Men are problem solvers by nature. We hear the problem and BAM our minds go into “Ok here’s what you need to do” mode.
And that’s great, that’s how we are designed, logical thinking problem-solving machine.
But when it comes to women and relationships, we have to put our logic on pause sometimes and just be present.
In my experience a woman does not need a man to solve her problems ( unless she asks us to)
Have you ever had your Sub come to you with a problem she’s having?
Perhaps it’s with her boss at work or her relationship with her family, friend etc, and by the end of the discussion you’re left feeling like you only compounded the problem by helping?
When she comes to me with a concern or problem, I've learned to listen actively.
And eventually ask “ are you sharing for me to listen or to offer my thoughts” and she will tell me what she needs from me at that time.
Now not every problem or discussion is always met with that response, sometimes it’s clear what she needs to hear from me. Even in those situations I always ask clarifying questions.
In most cases, she wants me to be present with her, to allow her space and attention while unveiling her mind and emotions of what distresses her.
And once she feels your presence, she will appreciate you in very special ways.
At least in my experience.
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