Random Thoughts of a Wandering Sub

IowaDom​(dom male) - If you have not even attended a munch before, I assume you have not, you might be well... is "shocked out of 1 of your kitty lives" too strong? I thought I wanted to attend a play party some time back, and went to a meet and greet as a pre-party kinda get used to it thing. Not saying all play parties are the same, but 80% of what they were discussing was many, many miles outside of my comfort zone. Everything from suspension bondage (be cool to learn) to blood play, scat play, knife play, extreme degradation, some long forgotten interrogation techniques, and about every other limit I personally have. Needless to say, won't be attending. I might suggest looking into the plan carefully.....

HisBelovedKitty​(sub female){MSA} - Shocked out of one of my kitty lives sounds 100% right!
After I wrote this post I figured regardless I'm not gonna know until I go.

Charm bracelet is amazing! And I love wearing it out in public because no one knows what each charm means.😁

Bunnie - I too love the charm idea. So cute :D

I can only share about the play parties I’ve experienced... and from the sounds of it, ours are very different here as opposed to there, so it may not be very helpful.

Our parties were held at a private residence that had been built specifically to host... so there were rooms that allowed for specific types of play.
There was a room that had special steel beams put in the roof, with the necessary fittings etc. for suspension. There was a room that was pretty much just a tiled bathroom where anything messy was done (blood/needle/knife play, penetration of any kind-sounding/pegging etc, wax play). There was also a room for zappy zap... violet wand play, a room for impact, and some other private rooms for if anyone wanted to slip away and do their own thing.

The entrance was communal and was seen as “the lobby” and was a place that was the meet and greet area... and no play was to take place there... ever. It was very much a respect thing.

From that area there was a relaxation area where there was always nibblies and drinks and people would go to just chat and relax or “come down” after a scene. There was also a lounge area where people could snuggle in for some after care.
Connected to that area was a space that had a St. Andrews Cross, and was generally the area that would have the more public types of play... including takedown scenes. For takedowns though, everyone was pre-warned because that can be quite confronting and potentially triggery.

Everything about our parties was focused around respect. There was a no-touch policy which was very strongly enforced. That was no touching others or gear without permission.
Consent was also obviously the other major focus. As was negotiation... very rarely did anyone in our group play without prior negotiation before the party. We also took consent that bit further in not putting anyone in a position of seeing anything they didn’t want to etc, so things were always quite well structured.

The rules and regulations were always gone through at the beginning of the night, and also the “safety moderators” and “first aid officers” for that night pointed out, and all safety gear recognised.

We enjoyed playing hard... but responsibly.

As I said, I don’t know if this is how it is everywhere.

My first time, I just went around with big, wide eyes and a massive grin lol. I couldn’t believe that I had finally found my people and they were doing all the things I had never thought I would ever have the opportunity to find myself doing. It was like heaven. And I felt like such a little kid in a candy store. Everyone was so friendly and welcoming and had a laugh at my enthusiasm.

I hope your experience is as amazing as I was lucky enough to have. It definitely can change a lot of things about how much sense all of “this stuff” makes.

HisBelovedKitty​(sub female){MSA} - Oh lordy

Bunnie - Lol. The most important thing is to simply remember to be respectful.
Don’t touch anything without permission...
and if you discover something that you don’t like or that you think is gross... keep in mind that not everyone feels that way, so always try to respect the choices of others and their play. Those would be my biggest tips.

You’ll be fine. You’ve got your Sir... he’ll guide you :)

HisBelovedKitty​(sub female){MSA} - Thank you guys!

Justme26 - My advice is don't eat anything from the buffet table.

IowaDom​(dom male) - and the 5 second rule for food is also suspended .....