Roses are red, Bruises are blue

Pumpkin29​(sub female){MrWhite} - 😍
I ask my Sir "tell me Daddy things."
It's our way of achieving the same sentiment

justwatching - I absolutely love this.

cerulean​(switch female) - I love that you found a way to distill your need for affirmation to such a simple and effective format. I have a similar need for words of affirmation that can be overwhelming and drive me to such dark places. It can be difficult for me to communicate what I need to hear, particularly when I need to hear it most because that is when I'm farthest from feeling it. I love reading your posts and hope to learn from the communication I see evident in your relationship. You are both such precious people and I feel honored and blessed to know you.

AKittenforSir​(sub female){JohnBond} - I know you’re married and live in the same house so this may seem silly, but have you tried writing letters instead of talking it out? Maybe you should try emailing each other while he’s at work or leaving handwritten letters in the morning for him to take with him. I have A LOT of trouble vocalizing my thoughts and emotions, and Sir is very well aware of this which is why he tries so hard to read my face all the time. Sometimes when no amount of prodding gets him the way explanation he seeks, he’ll order me to write to him (though it’s been awhile since we’ve had to do that). I’ve found that once I start writing it all comes pouring out. Pressing the send button is the hardest part but I usually feel so much better after I do.

cerulean​(switch female) - have written a bit to try explain my needs in the past. Recently, I wrote a list for him of things that I like, sexual and nonsexual, in an effort to help him understand. It took me four days and left me emotionally exhausted and beyond vulnerable to simply terrified by his potential reaction. My attempts to communicate have so often gone poorly. But I did it, and I made myself hand it over. Fortunately he reacted well. Even so I ended up crying and had to be comforted. I felt stupid having to labor so hard at such a list after 18 years of marriage. I don't know why I am so difficult to understand. I started my blog also hoping to put some words to my feelings over time, to make them clear. I've mentioned it to him but he didn't seem curious to read it. It's been dark so far and would probably only hurt him anyway, which I never want to do, but I've been feeling a need to solidify my thoughts into words and observe them. I would love to reach a point where my thoughts didn't frighten him. He was afraid to read my list, which made it all the harder to hand over.

cerulean​(switch female) - I wrote him again today and he responded well. I do feel better. He also said earlier that he is taking me out for a surprise tonight. I'm excited :)

*side note: I only deleted my other comment in order resend it as a reply. I hit the wrong button the first time.

Thank you for encouraging me!

AKittenforSir​(sub female){JohnBond} - Awe yay! I know it’s scary to be so open, especially when there’s a good chance it might not be well received. That’s partly why I suggest giving him the letter when he’s at work or on his way. So he can think about it for awhile before he has to respond. And that way you don’t have to be there sitting and waiting while he reads and he isn’t forced to respond right then.

Even if one letter ends up not being received well, if writing is easier for you than talking I would still encourage you to continue in the future.

cerulean​(switch female) - Comment deleted by poster.

venia​(sub female){notlooking} - I love this so much.