Good day dear Cage friends,
I was asked a very important question during an interaction that I am continuing to look forward to.
The question revolved around my dynamic and what some of my plans were going to include once new changes occur in my life.
If Y/you didn't catch my last blog it revolved around some of the happenings of my life. I am in a very prosperous place and I have the opportunity to completely restart my life. At the same time none of this will stop taking work. As life changes W/we must evolve with it.
Now I need to tell Y/you a secret.
My answer was remarkably poor. I responded by telling him: "Im going to wait and see."
The LEAST Dominant answer I could possibly offer. I mean I muttered and tried to scramble and think of some things on the spot. I really was dumbfounded because I had no real concrete plan or path forward once this change occurs in my life. I was simply going to exist and allow to see how the nature of my dynamic was going to shift once January rolls around.
Now for those that are unaware I currently exist inside a long distance dynamic, and things have been moving steadily forward. Piece by piece everything is starting to fall into place.
But there are challenges and difficulties that exist inside a LDR, being able to feel connected and close when miles and miles separate you. How do Y/you manage and keep all that intensity alive? How do Y/you grow a dynamic from a distance?
Well Y/you can definitely "wait and see", but if Y/you don't have a vision for the future and some clarity. Some self awareness. If Y/you aren't striving to push Y/yourself further then Y/your dynamic will fall flat on its face.
So take some time and learn to understand what Y/you need. Learn what Y/your nature is. Take a moment and reflect on who Y/you are. Be able to identify what is important and necessary in Y/your life and then find someone who fits with the authentic version of who Y/you are.
See part of my nature is that I want to allow what I am feeling in the moment to help inspire what action I take. I am an opportunist. I will see or hear a need that sticks in my brain, it sits there and the next moment when the right situation arises I will take my chance to act on it. So going with the flow is in essence a part of who I am, but I panic when I get put on the spot and I don't always handle myself as well as I would like to. So waiting to see what happened in my dynamic is an extension of that but the problem comes when the change is world shattering. The larger the change, the more impactful that change will be in your s type.
Let's go back to an example. Lets say Y/you are about to lose time, space, closeness, daily interaction and consistency within Y/your dynamic. Those things are about to walk out the door but you have about a month to prepare.
Part of where W/we choose our path is in how W/we approach situations. Do Y/you sit back and wait and see what happens?
Or
Do Y/you take the remaining time Y/you have to develop the next stage of where things are going. Do Y/you have a plan for the future?
Now regardless of what Y/you do, Y/your s type is going to basically hit a withdrawal. There will be so much anxiety, nervousness, worry and fear that is going to overwhelm her. Its going to sit deep inside and whether its internalized, vented, handled in whatever manner. Its important to recognize that different individuals will respond in different ways. Part of the process is learning how Y/your girl reacts. How stress affects her. Making sure Y/you are being observant and keeping a close eye on what things she starts doing or stops.
So go back to the example. First how do Y/you properly speak to her heart and help her see that regardless of what may occur nothing is going to change. Because part of the responsibility of owning property is to care for it. Making sure that Y/your dynamic is safe, secure and that there is hope for the future. Its not just about this moment. Its not just about today. Its what do Y/you see in the future?
Part of a really important lesson is that large change will yield similar sized results. So think about small things that maybe can be brushed off if they didn't exist inside Y/your dynamic. Y/you might be a little annoyed or bothered with its absence but it wouldn't truly impact you. Its a small hurt. But if Y/you lost everything Y/you had, Y/you would be devastated. Its absolutely heart crushing. But the flip side is true. As someone who holds complete authority over another individual, Y/you have so much potential to make changes. To make positive growth and change in Y/your girls life. To radically shift her existence, to bring healing, to bring joy, to bring pleasure or even pain. Y/you have the ability to choose what happens and where things go. That's a massive amount of weight to carry. Its not easy. It takes dedicated effort and consistency. But that responsibility also gives Y/you the authority (so long as Y/your s type continues to choose Y/your Dominance) to make changes.
So balancing life and making sure that Y/your dynamic doesnt change when something drastic shifts in Y/your life will be a tremendous asset. It will grow trust. It will grow faith. It will instill devotion. It will bring about deeper levels of submission. Y/you will unlock new places to play because more trust is established and perhaps an old fear may be laid to rest at Y/your feet that Y/you are given the chance to govern and succeed in governing.
If Y/you can manage to make sure that despite all the changes in life, Y/you still find creative ways to exist and interact. To find closeness even if Y/you don't have the same time Y/you do now. To find ways to exist in safe and secure places. To be able to grow the dynamic with necessary scenes. Finding ways to make life exciting. Giving your s type a task to focus on Y/you, something Y/you can learn together and bond over. Setting a daily requirement so that her mind may centre and bring Y/you into the forefront of her day. The important part is to make it meaningful and intentional between the two (or more) of Y/you. I mean doing something "because Y/you can" is still a valid reason and it does have its place. But more often than not taking something and transforming it into a really special and unique way of interacting such that there is deeper meaning behind the act or task or specific focus will always yield benefit. I got the very excellent suggestion of creating a code language so that I can talk to my girl in anyway I desire without anyone else knowing. I've come up with a way of making that suggestion mine because I like to put my perspective into the concept of creating O/our own code language. But it's about what works for Y/you, what Y/you need, or what need Y/you are trying to fill. Simply being creative in how Y/you wish to express Y/yourself and Y/your Dominance.
Despite the fact I have some things figured out I am still currently working at developing my plan for the future I envision. Its barely begun, although in many ways I have been working on it since I entered the Cage just a little while ago. Its been steady self transformation day by day. I have been needing to take care of so many circumstances in my life and as I handle each situation I gain a little more experience and knowledge.
There is still so much learning to do though. I'm really only scratching the surface of what could happen. But as I grow and learn new skills and unlock part of my potential I am seeing more and more the path that is right and good for me.
I hope that A/all who read this will find T/their way on the journey thats laid out before T/them.
Mstr J (I think it may nearly be that time)
