Adine's thoughts

As dominants, what do you look for in an s-type? 

Men, what do you look for in a woman? 

What makes you look take one look at a message or profile and say "Nope", and why?

I am struggling with something that is really confusing.

I want a loving Commited relationship were both parties trust, respect and treat each other with care and dignity.

At the same time I want to be tied up and used to satisfy his needs. with no rights or choice of my own. Just a thing for him to use as he desires.

How can these two co-exist?

I meet someone who wants to use me but they don't respect me or care about me outside of wanting to use me as a sex toy.

Or I will meet someone who is sweet and respects me, but doesn't want to own or treat me like an object.

Its like I cant have one with out the other and its driving me coocoo for cocoa puffs.

There is like a razor fine line that I dont know how to balance on.

How can I bring these to sides of me into harmony?

A random thought popped into my head recently.

Most doms or masters I have spoken to want their subs or slaves naked at all times while at home.
I dont like being naked. Mostly because I do not think my form is attractive.

So I have come up with something of a compromise.

I dont know if this is something a master or dom would agree to or not. Let me know in the comments.

Paper clothing.

They're also not very comfortable.

I'm not sure if a potential dom or master would agree to such a compromise.

What are ya'lls thoughts?

For the longest time, I had no clue what I found attractive in a guy. That is until a few days ago when I saw a video of a guy with broad shoulders, and muscley arms walking into a room.
He was wearing the shoes, slacks, shirt with rolled-up sleeves, tie, and vest...and he had this look in his eye that had me breaking out in a sweat... All he was doing was pulling on a pair of leather driving gloves. All I can say is Yikes!

I have never had that kind of nervous excitement in my life. I wasn't sure if I wanted to stand there and stare with drool dribbling down my chin and a stupid look on my face until he had me in those big, leather-clad, hands of his or to run for the hills as if my chastity depended on it. Which to be honest it probably would have.
All I knew was I need to make sure my clothing hadn't turned to ash from the look in his eyes. It was only a flipping video!
I'm also 36 years old one would think I would have known what was detrimental to my health by now. You can't do that to a girl!
That look alone should be classified as armed and extremely dangerous.

I still think a guy in jeans and a cowboy hat is good-looking. But, unfortunately, this country girl's head has been turned by a suit with rolled-up sleeves.

Dear Sir,

If we have reached this point where I forever belong to you. Please know that I accepted you as you before I ever knelt before you. Not your wealth or your position. Not because your Dominant or have great bondage skills.. But because of who you are as a person.
You won the battle! Defeated all of the walls, gates and barriers. Discovered all of my defensive positions around my heart and taken possession of me. I am honored that you chose me to own over the beauties and those alot less difficult then I. I am not beautiful, wealthy or sex crazy, I am strong willed and stubborn.
But, I am also strong, loyal, loving and supportive. Under your owner and leadership may I be molded to your desires

Forever yours

Aedine 

I am a slave. I seek to give myself freely to be an object for my owner to do with as he sees fit. What my Master wants I must do voluntarily or be punishment and forced to do what he desires.
Why do I want to be such a slave? because I want that kind of control that kind of structure. The control once offered taken from me and not returned.
I need a Master who wants to watch me flourish, submissively, professionally, and personally, but at the same time maintaining a firm hold on his collar.

My goal is to be a slave, or as true to the definition as legally and ethically possible. But, I want to be a loving slave. One who knows her owner loves her just as much. Not some cowering creature to terrified to do anything else. I can promise you, the last bit will never happen.

The down side to this goal is at the moment I am not submissive. So, I need to find someone, or someone to find me, who is able to bring that part of me out into the open.

I do not want anything one sided. In my experience real honest to God relationships dont work that way. Both parties must be willing and determined to make it work through hell and high water. I must want to be a slave, and be willing to be obedient to that person. He must want a slave and be willing to assert his control and make me obey.

When I say "make me obey", I'm not saying bring down the hammer and sickle. Though there maybe days where he may have to lay down the law, most of the time all it would take is fostering an environment where I want to please him because I love him.

There are a few things that are needed to make this happen. First of all we need to be attracted to each other. If either party cringes when looking at the other, it's just not going to work.

Next he has to me at lest be as strong or strongerthen I am. Mentally,  emotionally, physically, and spiritually.  The slave can not be stronger then the Master.

He must be patient. I am going to screw up. Not on purpose mind you, but it will happen. I am the farthest thing from perfect. There will also be disagreements, some of them instigated by me, and if I cross a line I must be held accountable. But it should be done when the both of us have had time to cool our tempers. If I blow up unjustly on someone I really care about and have had time to reflect on it. I will be sorry and will despratly want to make it right. That is the time when we should sit down and discuss what went wrong. And if needed punishment should be administered. Otherwise hostility will grow.

This is also something that should be done in layers. bits of control surrendered here and there. I am not just going to instantly drop to my knees and grovel at his feet. Discussion and time is needed. Discussion on our wants limits needs and expectations. Time for me to get used to and adapt to submitting, following and obeying someone else. And for him to learn and understand who I am and how I tick. I'm 34 years old and have been on my own since I was 18. It's going to take some time to get used to the Idea of not only submitting but having someone else in my life.

I know it's not going to be easy or quick. but. It's a goal I want to accomplish with someone I care about.

Is there such a thing as a Master who wants complete control over a slave and demands obedience with out being a bully or an ass? 

Is it too much to ask for that person to also be kind and loving while also strict and controlling?

I am tired of people telling me That I have to change one thing or another about myself before we even start getting to know one another.

"Well You wont be working."
"Your too fat your going to loose weight."
"I don't like the kind of cloths you wear."
"I am an atheist and don't want to hear about your faith."
"I'm going to throw this or that out and make you wear or do this or that."

You know what ass wipe, go frag your self. If you don't like me as me then don't even bother messaging me cause it ain't going to work.

I can be reasonable, I don't have a problem changing some things about myself for someone I love and am in a relationship with but it will be MY choice. If I am in a dynamic with someone and have given up said choice, I will ASK if I can change that part of myself for them.
Other then that I am me. Don't like it? You know where the door is don't let it hit ya where the Lord split ya.

Hey everyone. 

I have had several Dom/Masters messaging me either here or on fet and ask if I would be interested in being Mentored.  Now, I know what being mentored means, but how on earth does one get mentored in the lifestyle?