My Sir and I were discussing the instances of IRL abuse in the South African community. (For context, Gender Based Violence is a huge issue here and intimate femicide is 5 x the global average. This Stat obviously includes BDSM related numbers)

I started out years ago on the BDSM Library Forums and was spoilt with a forum community and then went to Fetlife. It has always been the poor cousin for me.
I've been a member on Fetlife for a dec ...