Unfair makes fair. Huh.

Let me make my stance on this clear from the start:

cajoling = consent violation

I've had the flip side of the OP's description happen to me before. A sub male kept begging and asking and pl ...

Sun Sep 05, 2021 1:15 am • 25 Replies • 5910 Views

Language b/w a Dom and sub

For my brand of submission, as a good girl who is extremely sensitive to nuances even in silences, and defintely not a brat, those words would be crushing.
Not because of the actual words, but becaus ...

Sun Sep 05, 2021 1:01 am • 16 Replies • 5388 Views

If you've read 'The Story of O'

I know that, for many it was the catalyst into BDSM. I respect that. I can understand some of the appeal.

That said:
I really liked the first part of it and deeply disliked the last part.
I felt ...

Mon Jul 19, 2021 7:01 am • 17 Replies • 4900 Views

Dom/me abuse?

Okay. Let's regroup...

Let's imagine, for a moment, that this question was about the abuse of women and submissive women to boot....

And now let's apply some of the replies...
One would be te ...

Tue Jul 06, 2021 6:16 pm • 12 Replies • 3811 Views

Dom/me abuse?

Sir'smisty​(sub female)
Dom/me abuse?

First, please avoid assumptions. Nothing about abuse is obvious. And different cultures have their own issues with it. Including ours.


Hi SubleHush

T ...

Mon Jul 05, 2021 8:26 pm • 12 Replies • 3811 Views

Dom/me abuse?

I agree with Your analogy regarding rape. I believe firmly trauma and abuse is trauma and abuse. And is not to be minimized. He did retract His statement regarding that.

Do You mind giving me an e ...

Mon Jul 05, 2021 3:43 pm • 12 Replies • 3811 Views

Dom/me abuse?

My Sir and I were discussing the instances of IRL abuse in the South African community. (For context, Gender Based Violence is a huge issue here and intimate femicide is 5 x the global average. This S ...

Mon Jul 05, 2021 1:04 pm • 12 Replies • 3811 Views

Green Flags

@Sublimechaos: Complete honesty?

Oh! This had 17 tabs open in my brain open all at the same time!

While I don't disagree with the honesty part, when getting to know someone, I'd be happy with ...

Wed Jun 23, 2021 6:20 am • 21 Replies • 6624 Views

Thoughts on Fetlife

I started out years ago on the BDSM Library Forums and was spoilt with a forum community and then went to Fetlife. It has always been the poor cousin for me.
I've been a member on Fetlife for a dec ...

Tue Jun 22, 2021 9:48 am • 57 Replies • 17482 Views

My husband isn't a dom...

You could try erotic fiction. Pick stories for him to read that are suitably stimulating but also have some psychological depth, particularly from the sub's point of view. You can also encourage him ...

Mon Jun 21, 2021 8:31 am • 39 Replies • 11305 Views