Yes, virginia, there really are profiles out there that are blank or almost blank and it does make it hard to know if the person is a serious Dom/Domme slave/submissive or another wannabe.
Okay, so I keep being asked mostly by subs, but even a few Doms, about partially completed or nearly blank profiles and should that be a red flag. Questions are always good. That is how we learn and grow. If a profile has very little information, that, in "my" opinion, it is a red flag. If a profile is nearly blank, I just skip over it and move on to someone who tells me all about themselves. If the members profile shows they just joined in the last week or two, I might send them a welcome message and tell them I am looking forward to reading their profile once it is completed. (HINT HINT)
Whether it is a dominant or submissive, if the person is serious about being here and looking for a partner then why didn't they fill out their profile completely? Here are my biggest pet peeves with a submissive's profile and why. Understand, I’m a Dom, so I don’t spend any time reading another Doms profile unless they ask me to and want my opinion on what they wrote. Then I am happy to help offer suggestions if needed. But what I write below, can just as easily be applied to Dom profiles for submissives looking for their One:
Location: United States - Really??? That is all you want to give me? I live in Seattle, Washington and if you are in Miami, Florida we are not going to meet up for coffee and get to know one another. I can't and won't be moving where I live, so unless you are: a) rich and can afford to fly here often or b) willing to move here and see if we like each other and are compatible, it simply isn't going to work. At the very least put down the nearest major city to where you live and your state.
Age - I'm 65 yo, I don't want a woman who is younger then my daughter (37) as my slave, I don't care how great a body you have or how submissive you think you are. That would just be creepy. Based on your age and the age of the other person, some don't want someone to old, some don't want someone to young. So state your damn age up front. It's not like they won't find out when you meet up and they see you for the first time! The same is true when the profile asks for weight and the entry is left blank. If you are a BBW say so. They will find out when you meet in person anyway so you may as well just say so up front and be done with it.
And the other fields, About me, BDSM and me, and Limits - If they are serious about looking for a partner then I would expect them to list their experience: is it all online, have they any real world experience, if so what specifically; do they have any real world dungeon experience - meaning public play. Some people don't or can't play in a public environment due to their job (CEO, public figure - radio/TV broadcaster, police, doctor, politician, etc.), fear (being naked in front of others not their Dom).
Next do they list their interests, fetishes and proclivities: Do they enjoy Daddy Doms/little girl play, are they a sadist (or masochist if submissive), do they enjoy rough sex or are they more a sensual dominant or submissive. Do they enjoy medical play, gynecological play or needles. Do they enjoy animals, or furries (dressing up like a kitten), do they enjoy impact play? And what is their level of experience with each of the areas that they list?
The whole purpose of filling out the profile is to tell other's, be they dominants or submissives, what you enjoy and want to do or what you do not want to do, so you can identify a partner that might fulfill those needs. So a dominant needs to fill out his/her profile just as thoroughly to help submissives weed out those that don't match their kinks and interests.
This whole process is a dance and I want a good dance partner, one that doesn't step on my toes, kick me in the shins or is unable to follow my lead. If you are a woman, I imagine you don't want a partner they steps on your toes or foot and crushes it sending you to the hospital at worst, or to sit out the rest of the night with ice on your foot at best. You want a partner they will lead you around the dance floor and show you all his/her moves and leave you smiling at the end of the song and wanting to dance to the next song.
There is nothing wrong with being skittish, you should be. If something just doesn't feel right they be wary and move slowly. Look at the date joined. If it is in the last week or two, maybe they simply haven't had time to fill out their profile completely. If they've been here for months and it still includes little then yes, I would wonder why. In my case, I just pass over them, their loss. There are LOTS of profiles and people on here, I'll find the one I want.
Yes, I do apply the above techniques to the submissives that message me. Yes, I've said most if not all of the above things to all of them when I see their profile is almost nonexistent and offered the suggestion that they update their profile if they are serious about looking for someone. I try to help where and when I can. You can lead a horse to water, but if you whip him he'll run away and you have a long walk back to the barn! lol
