HuntertheYeenQueen(dom femme){Allie Kat}

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Ramblings and musings of a fox who is struggling to pull herself together and regain the confidence that was once broken and stripped from her. Will most likely be nothing more than a mind dump when things are getting rough.

Jealousy =/= Lack of Trust

5 years ago. January 9, 2019 at 2:44 PM

Wish people would realize this.

You can be jealous without it having ANYTHING to do with trust.

I'm a rather jealous person. But it's not from having no trust in my love.

Yes, I get jealous if he looks at other people. But, it's not because I worry he's going to want them over me. It's because, umm, I'm right here! Give /me/ your attention!

Yes, I get jealous if he pays more attention to friends rather than me. Not because I think he's bored with me. But because I want /all/ his attention.

Yes, I would get jealous if we were to add another into our household and he played with them on his own or he gave them more attention than me. Not because I fear he'll like them more than me. But because, again, I want his attention.

I get jealous of people who have better jobs than me, because I want what they have.

I get jealous of people with children, because I so /badly/ want a baby right now.

I'm jealous of people who work at home, because I would love to be able to set my own schedule, and be able to help with the house instead of it always being slightly cluttered.

I'm jealous of the people in the theater who are better at acting/singing than me, because I wish I was good.

None of that has anything to do with trust.

But, I'm still a jealous person.

I don't /allow/ myself to give in to these issues - I fight my jealousy daily. I don't allow myself to steal 100% of Wolfy's attention because, let's face it, that's ridiculous. I want it, but I very much accept I can't have it. I don't let my mind bum me out if he does look elsewhere, because two seconds later, those same, gorgeous eyes are right back on me, and in the end, it doesn't matter (Even if it doesn't make sense to me, haha, because of my sexuality). I don't really care if others are better at things than I am, if they have better jobs/homes, or any of that. Because it means I have goals to work to.

I don't /act/ on those jealous emotions (Most days, I mean, I'm human haha). I get over it.

But, I'm still jealous.

And that DOES NOT MEAN I don't trust my husband. Jealousy =/= Lack of trust. More people need to understand that.

I fully agree that it's wrong to be a jealous person but either ignore it or just not do anything to better yourself. But you're not terrible because you're /jealous/. I feel like jealousy is something many people don't understand fully.

And, at the end of the day, my love still loves me regardless of my issues. So... Who are you to judge?

T slave(sub female){Owned} - The green eyed monster can be consuming and if others say it doesn't exist they are liars. But you are on the right track in recognition of it. The emotion can be destructive if it goes unrecognized, by owning it you have won. Peace friend and keep up the fight!

5 years ago

HuntertheYeenQueen(dom femme){Allie Kat} - Thank you. <3 Its a long hard fight but, the alternative of giving in to such emotions is not something I will allow.

5 years ago

Allie Kat(sub trans woman){DarkFox} - Also, im gonna chew the face off the next person who upsets her like this >:3

5 years ago

T slave(sub female){Owned} - Good!

5 years ago

HuntertheYeenQueen(dom femme){Allie Kat} - You're too sweet my love. <3 My protector wolf.

5 years ago

CrimsonPaw - *hugs* sending you happy vibes, forget the haters 🌷

5 years ago

HuntertheYeenQueen(dom femme){Allie Kat} - Thanks Amber <3 *hugs*

5 years ago

Redtailedkitty - I used to be a very jealous person. And it was destructive. However I have since learned there is a distinct difference in being territorial and being jealous. To me, being territorial is wanting all the attention from Sir or even people close to me. Recognizing that helped me to separate those destructive jealous feelings that were born of distrust and fear of abandonment and just wanting him/them all for myself. I no longer fear that I will lose my Sir or that someone else would replace me. But I do have to temper my feelings of being territorial to allow others the freedom to be themselves and love freely.

5 years ago

HuntertheYeenQueen(dom femme){Allie Kat} - I definitely am territorial, at the moment though I do believe those feelings - which Wolfy likes, as it adds to the feeling of being owned - is being kinda clouded by the negative jealousy. I'm having to root through what isnt okay (the jealousy) and get rid of it to make room for the good qualities at play (the territorial nature). To feel like hes mine and make that claim and live up to it, totally fine. But, I get upset over things I know I shouldn't ^^; Haha. But, it's being worked st! Definitely not sitting idly by and allowing it to be a thing.

5 years ago

TreasureMe(sub female) - I love this post so much! Its all so real and factual. My Sir and I are the same way with each other. I thought it would be something that would cause issues between us since he can be mighty jealous. But through our jealousy there's trust and respect at the heart of it all. We don't hide our jealousy from each other, but openly express it. Acknowledging something makes the difference in having control over it and not let it consume us and cause problems. Plus...my Sir and I love expressing our love and desire for each other. So when a jealous feeling comes up and we tell each other, that's just an opening to further reaasure and be expressive of our feelings. Its an obsession and I love it 💗

So screw everyone else Dark. You have a beautiful dynamic with Wolfy and its nobody else's business how you deal in your relationship. Fuck 'em lol 💪👊

5 years ago

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Jealousy =/= Lack of Trust

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