If you have read any of my recent blogs, you have probably already figured out that my Dom is younger than me, significantly. As someone who is past the "it's just a fling" stage, I had some doubts about even jumping into this relationship in the beginning, but I've come to realize that age is really not the problem in a dynamic like ours ...different values, lifestyles, life stages, and poor relationship skills could be. Of course, while all of these things can be the result of one's age, they can also occur because of one’s upbringing, family dynamic, or personal habits.
We don't agree on everything, but we respect each other's point of views. Iron sharpens iron...I don't want a partner who thinks exactly like me, I want, no I need, to be challenged and stretched mentally, emotionally, and spiritually; I hope that I do the same for him. Our interests intersect and I have learned a lot from him. I never want that part of our life to become stagnant. I am equal parts sapiosexual and demisexual; He values family, is well-spoken (with help from the swear jar), and is a deep thinker. he is passionate, embraces his emotions but is not led solely by them, and while finding contentment where he is at, he also seeks to stretch and grow. I admire his dedication to those in his inner circle and consideration of all others. He is a good man and he brings out the best in me.
When it comes to the physical, we align there as well. He loves all my curves and wobbly bits. To be honest, this was a bigger fear for me than even the age. Silly really, but I remember what my body looked like when I was his age... I was still all T and A, but everything was rounder...tighter. I worried that our intellectual connection would not be enough. For me, I am attracted to his dad-bod, and like that he doesn't feel the need to manscape within an inch of his life. I have a wide range of interests when it comes to BDSM and he wants to explore those areas as well. Fetishes and kinky fantasies are shared and, whenever possible, executed with enthusiasm.
Never have I felt so cherished. While I have had partners who I enjoyed spending time with, when push came to shove, for the majority of them, it really just boiled down to the physical; I was easily and quickly replaced. I know this man would fight for me if it came down to that. The foundation of our relationship is solid and if anything is a predictor of a successful relationship, it is that.
Someone told me that if age was the only thing holding me back, to just be a Cougar. Age was the last hurdle, and that has been successfully cleared.
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