Mind of a Raeven

Jack in the box -
If it is a recurring pattern Ms Storm, you may consider the possibility it is something in you - something you are doing, or the choices of whom you are doing them with. You should also take into consideration the percentage of "serious" out there,. . . just say'n.
Be patient, the one you seek is out there seeking you. 😚⚘

Sweet Ginger​(sub female){⚓ } - I agree with Jack and also perhaps to look at it in the perspective that when you mail someone or they land in your mailbox, you are getting to know that person and they're getting to know you. Friendship should be the foundation, first. If something develops into something better then that's great! If that person decides for whatever reason not to continue getting to know you. Then spend your time and energy on someone else.just my thoughts.

Master Rob - But lets say you are doing everything right and something happens. This may not be your fault or anyone’s fault. Lets say your other partner is just as serious about this as you are. Lets give everyone the benefit of the doubt. (I know there are many fakes out there). Talking over the internet is so one dimensional. You are not able to hear one’s tone and intonation or see this person. So lets say, ur relationship goes further to skype, facetime and even telephone. Still not the same as IRL. We make do with what we have. Covid and other complications of life get in the way. It simply is not a good match. Please remember, matching in bdsm is two fold, not only should you match in vanillaish ways, (likes, dislikes, republican, democrat, similar interests in movies and reading book, etc) but also must match in bdsm kinks. It’s twice as hard to match here. Not impossible. Stay focus, stay calm, remember to better yourself and try and make yourself happy. Oh, and the simple answer to why we do this, is because the whole is so much more than the individual parts. The dynamic of the partnership creates intimacy, love,, caring, and support. (Along with the kinks). That is why. Good luck.

TreasureMe​(sub female){Belonging} - I honestly agree with all the above comments, greatly. But from another perspective, maybe your answer is in the question you're asking. "Why?" Why continue to do the same thing when, clearly, what you're doing isn't working?Ultimately, the things that don't work out are for our benefit, because that relationship clearly wasn't meant to be. The disappointment is real and its ok to feel it. To go through the motions of losing something you wanted. But maybe going slower would be helpful. Maybe not getting your hopes up before you're in a solidified and established dynamic would also be helpful. Perception is everything and the mind is incredibly powerful. You change your perception on the way you think and approach this and im sure you'll have more positive outcomes. Even if things don't work out, you're that much closer to the One that does and you'll be less negatively affected on the journey.

Sweet Ginger​(sub female){⚓ } - I agree and sometimes with written text miscommunication confuses things. If it's in the early stages of things and one of you decides to stop chatting for whatever reason things just didn't click but perhaps you've gained a friend and as I mentioned earlier, I'm a firm believer that there has to be a foundation of friendship first.

Also, to be fair it goes both ways. Haven't you ever chatted with someone and felt. You just didn't see it going further for whatever reason then a friendship??

Everyone is different. I don't feel that I need someone who likes everything I do. As long as we can respect each other's differences. Some things in life as well as within a dynamic are hard limits and some things can be negotiable as long as it's done respectfully. I feel, the best approach is just chat with others as people, let things flow organically and see what happens...Best of luck to you!

StormRaeven​(sub female) - Thank y'all for the comments and yes I have thought about all of what has been said.