Eager but Cautious

No dom I know would ask for that.

Also, I've heard more than a couple stories of people being blackmailed that sounded pretty similar.

If you want to give this person every chance, you could mak ...

Mon Feb 15, 2021 10:05 am • 4 Replies • 2403 Views

Openness & honesty

I think all virtues end up being in tension with other virtues, and that the best course is usually to balance them somewhere in the middle.

Honesty and openness are good things, and if you look at ...

Fri Feb 12, 2021 7:50 am • 20 Replies • 6194 Views

Being a Dominate

It sounds to me like you've been given a hard challenge. Perhaps you could tell your partner you need some support to make it a success.

You could ask for a couple of conversations--before the big ...

Sun Feb 07, 2021 1:19 am • 7 Replies • 4356 Views

Armie hammer

If you aren't qualified to have an opinion about the abuse, but you think you *are* qualified to have an opinion about the victims' response to the abuse, you'll end up on the abuser's side every time ...

Sat Feb 06, 2021 7:11 pm • 1 Replies • 1217 Views

Parched in the Pandemic (Call me Sally)

Really! I knew that some people were shacking up together like you mentioned but I had no idea about some of the other things people are up to like the online play parties.

Really.

There's ev ...

Wed Jan 27, 2021 5:50 am • 9 Replies • 3340 Views

Parched in the Pandemic (Call me Sally)

I moderate a kinky personal ad forum elsewhere, and I've seen folks come up with all kinds of different harm reduction approaches.

Some are seeking out a single sex buddy to pod up with for the dur ...

Tue Jan 26, 2021 7:45 pm • 9 Replies • 3340 Views

How you Met

I've met the majority of my partners through being active in kink community as well. Pro tip: go to classes on kinks that are exciting for you, and take note of who else is showing up at those same cl ...

Fri Jan 22, 2021 11:31 am • 3 Replies • 1306 Views

Did I misread my Dom?

When we try to decide whether something is either "casual" or "a relationship," we're implicitly accepting that there are two prepackaged choices for how we relate to our partner--and we have to pick ...

Mon Jan 18, 2021 7:54 pm • 32 Replies • 12473 Views

Is their a toy that will make you feel like you have a full bladder?

Here's a basic overview of catheter play: http://www.medicaltoys.com/lib-catheter.htm. Like Sasa says, folks with vulvas have much more easy-to-damage urethras than folks with penises. Even careful pl ...

Tue Jan 12, 2021 9:19 pm • 5 Replies • 2130 Views

Should I ask for rules?

Taking things slow and letting the dynamic build gradually sounds like great wisdom to me.

As for asking for things you want, I'm the opposite of the folks suggesting that you frame your desires ...

Tue Jan 12, 2021 5:50 am • 33 Replies • 9783 Views