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3 months ago. Apr 20, 2020, 6:23 AM

Why I don't care much for the phrase "good girl".

I think it's the norm when your sub/pet/slave is being well behaved and obedient to use the phrase "good girl".. I'm not writing this you drag the phrase, in fact I absolutely LOVE LOVE LOVE feeling like a good girl. Let me start off with a little insight to my work day so you can see where I'm coming from. Anyone who knows me, and knows me well, it's aware that I'm a bit of a workaholic. I thrive in my workplace. I truly believe that I will not only succeed but I would excel in anything I put my mind to do. Tonight was no different. I'm a cook ( though I'm really an artist at heart) and today we got rocked I can hardly feel my feet. I didn't have time to eat. And apparently I'm rhyming. I'm the smallest person in the kitchen and the only female. (Off topic but I'm bragging) anyways after 4 straight hours of getting f-ed in the hiney with only myself and my manger in the building he pulled me to the side and told me how impressed he was with my work. He thought I was surely going to break but that I had surprised him. THAT to me felt like I had been pet on the head and told I was the best girl ever. It felt like a flipping high and I was giddy the rest of the shift. (I hid it well but I wanted to jump up and down like a school girl, maybe clap my hands and do a little dance)  I earned that praise. I worked my behind off for it. It meant something.

Ok with that being said here's why I don't feel that way towards the phrase "good girl". I have recieved too many messages in the past where Doms would say it without meaning? For example, someone would ask me for my favorite color and after answering they would say "good girl"... Why am I a good girl? For telling you my favorite color or because my favorite color is yellow? Is it possible you also liked the color yellow and that made you believe that I am a good girl? You hardly know me. What if I like the color yellow because it reminds me  that one time I saw a yellow school bus run over a little old lady and her new born kitten on their way to donate blood to an orphanage? I could be a sick human being. I did nothing to earn that phrase. And I feel like many Doms know it's a weakness for subs so they look for any little excuse to use it. That's like knowing I get sexy when you touch my leg and so you touch my leg every chance you get. It starts to lose its appeal, frankly. I'm not bashing the phrase at all but it would mean SO much more if it was used at the appropriate (or inappropriate times) and if it was truly earned in my opinion. 

Jack in the box -
Very well said - good girl 😊

Sorry - just play'n 😏
Nice blog 👍
3 months ago
BeeGee​(sub female) - Lol thank you!!
3 months ago
LongerJohnny​(dom male) - No matter what words we use you are still my avorite loveypants and in the world. And I'm so proud that you are my person. And you are not just good - you are amazing! Always.
3 months ago
BeeGee​(sub female) - You're so sweet to me bugger 🍕❤
3 months ago
SirsBabyDoll​(sub female) - "I'm the smallest person in the kitchen and the only female. (Off topic but I'm bragging)"- you ain't just a food girl....you ROCK! Being the only woman in back-of-the-house....that's a tough climate. Great job!!!
3 months ago
BeeGee​(sub female) - Thank you love! I've often been told I have a front of the house face with a bavk of the house attitude lol
3 months ago
BeeGee​(sub female) - Back *
3 months ago
SirsBabyDoll​(sub female) - Back of House is funner tho....
3 months ago
BeeGee​(sub female) - I couldn't agree more!
3 months ago
SirsBabyDoll​(sub female) - I job shadowed an employee as part of MY job. He was a dishwasher who had ADHD...severe...I loved the environment.
3 months ago
BeeGee​(sub female) - Honestly it feels like home to me. It's an environment where team work is fundamental and I thrive in it
3 months ago
SirsBabyDoll​(sub female) - And you get to run your mouth...except the Chef....you don't do that to Chef.
3 months ago
BeeGee​(sub female) - Lol idk me and chef run our mouth to each other all the time. But more in a playful manner
3 months ago
SirsBabyDoll​(sub female) - Yeah, well, THATS different...but you don't say 'fuck you asshole' to Chef in the same time/intent as you do to say, prep....you are NOT equal (in my experience) and Chef can can your ass if you go too far....now OUTSIDE of the kitchen, hells yeah.....'fuck you asshole'!'...lol
3 months ago
BeeGee​(sub female) - Haha I am not that brave to go that far lol
3 months ago
SirsBabyDoll​(sub female) - That's why I've never worked in the restaurant business....lol....
3 months ago
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3 months ago
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3 months ago
Bunnie - Oh to be able to edit :/
Third time’s a charm...

Completely agree. I actually find it quite repelling seeing someone throw it around so casually. And if someone that I don’t belong to... or even know, says it to me? Yuck. Those types of Doms use it like trying to offer candy to a child they’re trying to coax into their car... well that’s how I tend to see it anyway lol. As much as I love candy. And cars. Pass.
However, if it comes from someone I do belong to... or at least highly respect... music to this heart :)
3 months ago
LongerJohnny​(dom male) - Bunnie, it may surprise you to know that as a Dom I have gotten the same thing, but from the other side of the slash. Whenever I've met a sub and her first words were "yes sir" I've told her "you have not earned the right to call me that, nor have I to call you sub."
Just like you seem to I find it not only presumptuous, but disrespectful but insulting when those terms are used gratuitously or inappropriately. Oh, but when the right person says it... yes, I get what you mean.
3 months ago
Bunnie - @ LongerJohnny, oh yes, definitely... I’m under no illusion that it doesn’t occur to Dominants just as much. Many friends have complained of the same thing :(
3 months ago
Kitten135​(sub female){Dragon11} - If I may point out a different pov? I've actually had this issue from the beginning, as for me sir doesn't resonate as highest respect. Only Daddy Dragon was Sir at one point in our dynamic, and I politely asked to change that.
I say sir at least 30 times a day at my job. It is always respectful, but it is something that was ingrained into me from a young age. I was informed that people who are due respect are Mr or Ms/Mrs or sir/ma'am. While a Dom may not have my submission, as a Dom they have my respect and are therefore given sir/ma'am. I try to make a distinction with upper and lower case when typing, but truly mean it as no disrespect.
3 months ago
BeeGee​(sub female) - I feel like this dynamic and a job dynamic is different. I use sir and ma'am at work and when I'm addressing someone older with more authority or just in general. I'm really a chronic user. When I answer my boss it's always "yes sir" " yes boss". But I can completely see what you mean.
3 months ago
Bunnie - Definitely a good point.
3 months ago
Jack in the box -
I know right!?

Dear cage staff,
How bout some edit capabilities up in here 😏
Sincerely,
Jak. Doh!
3 months ago
Azzabackam​(other male){PawPawGirl} - Some people don't really care about connecting with people. They just throw around key words and hope it sounds appealing. I love being told "I love you" by a partner, but there's a difference between the "we're just saying goodbye on the phone" saying of it, and the "looking into each others' eyes after a romantic dinner and four hours of tantric sex" saying of it. When it comes to "good girl", I'm a bigger fan of developing pet names organically, and using those instead.
3 months ago
BeeGee​(sub female) - I don't have one (important) person in my life that I call by their name and not one that has the same nickname as another. I think it's more meaningful like that
3 months ago
LongerJohnny​(dom male) - As a kid I was told to say sir and ma'am to everyone just because, and I got in big, big trouble when I didn't. I didn't understand it and I was afraid to get in trouble and I hated it. It wasn't until I was an adult and began using and hearing those words as signs of deference and respect that I realized how stupid just saying them was. The better lesson would have been about respecting people, not about pretending to by rote.
As far as pet names - 👖 (only 1 person here understands what I mean by that.)
3 months ago
BeeGee​(sub female) - Pants pants (answer my text)
3 months ago

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