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Dilemma

2 years ago. December 13, 2021 at 10:30 PM

Recently someone asked me for some advice about a situation with a Dom they were "aware of." I'm not betraying any confidence by sharing this so lets get some opinions.
(can be adjusted to suit the point of view of a sub)

The Hypothetical Situation:
The Dom in question is attractive, funny and smart; a strong Dom and a decent person. He is well liked and respected among his peers.

- He has close ties with 5 subs,
- He is very attracted to 4 of them,
- 3 of them might even be into him,
- The remaining 2 are presently unavailable,
- He could only have 1 anyway because, as much as he would love to claim all of them, all are opposed to poly.

The Problem:
He is single, and like all of us he has desires and needs.
He likes all 5 subs so he couldn't just arbitrarily pick one, or just play with all of them, or just find some random hookup, and he can't just sit and do nothing at all, but he is hesitant to look elsewhere lest he should miss an opportunity with one of these subs.

So - what do you suggest that he do?

This is the only information you have to formulate a plan of action.
I am going to post this in both blogs and forums so that we can get as many comments as possible.

TakenLower - It sounds like he’s trying to choose which slice of meat he wants from a party platter. Can’t make a decision? Step away from everyone, do some introspection and self analysis, figure out what you want before you start considering options. And don’t talk to five at once.

2 years ago

Morley(sub female){Max Sterne} - Ooooo this is a good one. My advice would be that they tape each name on a wall, get a dart and close their eyes and throw.... Hehehehe.😂

Okay in all seriousness. I'd say first and foremost, they should find out if the others are truly interested too. If they are, then talks should be had about if they're a good fit in most ways. If they do this with more than one, they should be honest about that. It's all about informed consent. Then, from there, if there's one that's meant to be, it will be. It's a tricky situation that's for sure.

I'm interested to see others views.

2 years ago

LongerJohnny(dom male){B&C} - As is so often the case, I agree with you.
As far as I know it is all hypothetical, but my first thought was "Dude, you convinced 5 subs to talk to you - and 3 actually like you?"
I'm curious too!

2 years ago

Sir Don(dom male){Nt looking} - In my opinion, as if it matters.
Said Dom should take a inward look at his self. Focus on the one he is drawn too and pursue her. Being upfront with all involved. But it sounds as if he (the Dom) is hedging his bets.
Stringing one ( or four) along just in case. That doesn't sound like a trustworthy Dom. Make a decision and stand on his decision. This sounds like a recipe for disaster.. again for what it is worth.

2 years ago

ButterfliesAndCuffs(sub female){LJ} - First off, I’m with the rest. I can’t imagine having that many viable options. He needs to figure out which one he’s actually interested in. To me, it sounds like he’s letting his basic needs overcloud his thinking so everyone is starting to look like a possibility.

2 years ago

flitter'fly(sub female) - Honestly, ( I have been pondering this since reading, I have come up with several different things as well that he could or should do. )

But
Bottom line is this.

When really thinking on the situation and what this Dom is doing.

Sounds as if, he wants his cake and to eat it to.
Sounds as if, any one of these subs hapoen to choose him as a Dom.
That they will not be able to trust him. That In fact he will countinue this charade.

He's talking to ( five ) none are into poly.
Two of which are off the market.

He's already doing so many fucked up
Red Flag Bull Shit
That they should all flee and fast.

Just my opinion.

2 years ago

flitter'fly(sub female) - Happen

2 years ago

SweetSirRendering(sub female) - Comment deleted by poster.

2 years ago

Morley(sub female){Max Sterne} - Comment deleted by poster.

2 years ago

SweetSirRendering(sub female) - i have nothing fresh to add, as i agree with aspects of others’ responses.

i’m so monogamous i cannot even fathom this conundrum 😅. not said as a judgment, i simply can only see the One im focussed on and only focus on someone that fully aligns with me.

this person needs to explore what they want. if they are poly and want a poly relationship, they will need to avoid the monogamous. do they want play? something serious? open to possibility for something serious to develop? what is the end goal here? what can he give to the chicks? what do they want? what, if anything, aligns?

this doesn’t necessarily look like anything that sounds like kismet to me…

at least not from the perspective of a monogamous chick with special hair (hehe had to play with morley’s hair)

2 years ago

Morley(sub female){Max Sterne} - Oh my fucking word, I'm girl crushing on you now!!! I can't stop.laughing!! 🤣

If I ever go back to premium, I will.do the recording of Morley's Special Hair (I laugh through the whole thing). But the poem/story itself is fucking priceless!!! 😂🤣😂

2 years ago

SweetSirRendering(sub female) - i absolutely need that in my life. my premium drops on the 18th since i’m not using it much these days :)

2 years ago

Morley(sub female){Max Sterne} - I think our friend has a recording of it he can share with you! It might just give his Cowboy audio a run for its money!!! 🤣😂🤣

2 years ago

ButterfliesAndCuffs(sub female){LJ} - I for one would love to hear it! I’ve seen it mentioned a couple times on the blogs. Sounds hilarious!

2 years ago

LongerJohnny(dom male){B&C} - I might actually still have that recording!
I bet I can post that for you. It was fucking hilarious.

2 years ago

Bunnie - Why is he hesitating? I think perhaps when he answers that question within himself honestly, that’s where he’ll find his solution.

2 years ago

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