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Just my thoughts and ramblings. Some pictures sprinkled in for fun.
4 years ago. July 15, 2020 at 7:58 PM

I have baby boomer parents. They are approaching their mid to late 50's. In turn, along with this crazy year, my parents are starting to go crazy. I can not tell you how many times I've had to fact check their conspiracy theories. Even with FACTUAL evidence, I'm just biased and I'm getting my info wrong. 🤦‍♀️ The latest phone call ended in a screaming match between my father and I. I felt berated and belittled for being concerned about my parents lack of pandemic measures. My parents love to entertain themselves such as: movies, races, restaurants. You know, places with larger crowds. They have been going out to eat, not wearing masks, and telling me that I "take this too seriously".

I'm at my wits end with them. MR and I decided that we will distance myself from my family. If they don't take the proper precautions, then we just won't be around them. This is for my own sanity and well being. I can't keep worrying over my family anymore. This is so out of character for me to just ... kind of cut them off for a bit. I know, it will make them feel better and myself to just step away. It just sucks.

Sunshinegirl​(sub female) - I snorted after reading this. My Russian stepmother thinks the virus was made up by the government and they are using fake numbers for the amount of cases “as a scare tactic to control people“. My stepdad is 59 and immune comprised, goes walking (when I mean walking, I mean walking on sidewalks with a bazillion other people) and to restaurants as if everything is normal. We cant control them. We just have to live our lives and hope for the best.
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xGiGix​(sub female) - It's completely okay to put your foot down and put yourself and your family first. I'm sorry you're going through that, it can be so incredibly frustrating, especially when you're belittled in the process smh. *hugs*
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Satindragon{Not Lookin} - This illness has cause problems in lots of families. Here is a suggestion. If you want to go visit your parents. No Hugging, visits take place outside with social distancing. YOU wear your mask to protect both you and them. If you live close enough volunteer to pick up groceries or show them how to order online.
Plus tell them you love them but until they are protecting themselves they will be seeing less of you.

Some of us older folks see this thing differently. Personally I am doing the same thing I do every flu season. It is harder for some to breathe through the standard mask. Maybe check to see if they have a mask that works for them.

I hope you are able to find a solution that works for all.
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Mr E​(dom male) - Unfortunately its becoming increasingly more difficult to challenge erroneous beliefs. Some people will only trust specific sources, sources that have for years told them anything else is false and an effort to trick them. Engaging them in direct debate is an exercise in futility. Showing them that you are a good person despite what they are told about the 'wrongness' of your position, trying to engage by example rather than gotcha , and informing clearly about your disaffection with beliefs but that you love independently of them might have some effect. Might, being the key word in all of that.

People are willing to ignore what they see and hear for what they want to be true to suit their own beliefs. Its pretty crap out there right now, but we have to keep trying.
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rosethorn​(sub female) - Propoganda in the age of misinformation. Im positive im not right all the time no one is and might have missed something but asking how or why gets some interesting reactions even if you're trying to better understand incase you missed something
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Mr E​(dom male) - Its getting to the point that you asking them to explain their belief is in itself a direct challenge (mostly because they cant explain - its happened for years of being drip fed lies).
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rosethorn​(sub female) - I think thats why i said propoganda although in truth its probably someone going i can't believe they bought it
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Mr E​(dom male) - That's the big difference to me. If someone asks me to explain what I believe I'll be happy to go on until they staple my jaw closed to stop me. When someone can't I think there is still a part of their mind that knows their belief is wrong somehow and is afraid to look foolish and so they double down on it without being able to defend. Its just all attack.
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rosethorn​(sub female) - I like to be around people who question things in general. We don't always have to agree which seems to be forgotten nowa days but to question things including for yourself and by that i mean me too is the only way to go... okay i think i get it now or ... nope still clueless. Might need to look some stuff up but your right with the doubling down. Just seems to be the same thing said in different ways
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Bunnie - Ouch I’m so sorry to hear this.
I watched the most amazing TEDx talk yesterday that really helped me with my own mindset around all of this. I had begun to almost believe or hope that if we all just did “the right thing” it would make us safe. I had fallen into the good old trap of “bad things don’t happen to good people.” Which we all know isn’t true.

It helped me understand that I was blaming people for their choices in how they’ve responded to all of this (and almost secretly hoping that the virus would be more selective and only make sick those who don’t follow the rules “because they deserve it... they brought it on themselves”)... what a shit thing to think.

What I realised was this was my own way of coping with the fear and uncertainty.

I came to see that we all need to be a little more patient than normal... a little more understanding than normal... a little more compassionate than normal... a little more flexible than normal... and a little more loving than normal.

We’re all scared... we just show it differently.

Now having said all this, that doesn’t mean that you discard how you want to respond to this situation just to keep the peace. You need to do what feels right and safe for you. I hope you can find some kind of middle ground that works.
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rosethorn​(sub female) - Think your right everyone deals with panic and being scared in their own way x
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LongerJohnny​(dom male) - Anymore I don't even read these blogs without putting on a mask first.
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