We as Doms , again I must step in and now we must talk to the D types .
I know we have the plan ,I know we must have obedience. It is imperative for our growth and well as our subs . They must trust in us correct... yes .
So what do we do when there is a problem. Something that happens when things go on behind the scenes out of our control. Don't throw blind orders and expect a submissive to remain submissive. She is bound to us and in our heads remain a submissive. So when they turn from us and we don't notice. What do we do. Barking our orders won't solve this issue. We need to see what is going on . We need to ask questions or step up to the new challenge. Nothing ever stays the same . We are in an ever evolving world and our relationship move just as fast. So if there is a problem or our Sub turns from us to others . Who's fault is it . Well it's obvious.... it is your fault... the Dom. Why... the reason I hear .... she is to hard to train, she is not learning, she keeps acting up.. she is not a real Sub. All theses things are our failures ,they are our let downs . Why again is It our fault, because we choose to lead . And bumps in the road are our responsibility and consider that she is following us . So if we go off road... yup you guessed it ....she is going with us . It is our responsibility to care for our sub. We must be there . That is the trade off . She does it on her own for so long , rules her world all day and all night. She does not want this . She is the beautifully crafted Independent woman who does not want to be alone in her beautiful journey and she has chosen you. All of you Doms , Daddies/Mommies and Masters. We are in control and in the driver seat . So of we fail to do this the yes she/he will look elsewhere, that is how our world is . The relationship is always up for negotiation and if we fail we loes our treasured Sub our love in this world. Sometimes we lose our partners. I imagine this happens in the vanilla world as well but here we had warnings, signs because we are not with out communication, we have her trust . That is why it hurts them so much and why it hurts them more than us . She believed in us and trusted us . And when we fail there whole world has the potential to crash down or she will take control again. Remember what a Sub truly is . She is not some girl that will suck your dick at the drop of a hat( well she is but...), someone that is weak .... that is completely wrong . She is the strongest women ever . She is a queen. And she will walk away from us if she loese faith or trust in us . Our job is very hard . We must tend to our subs . If we don't then we will ultimately lose her/him. Every thing has a reason, every thing has an effect. At the end of the day we must be able to see or she will start her search again and again. She will fall into a loop that will make her believe the next destination is better and she will never see happiness in front . She will never stop looking. That is a sad day when we fail because it makes our sub independent and she shows off her strength. Then we complain.. moral of this is . Be mindful of her feelings and her wishes. She will ask and ask and ask. But when she has had enough of you taking, she will stop giving. And then my friends.. it is to late . So let us keep watching and if you can help others do it . We are a community of kink. We rely on this community, full of drama as it is.
To pave a new road over the old one is sad and sometimes necessary for our growth but it is a sad thing to do and offers little for our mental well being. So we must do better.
So good luck and chose your sub wisely and make sure you match. They come in many flavors so make sure she reflects what you want back . Be ready to adapt if you want to keep her.
I my self have gone through some changes and I am ready to go again. Goodluck all .
Good night all .
