I am enough

My name is my mantra. Even though not everyone treats me like I am enough. I know that I am enough for someone.

I met a Dom, he was an amazing Dom!! He knew how to calm me down and picked appropriate punishments as we had just met and he had just started his training. You see I am flighty. If something scares me or I feel I have disappointed I run and hide. A reaction I have had since I was a child and never outgrew. For this reason I need a daddy who can calm me down and let me know I did wrong and why. I can then accept the punishment easier. But it didn't work out between us. He was the Dom I was looking for but not the man I was looking for. I want both a Dom and a Man. He wanted a sugar mama. One who would buy him a house and land. He wanted me to buy him cars. He wanted to be able to lay on the couch and watch shows all day while I worked, took care of my kids and did his to do list. I am not a slave I am a sub. I was a slave already and refuse to go back to that. My money is my money. I have a very strict diet that I have to maintain in order to be healthy. I can't eat any animal products or my moods change too drastically. I wish I could eat whatever I wanted. But in order to focus, listen and obey I must eat the vegan way. This particular Dom wanted me to buy his food and fix it for him while I ate the food I need to which would have been fine had he given me money to buy his food. When I told him he had to buy his own food and keep it separate so not to contaminate mine he was shocked that he had to buy his own food. I am sorry but I am not rich by any means. I can afford me and my kids. If you are my Dom and we live with you or you with us, you must be able to care for yourself. For if you cannot take care of yourself how do you expect to take care of us. I learned recently that in order to show I can care for a Dom I must first take care of myself. The same goes for a Dom. Doms lead by example as well as words. If you want a clean house you must first be able to have a clean organized house! Otherwise when you task me at cleaning and you don't even know where to put things how would I know where things go! So where this Dom was great at being a Dom he was not the man I was looking for.

I am sharing this in hopes a new sub or one who is looking knows that there is a difference between the Dom side and the personal side of a man and make sure they both match up to what you are looking for.

ulfhednar - Darling you were right even a slave prior to a contract still has a right to set boundries no ifs ands or butts unless its the mutal happy sexy butt wiggles to music but seriously if you or a lord have specific nutrieitonal needs then those needs should be met on equal grounds and ffs this is not a site for people looking for suger mamas or daddys this is not a dating site though absolutly nothing wrong if that level of connection arises between two people as time passes and you and the lord or madame should always put all aspects of their health first mental pyshical and spiritual first as well as family above all else if it feels off or your gut is telling you its wrong then forcing it is like trying to cover up bad cooking by over compensating with spices its a reciepe for disaster good on you for spotting this before it got worse

4 years ago

I am enough(sub female) - Thank you.

4 years ago

ulfhednar - Happily and now because sounds like you could use i give you roller coaster hands 🙌

4 years ago

StarkRost(dom male) - Congratulations! Great decision. The important lesson for other subs is that you always have the right to say "no" and MUST firmly exercise that right when a Dom fails in his responsibility to you. You saved you and your children from a great deal of harm and anguish. No matter how much a sub wants and/or needs a Dom, your ex-Dom's expectations were inexcusable unless that was clearly agreed to upfront (I hate to have had to write those last 7 words in this particular thread but we are part of a lifestyle that has a very wide variety of kinks and needs and as much as some lifestyle choices and practices may turn me off or even disgust me, I believe I have no right to judge what two adults of sound mind agree to, there is no doubt that some would not like some of my choices).

4 years ago

Satindragon - Thank you for such a great blog. I hope that it is read by many. You are spot on with making sure both side of the man are what you are looking for.

4 years ago

wildkitten{Misteradda} - Well said, many need to hear this

4 years ago

Ingénue{VK} - I like how you've made use of a difficult experience to support others. Nicely done.

4 years ago

I am enough(sub female) - Thank you. I try to pass on the knowledge that I learn in hopes others can use it.

4 years ago

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