3 Years. Kinda snuck up on me a little.
I joined thecage on September 9, 2019 which makes today my 3 year anniversary! I've been trying to remember it all...
I've crossed paths with a lot of nutty people along the way, some of whom have gone on to become friends outside this site, including one incredible person in particular who means so much to me because she changed my life. Of course I mean my very own precious sub, my dirty whore, my most prized possession, ButterfliesAndCuffs. I Love you.
I've heard of this thing called "math" but we don't speak the same language and unfortunately that makes communication between us difficult. If I could understand it better I might be able to total how many blog and forum posts I've written; how many comments I've made on those written by other members. Probably something close to... a whole bunch. After all, 3 years is a long time, plus I use both hands and most of my fingers to type so that seems a fair estimate.
In that time I've given a lot of advice, solicited and otherwise, for better or worse. I've told a lot of truly hilarious jokes, written a few unforgivably awful poems, composed a couple original songs, participated in some interesting challenges, and gotten in several heated arguments. Sometimes I was even right.
These are things that we've all done, or could all do, and I'm very happy to have done them here with a group of weirdos like myself. But we each take our own separate journeys too, and likewise I've taken mine. Along the way I've learned a lot more about who I am.
For example, in my teens I had never even heard the word "fetish" but by my early 20s I had already learned that "watersports" was one of mine. Over the next 20 years I discovered new urges like bondage and impact and S/m, and it was then that I began to feel increasingly dominant in my relationships. But it wasn't until around 5 years ago that I learned there are dedicated websites and things called "Doms." Until then I had always thought I was the only one who regularly felt and acted that way.
(Ironically, it turned out that the person who introduced me to my first BDSM website was someone I was briefly involved with who, I later learned, was what was referred to as a masochist slave. I didn't know she identified as such, I just knew she liked being treated in particular ways. I thought she, like myself, had her own unconventional urges.)
Just as with each of my initial exposures to different kinks, interacting with my people here and within the broader BDSM community further showed me that I was never the only one who felt those strange urges, or who had unconventional relationships, and it has helped me better clarify why I do my thing, and why I feel more like 'me' in a place like this than I do out in the "real world."
So here's to 3 years, to this community of ours, to all the fun, weird shit we get up to. And to all of us.
Thanks
LJ
