House of Tanglewood Thoughts and Rants

Hope everyone is having a good Labor Day in the US.  One of My few days off work.   I decided to open My cage messages.   Woah!!!  wow!!   

I am an Elder in the lifestyle.  

apparently.  

ugh.  

I really do despise ageist shit but I get it.  I have been doing things in the lifestyle since I was of the majority of age.  When I meet ppl either in person or online, My first statement is “Hi, Im Tara, its My pleasure to meet you” or some such similarly well mannered statement.  I KNOW W/we are on The Cage.  yes-its a lifestyle site.  BUT-when you send a message, its about being a person first.  I am a emotion based individual.  I must have the connection and chemistry with a person before doing ANY of the dynamic things.   

As a High Protocol Domme, I expect the following:

1)  introduce yourself politely

2)  be interested in what I am saying/doing/showing

3)  convey that interest in a thoughtful well written manner    

4)  dont wave your parts in front of My face, especially your dick.  

5) My style of Dominance is about BDSM.  not about sex.

6) I am not interested in anything gentle, mommy, or long distance  

7) use My correct honorific if choosing to title Me,  otherwise My name is Tara   

8)  dont insult My intelligence by asking Me to reconsider any rule I might have in place.  

DO:

1) ask questions about:  the lifestyle, implements I am using, a particular scene I have done.  

I hope that this can serve as a guide to the numerous ppl reaching out.  I want to get to know you as ppl first.  kinks come secondary!

I love doing the things...

 I see blogs where submissives are crying about their relationships with Doms and yet, when I provide some thoughtful well written advice, they fucking DELETE My comments on their blog.   

ok then

That certainly says a lot about that particular sub-unwillingness to hear constructive criticism AND do something about it.   Never someone I would potentially play with, as I can see an abuse accusation coming........no one needs that crap!  

you need ppl to get sucked into your narrative about how you are being emotionally abused because a/b/c happened.  you want folks to sympathize with your desperate plight.  

The truth is an interesting thing.  There is the story told from the submissive side (all woe is me) and the story from the Dom (which was never made public).  The actual truth lies in the middle somewhere. 

But if someone comments something that doesnt fit in with your story-delete!!!!!!  Cause We cant have an actual lifestyle Domme who LOVES this life, make an assessment as an outsider looking in, and possibly judging you.  

For the record-My comment was about being a better person.  every single person is a unique individual.  no one else like you out there!!    Self love and self care are important no matter what side of the coin you identify.  Gain knowledge about the things that interest you in this life.  read.   and then read some more.  Ask questions, get a mentor, oh -did I mention READ!!   google is a thing!!   Back when I first started in this lifestyle, you couldnt get info on the computer.  it was an odd network of interesting ppl or maybe a shady magazine that had personal ads.  Use the tools you have available now!!   There are no excuses!!

but they are fucking magnificent for stomping on people   😁

I have always loved playing with fire. I suppose thats why I got into welding as a career. BUT.....NOT when I have no control over the thing!!!

We have been on fire for 48 hours and it is not contained yet!!

I have witnessed an over flow of community involvement and helpers willing to go above and beyond to help out neighbors and complete strangers. Livestock rescues, heavy equipment operators volunteering their time and rigs, wherever there is a need-wonderful ppl are stepping in and creating solutions.

What does this have to do with kink?? not a fucking thing. But My kink family has been there for Me during these trying times. Offering places to stay, calling to check in, driving by the house to make sure it is still standing. I am so blessed to have such wonderful ppl in My life and I love each and every one of you.

When this shit is all over, We are going to have a HoT survived 2020 party!!!

what I mean by that is the sub that constantly texts and seems to talk the talk, but when it comes to doing the things, or making actual plans, there is a disconnect and complete lack of engagement. No ability to walk the walk.

why?
am I that intimidating?
do you fear what I might do?
it rests squarely on the subs shoulders and their ability to engage. Its the reason I take My time. Getting to know a person, what their needs are and how that fits with Me. I will gift My time and attention to those ppl who are deserving and work for it. Those who have the proper attitude and willingly consent to submit.

I am weary of ppl who constantly dangle their proverbial carrot in front of Me. Shit or get off the pot!!! I actually DO THE THINGS!! ask the many subs I have worked with over the years. The rabbit hole of attention with no action is NOT satisfying. Then there’s the reaching out to every. single. Domme. in the area. With the exact same fucking message. oh dear Goddess!!! how in the fuck can you become attached to someone if you are constantly throwing your hat in the ring with anyone who has a dominant label?? you are not being cute. That kind of sub gives the rest a bad name just like the Dom who really isnt.......

I am looking for Connection. Commitment. Loyalty. Dedication. jesus fucking christ-are those too difficult for ppl to comprehend???

Oh well look-its Monday.......grumble

The life of a live in slave is not glamorous.  It is dishes, and floors, and going to the grocery.  But to those individuals who experience pleasure in serving, it is one of the ultimate rewards.  Taking care of the Goddess.  

slave has returned to her normal life after staying with the duration of a month.  This test has proved to be valuable.  she is motivated.   but needs structure. her nature is to please Me above and beyond.  she keeps her attitude in check even when challenged with physical difficulties. though it is very evident to Me she is experiencing problems, she continues to concern with My own well being before her own.  

she has served extraordinarily when I get a whim and desire to test her pain tolerance.  she heals well and is ready and willing to go further each time

her maid service is beyond reproach when I received lifestyle company.  My guests were well taken care of  during their stay

Overall her background and prior training are working in My favor.  Its a matter of fine tuning. I am honored to be the one she trusts to do so.  

I havent been here 24 hours and I have been bombarded with inexperienced kink first ppl or the proverbial Dom who thinks I am going to sub (HELL to the no and fuck that noise) and switch for them. Jesus Fucking Christ ppl. Get a hold of yourselves!! you have no idea the kind of person I am much less what Domme interests I might have. Take some time to get to know someone. Ask questions. Do some homework. Get knowledgeable about the things!!! Read!! and then-read some more! Communicate. But be respectful. I mean its not hard. BE BETTER!!!
*off the soapbox*