Adine's thoughts

TheWhorelock​(dom male) - Absolutely. I’ve met plenty of both, though the bullies and asses didn’t have any partners, while the others often had multiple.

Max Heathen​(other male) - Think that would depend on the slaves willingness to please in no matter what is being requested. "Complete Control" while asking for loving kindness mixed with Strict and controlling, is usually a fantasy of the slave without details. "I want this, but do that, causing an adverser reaction that may be correctly reacted to by the master from his point of view while totally the wrong response by the slave's point of view... however... the slave's point of view was for Complete Control... either learn the words you're wishing to convey in a Master, or accept his version.

Jack in the box -
Agreed.

Justme26 - Actually I think you are asking rather a lot. You could find a master and try to change them into what you want, but then you would be the master in all but name.

Having said that there is a difference between a bully and a strict sadist.

LongerJohnny​(dom male) - To your first question - Absolutely yes, such a person does exist. Forcing obedience is not the same as demanding it, and if a Master must use force to achieve complete control or the right to demand anything from his slave then he has mastered nothing but the art of being an asshole.

But the answer to your second question is a little more tricky. Even if it is too much to "ask" it is not too much to want. You can want anything. When I was a teenager I wanted to be a rockstar but I didn't grow my hair, buy a second-hand guitar, rent a tour bus, and perform in front of millions of adoring fans all over the world.
What we want is not always feasible. Or reasonable.
In your case a lot depends on everyone's expectations and understanding of words like kind and loving, strict and controlling. One slave might think that her Master exercising complete control over her is very kind, and in fact is the height of his love for her. Perhaps some would argue that unless he is strict then she could never fully realize her potential as a slave which is something they both want. Or that if he is too strict he runs the risk of being one of those bullies you mentioned. Others might just see all those things being as being beside the point.
I would suggest conversation and caution about these things before you accept your role in any dynamic. Make sure you are prepared to submit fully to your Master because, while you can want all you want, as a slave you forfeit your opportunity to ask for anything.

Adinesidhe - Thank you very much for your explanation! It gives me quite abit to think about. It also explains alot about some of the messages I receive.

Cummalot​(dom male) - I understand what you’re saying