evie Lupine as a You Tube channel and often is spot on, though I was concerned re her once saying faking it till you make it is ok, and in my view that is most definitely not ok, particularly if you are a dom. BDSM is dangerous and even very simple activity can physically cause harm, some permanent damage and even kill. So take as much time to learn, through education you can better keep yourself safe.

Learning about the various physical world skills needed to do BDSM safely, ones that interest you, even some that at the minute don't would be useful. To that end Morgan Thornes You Tube channel and Website is worth a look. Its from a Domme (female top/dom) to male bottom/sub view point but she covers a lot of activity/skill how to do stuff that is useful in a wider sense.

I wish you well with your journey. Keep safe, and don't rush into anything too quickly, before you have a better understanding regarding the complexities of BDSM.

TakenLower - I’m sorry this was your first experience too! Everyone else has given all the right advice! However, I do have a different perspective that I use sometimes too. When I was a sub without a Master sometimes I would go ahead and explore with one of these less than desirables. It’s an interesting way to learn about your D/s kinks without any emotional involvement. Sometimes I just felt like a horny slut that needed to be used, and I played around. Those things are okay too so long as you know that you are in control, you set the limits and you can step away at any time.

Justme26 - PS to all that. Be very careful about meeting people. Look out for the obvious red flags and meat in a public place, at least, the first time.