Vetting VS topping from the bottom

Whoa there, before you come any closer with the ropes and canes, there are some things I need to know first. Like how many are tied up in your basement? Chopped up in your freezer or buried in your backyard???
I get it.... Your kinky, I'm kinky so we should be the perfect match. Desirable, succulent kink all rolled into one sweaty hot mess. Kink should be the major factor that will hold us together, showing the world how compatible we are..... NOT!
See, I'm not one to jump head first into the pool without first checking to see if there is any water first. That beautiful swan dive into the pool wouldn't end so beautifully if the pool is empty and you end up a bloody mess. So leave the kink at the door and show who you really are. Are you honest, reliable and sane? Can you be trusted with my words? Do you listen when I speak or interrupt to correct me? Do your words make me cringe and question your intentions? Do I walk away with an uneasy feeling seeing red flags every where I look? Are you someone that leaves me smiling for the rest of day or questioning my self worth? Are you someone that I can be seen in public with without dreading someone might see us? Are you someone I can call as a friend?
I NEED to know who your vanilla side is BEFORE I ever trust the kinky side of you. I will not risk being the one who ends up at the bottom of the empty pool.