Firecracker Diaries - A combination of stories, random thoughts and an appreciation log of life with Daddy

Hard Limits - An activity that a person in a BDSM relationship absolutely won’t do. A hard limit can’t be negotiated.

i somehow feel “afraid” of the hard limits. What I mean is that I’m not sure what my limits are...but some of them intimate me just to think about trying it! 

I know for me that I have some limits that I won’t even try...bodily excrement fluids, feces, etc. Not that I judge anyone else...just that I have a weak stomach for smells...and no one is attracted to that! But I am curious about other things that I am intrigued by and willing to touch my toes in that water. I’m sure that I will develop limits through experimentation and learning... but I think it’s best to keep an open mind...discuss questions and concerns with Daddy before you begin anything new...discuss how I feel about it all with Daddy and make sure that I am honest about it all...and then respect the limits once they have been established...because I believe that we will learn together what our limits are as individuals and in our relationship.

I look forward to the testing periods! Thoughts?

Gender Play  - A type of BDSM play when an individual in a scene takes on the role of the opposite gender.

i have zero experience with this topic. But I am curious to know how it works! What does the power switch look like? How does the dynamic change? 

Tell me!

Fetish Wear - The clothing worn by those who practice BDSM (usually leather attire or other role-playing costumes).  

i personally don’t have any fetish wear. As in the previous blog I don’t have any fetishes but am extremely intrigued by them. I can say that I have tried a variety of lingerie ... it makes me feel sexy, but it’s not used for long! Lol. I’m not a fan of leather...it’s hot as hell after a while! I don’t know why but the stuffed animal fetish or the casplay(?) fetish is interesting to me...

What are yours?

Fetish - An obsession with a specific experience, body part, or object.

I have not found a fetish myself...but I am intrigued by them! I love to read about them and watch. I can’t say anything in particular I’m specifically interested in...but they all make me curious!

What’s your experience?

Female Dominance - When a woman takes the dominant role in a BDSM relationship or scene.

This is something that I have little to no experience with... except for in the work environment. Personally I prefer the submissive role. Even though I’m good at being dominant in my professional life...it doesn’t mean I enjoy it.

I do think female dominance is sexy. Especially when it’s the classy lady in underground red light district 1950’s era type of vibe...but that’s just me! I’ve never got to see it except for the one time we watched the older lady whip her partner at that dungeon we visited...and it was kinda hot! But more so I am fascinated because it’s just not me...

Thoughts?

Edge Play BDSM acts that are considered more intense or dangerous, such as breath play. Not to be confused with “edging” (which is bringing someone to the edge of orgasm and stopping just before they attain it in order to give them a more powerful orgasm in the end), “edge play” means taking a sexual encounter to the very edge of your psychological limits — an intense and erotic walk to the dark side.

I would love to hear some stories about this topic. For me Daddy has only given me brief and short encounters with this topic. Since I came into this relationship green and pretty much inexperienced...he has been very patient with me and has taught me how to trust first and then is slowly introducing me to more.

I have read so many sensual stories...and Daddy has taken me to my limits before so I know how intense things can get personally...but my limits now are pretty short...but they are growing!! But I have also read stories where I am wondering how they were able to push themselves to the limits that would absolutely kill me! Like how long did it take to be able to handle that? 

Tell me your stories!! Give me your tips on how to push yourself more!

Dungeon - A location where BDSM play takes place (usually in a person’s home or at a club).

I am very unfamiliar with this. Once we visited a private dungeon party. It was at a club that we had to request permission for entrance. I was so excited when I received our authorization to join that night. We were going on a trip and this was going to be one of our adventures!

We arrived that night...with my authorization email in hand. They never asked for it...just let us in. Once inside we went into a room that was completely open with different “stations” set up. I’m assuming anyone could use these stations....but we decided to watch.

We watched a couple have sex....missionary style. We watched a man enjoying a woman’s pussy. We watched a woman that was tied to a table have multiple people stimulating her body with all kinds of things...knifes, leather tassels, etc. We watched an older woman that was at least in her seventies tie her husband of the same age to a post and whip him.

Throughout all of this I had so many questions and so did Daddy...and no way to have them answered. No one came to us to explain anything. No one greeted us. I think I was hoping to find people that were like us...and we just had a live version of flipping porn on TV. It could have been erotic but somehow we left disappointed. 

Maybe someone can give me some insight.

Thoughts?

Drop - The physical or emotional exhaustion that takes place after a scene. Both tops and bottoms may experience a drop. Crying, feeling sad, and physical shaking are all signs of a drop. 

I was experiencing “drop” before I even knew what that was. In the beginning of our relationship I blogged about how I was feeling after Daddy went away. Everything from extreme sadness to physically being sick. I was another sub reading my blogs that explained what was happening to me and how I could work through it. She gave me lots of tips from her personal dealings and pointed me in directions to research. After doing my own research and talking with Daddy about how I was feeling....it really helped me learn how to cope. Even now that Daddy doesn’t go away anymore...I still can deal with drop after certain sessions...but mostly it happens if I am away from him for too long.

How do you cope? What kind of aftercare helps you?

Thoughts

Dominant - A person who has the authority in a BDSM relationship or scene.

I would like to hear everyone’s thoughts about if being Dominant makes you a Dom. What are the thoughts about when you can actually be a Dom.

Go...

Contract - An arrangement that outlines the rules and structures of a BDSM relationship. It may be written or oral.

For Daddy and I...we have a written contract. It’s defined with what’s expected of me and of him. I have specific rules that I must follow. These were discussed and agreed upon before we ever went further in our relationship. We are now going on 3 years and still follow our contract.

Our contract is very special to me. It’s the first time there was an outline to how precious I would become to someone. It was the opened me up to a relationship that had no hidden agendas. Everything was discussed, agreed upon and signed. 

Thoughts?