Good day Cage friends,
It has been a long minute since I have posted. Life has been pretty insane with all sorts of work to be done and preparations to finish. My focus has been very directed towards my surroundings and my goals.
I am glad to announce that my home is very well near prepared. I have little odds and ends of jobs that need to be completed but they are not massive, time consuming monster projects. I have finished those. My home is very nearly "complete". Although truth be told my house won't quite be complete until my slave resides permanently with me. That is still a long ways off yet many years down the road, but its a milestone W/we both have O/our eyes set on.
Today I wanted to share some of my thoughts about LDR, mindsets and the types of preparation that work for me and not against me.
Now I consider LDR the type of relationships where you are restricted in being able to meet your person only a few times in the year. Couples that exist a city or two over, where a short trip and you could spend your weekend together I dont honestly consider that a "long" distance relationship. Yes you don't live in the same area but if you can manage to see each other every weekend. If you make the time and choose to spend your resources if that's your priority then its not really a long distance relationship. Currently Mikayla and I are restricted that W/we can see each other twice in one year. That is what W/we can reasonably manage. O/our main method of communication is via video calls and it is part of O/our daily routines. W/we manage and work between the schedules of work, kids, errands, spending time with friends and just general life happenings. Part of existing inside a LDR is that in many cases you need to keep in mind to set a different pace. To understand and realize that O/our lines of communication can get turned upside down. When there is a black out, and power goes down. Or internet doesn't connect. Or issues with the call, delays in responses, being unable to see or hear one another. You need to remain patient when approaching LDR which are founded in different forms of communication. It also takes a few creative solutions and multiple attempts at different options to find one that "behaves". Even managing situations during travel (such is the case W/we are facing now).
Mikayla messaged me after my golf tournament yesterday "Houston we have a problem." It turns out there was a delay in her original flight which now leaves her missing the connecting flight here. So W/we had to scramble hours before she left for the airport figuring out how I could be aware of any necessary changes especially if 1) she doesnt have time to notify me before she makes a mad dash to get on her connecting flight or 2) there is no access to Wi-Fi or the form of communication is lost between U/us. So part of handling LDR and issues that arise is an attempt at telling the future. Trying to understand "What ways can this thing logically reasonably go wrong?" "What are the most likely reasons W/we wouldn't be able to communicate?" Now there are a million things that could happen. The biggest issue is now that her connecting flight is missed I won't know what flight she is getting on, I wont know when she is arriving and I won't know if she is safe. W/we managed to mitigate these issues by first taking action in the case that she is not able to contact me prior to making her connecting flight. I am connected to her email such that I will get notifications of itinerary changes so I can check myself once an update comes. Once that was sorted most issues should be resolved but W/we took it one step farther and created a change in O/our mindsets. If it happens that she arrives and I am not there to pick her up, she will message me and W/we both understand (because of explicit communication) that I will take my time and safely get to the airport and she will simply hang out until I arrive. She does airports very well, she has been around them all her life and she is very patient. Ideally all things will work out perfectly, but W/we have established plans, mindsets and know that no matter what happens so long as she makes it here safely all is well. Part of giving her peace too is the simple piece of knowledge "Even if you arrive at 2 am, I will be there to bring you home."
I find setting the right mindset, giving perspective, using patience, and trying to imagine problems and pre-solve them goes a long way to creating a stable LDR. It gives peace when there is uncertainty. It brings calm when storms rage. It sets U/us up for success rather than failure.
Another key point to LDR when you only see each other a couple times a year is the fact that you get ample time to plan and prepare. Now when I speak about preparation I want to make one thing clear. Always ensure you are authentic. Now earlier I spoke about preparation that works for me and part of this concept is this: I am bringing my slave to experience authentic life with me. It is about realizing your strengths and playing into those. This is not about vacation fun time. This is about managing the resources of time, money, fuel, balancing work, ensuring life is handled, dealing with chores, finding out how LIFE will actually be together. My point is to make this month long experience as close to real life as possible. So lets take into account my financial situation. Right now I am trying to pay off my debt. That is a major focus in my priorities. So how do W/we handle excursions, activities, time with family and friends, time alone, errands, groceries. Yes I have 1000 goals of wanting to share experiences with my slave, yes I want to take her here and here and here and here. But it takes planning to say what is manageable for this trip? What things do I want to do but will need to save for next time because it would cost too much fuel and go over the budget for the month?
The other thing to realize is that by my nature I am an opportunist. I don't plan every minute out, I don't write down each and every little thing I want to do. But the great part about having a slave is that I get to utilize her strengths. One of her strengths is her organization. So by giving her a general idea of the gameplan (because I do still want a few surprises for her) W/we get to collectively create this experience together. She organizes a brilliant system of "minimizing needless travel" which just makes sense to my brain. Because W/we hold similar values and get along in the way W/we process and think there are no issues because I see the logic she uses to save me money, to save me fuel, to be effective and useful with each space W/we travel. It all serves a purpose, it all has intention and that is the way W/we live daily.
I am very excited that she is on a plane coming home. I am ready and have done my preparation for her arrival that suits me and plays into my strengths. I am very excited to experience life and know exactly how she fits within my space and my dominion. I am excited for how much better, easier, entertaining and enjoyable she will make my life. I know she has been longing for home, and home is waiting with open arms to welcome and snuggle her.
To those that take the time to read my words I thank you, I wish you A/all a joyful day on your path and journey.
Mstr J
