Cumming on command, physiologically speaking

Orgasm happens in the brain and it can be pretty thoroughly separated from physical stimulation.

Build up, however, is definitely a thing. For all the folks I know who can orgasm without stimulatio ...

Wed Oct 07, 2020 9:15 am • 5 Replies • 3044 Views

How do I guide my Sadism?

I agree with kajirasubm that your concern about your desire is actually a good sign. It sounds like you're aware of the risk of pushing too far, and you're committed to staying on the right side of th ...

Sun Oct 04, 2020 2:35 am • 7 Replies • 2318 Views

How to last longer?

Some of the advice you're getting here is good.
- Masturbating beforehand is simple and effective.
- Practicing edging is super effective if you do it consistently.
- Changing your technique so tha ...

Mon Sep 28, 2020 8:12 pm • 34 Replies • 8696 Views

Re: Looking for advice from doms and subs

I thought submission was a gift and that doms would respect your concerns and limits??? I tried to enter the scene about 6ish years ago and got too scared and creeped out by someone (that’s another ta ...

Thu Sep 24, 2020 7:18 am • 32 Replies • 7872 Views

What Do you think is a good way of being an online Master?

Reading, as Devotedsub suggested, is a great idea. Beyond the blogs and forums, there is a robust literature of nonfiction, educational books written by real practitioners--to clear up all the fantast ...

Fri Sep 18, 2020 8:54 pm • 3 Replies • 2004 Views

new Dom resources

I'm in full agreement that dominating works best when you care about your partner and make it a priority to ensure they're having a good experience. And that doesn't have to mean that you can't take f ...

Fri Sep 18, 2020 12:53 am • 11 Replies • 4903 Views

Confused

I've felt like that.

What's helped me most in those times has been to stop focusing on finding someone to accept me, and focus more on myself. Learning something new. Developing a hobby or a skill. ...

Thu Sep 03, 2020 7:16 pm • 8 Replies • 3182 Views

Re: Too much noise?

Y’all have the power and the upper hand when it comes to finding a Dom.

This suggests that you're badly misunderstanding women's experience in dating, and that misunderstanding is probably contribu ...

Thu Sep 03, 2020 11:19 am • 18 Replies • 6530 Views

How do you know? Only 3 questions for now

The way some people talk can make it sound like there are five (or three, or whatever) kinds of submissive and you have to figure out which one you are. But that isn't true. There are myriad different ...

Sun Aug 30, 2020 8:26 am • 8 Replies • 3352 Views

San Francisco Bay Area

All of the kink community spaces like Citadel or Power Exchange are closed right now on account of this whole global pandemic thing we've got going on.

So, yeah: a motel room is your best bet.

Fri Aug 28, 2020 8:55 am • 3 Replies • 1614 Views