In blog comments and in the forums, both Sir and I have commented more than once on the topic of “brats”. It seems to be a hot topic issue; with many subs on The Cage identifying as a brat and the Doms on The Cage being split between the opinions of “Brats are a lot of fun” and “Brats aren’t really submissives”.
I’ve also seen many debates about what exactly is a “brat.” Both Sir and I will say to the community that I am not a bratty type of sub, which is true. But when we’re alone Sir has given me his quirked eyebrow and said “you’re being a little bit of a brat today”, which is also true.
So why is that? Am I really a brat or not?
I think this can best be answered with examples:
Brat
Sir: Little girl, you better stop that.
Brat: *giggles and continues to do the thing*
Sir: Do you want spanks?
Brat: No Sir *giggles and still continues to do the thing*
Sir: You’re going to be in so much trouble.
Brat: *smirks looking forward to whatever punishment is to come*
My Version
Sir: Kitten, you better stop that.
Me: *immediately stops* Awe, you’re no fun
Sir: Is that so? *arched eyebrow*
Me: No Sir, you’re very fun *nervous giggle*
Brat
Brat: *turns on radio*
Sir: Ugh, this song is so annoying
Brat: *turns it up really loud and starts singing along* I’m sorry Sir, what was that? I can’t hear you over this awesome song!
My Version
Me: *turns on radio*
Sir: Ugh, this song is so annoying
Me: *immediately turns it to a song I know he likes*
Sir: Thank you, kitten
Me: You’re welcome Sir. I know you’re more of the elevator music type.
Sir: …
Me: What? *innocent face*
So in the world of Sir and kitten, a little sass here and there is our version of a bratty kitten. However, defiance or intentionally frustrating or annoying Sir would not be appreciated or tolerated, even if the intention is playful. I don’t need to be forced to submit, I offer my submission eagerly. I don’t need to be reminded who’s boss, I know exactly who I belong to. I enjoy the flare of a fiery flame in Sir’s eyes; but I prefer that to be the response to his naked quivering prey, not because he feels challenged.
So am I a brat? I think that depends on who you ask. A very strict Master would probably say yes and a playful Daddy would probably say not at all.
Sir’s answer? Depends who’s asking.
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