Protocols, Rules and Rituals

We aren’t a high protocol couple, but we do have some of our own rules, arrangements, etc.

I always refer to him as Sir when speaking to him, regardless of who is around. I also refer to him as Sir ...

Tue Jun 18, 2019 5:01 am • 6 Replies • 3845 Views

Bad grammar and butchering a language

Your/you’re and their/there/they’re are huge pet peeves of mine.

I make plenty of typos of my own so I don’t expect perfection, but I do require coherent sentences with punctuation in order to part ...

Tue Jun 18, 2019 4:28 am • 20 Replies • 7319 Views

Helpful Advice: Love Languages

Knowing both mine and my Sir’s love languages has been very helpful to me in our relationship. It helps us to know why some things are more important to one than the other, and it helps us to show our ...

Thu Jun 13, 2019 7:13 pm • 5 Replies • 3541 Views

Rope drop

With my masochistic tendencies, I prefer the rougher ropes, like jute, as well.

For me the more intense the play, the rougher the drop. With that in mind, if it’s the same for you, then using a so ...

Thu Jun 13, 2019 7:07 pm • 4 Replies • 4099 Views

What do you do when someone ghosts you

I’m not proud to say that I’ve been the ghoster before. Not on this site and not recently but in my life I’ve ghosted people, and truthfully more than once. It’s awful and I don’t say it to brag, and ...

Wed Jun 05, 2019 7:18 am • 8 Replies • 3732 Views

Confused sub

Being completely submissive during scene often requires conscious effort. Being put into awkward or forced positions triggers an instinctive response to want to move or adjust or “correct the situatio ...

Thu May 30, 2019 7:43 pm • 12 Replies • 6468 Views

sub corner.

I have a question subbies; how often do you communicate with your Doms? If you’re long distance is there a number of times or certain intervals in which you communicate? If you are live locally or tog ...

Thu May 30, 2019 3:25 am • 46 Replies • 19892 Views

Old dogs, new tricks?

First off, don’t let people tell you what is “too soon”. Everyone has an opinion, but that’s all it is, an opinion.

My heart aches for you and your situation. I can’t even imagine the depth of your ...

Wed May 29, 2019 9:35 pm • 10 Replies • 7083 Views

Eye Contact

There’s no right or wrong answer for the community as a whole. It’s based on your specific dynamic and your Dom’s personal preferences.

In our day to day life I make eye contact with my Sir just li ...

Tue May 28, 2019 8:25 pm • 9 Replies • 3955 Views

sub corner.

Anything other than a general greeting is a red flag. Typical things like introductions, asking how you are, comments or questions about your profile, or general questions and conversation that’d you’ ...

Sun May 26, 2019 3:36 pm • 46 Replies • 19892 Views