Refusal to Negotiate in D/s

A ton of good advice has already been given so let me bring up the elephant in the room.
Lack of negotionation isn't really the biggest issue here. Looking from the outside in you are accepting/rece ...

Thu Apr 05, 2018 3:23 pm • 14 Replies • 13941 Views

Places to educate a new dom

One more note: after reading your profile, be sure if you do take on someone who is also new that you both are on the same page and understanding. Look up negotiations, communication and consent. Thos ...

Tue Mar 27, 2018 5:03 pm • 4 Replies • 6027 Views

Places to educate a new dom

Going to second what Evangeline stated. Also thank you, as a submissive for your willingness and openness to figuring out the who and what of you. Yes, its that rare and should be encouraged more to t ...

Tue Mar 27, 2018 5:00 pm • 4 Replies • 6027 Views

In public

The how when and where a collar is worn is strictly defined by those involved in the collaring. Period. There are no "rules" or expectations within the lifestyle as to what or how one must show they ...

Mon Mar 05, 2018 4:59 pm • 10 Replies • 16730 Views

New to being a dominate

There are a ton of books and sites on the subject and you can spend a lot of time reading them and still not be exactly what the other needs. But it is a good resource.
It sounds as you have had som ...

Mon Mar 05, 2018 4:35 pm • 5 Replies • 6198 Views

An over-eager, desperate and now forlorn new sub

To reiterate what others have stated. It a common growing pain when first coming in. Sort of a child going into a toy store and becoming overwhelmed with all the isles of different toys. Finally picki ...

Thu Jan 11, 2018 5:54 pm • 10 Replies • 12697 Views

References

Personally,
When asking for references I am going to expect that they are going to give me the best of the best of those who will vouch for them. The key is in the questions you ask of those referenc ...

Sat Jan 06, 2018 10:49 pm • 4 Replies • 4934 Views

Why

I am,one,who reads profiles. If I get a message and there is none, I will disengage. On both sides of the D/s coin, if you can't find the time or at least a few sentences to describe who and what you ...

Fri Dec 15, 2017 6:59 pm • 13 Replies • 9892 Views

Young dom

A lot of the communities TNG (the next generation) groups geared for those younger or newer to the lifestyle. They usually have an age cap as to who is in the group (18/21 to early 30s).
I will sec ...

Fri Dec 15, 2017 9:34 am • 8 Replies • 9898 Views

Question...

My Kink isn't your Kink...and vise versa. What one or a couple (or few) do in their lifestyle is their business. Does it mean its wrong? Not as long as all involved are consensual to it.

There are ...

Fri Dec 15, 2017 1:32 am • 26 Replies • 21253 Views