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5 years ago. September 16, 2019 at 1:40โ€ฏAM

Am I a true sub?  This is the question on my mind tonight.  The comment has been made to me on a few occasions, I'm not a sub, I'm simply pretending.   Does being  a sub really mean not having any say?  Does a potential TRUE Master really say they won't rush you but then a couple of days leave a sub and look elsewhere because they aren't moving at their speed?  Is perfection a thing?   Should a sub be ready to conform To a Masters every order immediately?   Maybe I am not a TRUE sub.  What am I?   I don't know.  

Tinysubtreasure​(other female) - YOU ARE A SMART SUB!!! And you ARE a SUB... if you Feel it! He is NOT A TRUE DOM!!! He is USING OUR LIFESTYLE as an EXCUSE to be the ABUSER, & ASSHOLE HE IS!!!!
I’m soooo PROUD of YOU for posting THIS!!! Hopefully YOU are HELPING MANY OTHERS!!! Run FROM HIM!!!!!

Here for YOU.... ANYTIME for ANY REASON ๐Ÿ’•
Thank you for sharing ๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’•
Tiny xo
5 years ago
Tinysubtreasure​(other female) - ... and YOU should ALWAYS have a SAY..... Communication is KEY to a beautiful , caring, loving journey ,relationship together. There is No such thing as Perfection!!!
5 years ago
SirsSunrise​(sub female) - I could’ve written the same words. I feel the same way, but it’s them.... I know who I am. I posted last night on my blog about being frustrated that they feel a sense of either instant ownership, lack of attention to you when they say they want you to be their’s, or you are being disobedient and you’re not a good sub if you don’t fall right into line.. That’s BS. โค๏ธ๐Ÿ˜˜
5 years ago
Tinysubtreasure​(other female) - You are so Very Right SirsSunrise!
There is no such thing as Instant Ownership..., Ever!!! All of this just prompted me to post on my blog ... Please Read.... it should be there right Now. I’m here for any help, searches , whatever questions you may have! Sisters MUST stick together . Hugs... big ones ๐Ÿ˜˜
5 years ago
Devotedsub​(sub female){His} - Thank you ladies. I appreciate the comments. I was in doubt earlier as to what I really was. But as always, I have realized I am NOT the problem. They say they won't rush you and when they do after saying so, they are the ones who should be questioning who THEY are. I am a sub who just wishes to be respected and given a little patience to form that close bond. I do hope this will help others. And so very glad it has already helped some.
5 years ago
Devotedsub​(sub female){His} - In my last comment, I should have mentioned, I'm here to support the best way I can. If you ladies need someone to talk to for any thing, please message me.
5 years ago
SirsSunrise​(sub female) - I will add that being new it’s overwhelming and you’re not sure how you’re supposed to act. But I’ve seen time and time again the ones that demand immediate submission and obedience, never stay around long anyway. They are busy finding the first one that they can control so they are keeping as many options open as possible. Someone who is truly interested in you will be speaking with you on a very lengthy and intimate level to get to know the real you.
5 years ago
Devotedsub​(sub female){His} - I am noticing that as well. But so many will say they are patient and want to go at your pace but turn around and get butt hurt when you aren't living up to their expectations immediately. Then, they talk less and less when they realize you won't and eventually either ghost you or just start looking for someone else. If anyone is. Pretender it is them, not myself and the others out here being treated similarly. It's very frustrating, but I'm glad I have the support of so many on this site who really do understand ๐Ÿงก
5 years ago
SirsSunrise​(sub female) - Having a community where you have support for each other is so important. I made the mistake of jumping into quickly with someone I met here and it did not go well at all. I wish I had made friends prior to that, but it was a learning experience. I gained a better perspective. I will not make the same mistake twice!
5 years ago
Devotedsub​(sub female){His} - Smart. All I have met here have wanted to jump in quickly. They have all start out one way and endrd up being another. They reel you in and once they have you they push push and expect things to happen quickly. I can understand why you jumped in quickly for this reason, but yes, it is smarter to get to know someone. If they are truly interested, they will wait until you're rely ready.
5 years ago
Literate Lycan​(dom male) - Your blog caught me in many ways, probably because I wasn’t thinking other than about my coffee. I concur with much of what the others have said, but would add there is no “one right way” to be a sub or Dom or anything in this life. (Maybe you are a sub 24/7 or maybe just on Tuesdays and Fridays after 6:00 pm) Although there may not be one right way, there are definitely wrong ways to be in my never humble opinion. The way you appear to be going about it sounds very right. As to Perfection, it is what you make of it - including your interactions. You are smart to take your time and let (or force) them get to know you and what you need and expect from your interactions. Your submission should be more earned than given (Whoever receives your gift should earn it - never simply demand it.). Once earned, then you can decide how much you relinquish to someone else. If you consider yourself a sub, then you’re a True sub, you just need to figure out what that means to you (and to whoever you chose to relate to). Best of luck in your adventures.
5 years ago
Morley​(sub female){Max Sterne} - TOTALLY agree with LL here..... Remember it is YOU as the sub who has ALL the power, until YOU find the ONE who YOU CHOOSE to be worthy of your gift! โค๏ธ๐Ÿค—โค๏ธ
5 years ago
LongerJohnny​(dom male){B&C} - I am not particularly fond of terms like "Fake/Real" or "Good/Bad" because they seem to me to be non-applicable, therefore irrelevant, as it is more a case of experience than anything else. You are who you feel/think you are, and yours is the only opinion about that that matters. If the comments here are any indication (and they are!) the majority of us accept you and ourselves and each other and the rest of the world can fuck off.
It pisses me off when any person, D or s, immediately and completely lives down to every bullshit stereotype of our lifestyle because that is an insult to the ones among us who respect it. None of us knows how to manifest an ideal dynamic - or if there is such a way or thing - but I'd say that it begins and ends with 2 people organically becoming a... whatever. Unique, respectful, perhaps opposite but definitely equal.
And at such time as the rest of the world is done fucking off it can concentrate on its own relationships. This one is yours.
4 years ago

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