Red flags or just not cut out for it?

From what you have written, to me this relationship goes beyond 'red flag' into abuse. I.e., he abused you. i believe "abuse" can be intentional or unintentional, the latter usually because of ignor ...

Tue Oct 25, 2022 6:07 pm • 34 Replies • 10194 Views

Is it Ghosting when ....

The vague answers always suggested a lack of experience rather than scamming which I am sure happens more to men


i suspect you are right. i'm an older gay guy and i think that puts a target on my ...

Sat Oct 15, 2022 7:14 pm • 34 Replies • 10141 Views

Is it Ghosting when ....

An often annoying (and off-putting) reality of online social communities is scammers. In my experience, scammers are often vague or will leave questions unanswered and that automatically sends up red ...

Sat Oct 15, 2022 4:51 pm • 34 Replies • 10141 Views

Body parts

This thread went an interesting direction with discussion of pics of body parts.

It is interesting to read of the different judgements people make about pictures of body parts. When it comes to s ...

Mon Oct 10, 2022 6:02 pm • 23 Replies • 5612 Views

Helpful hints (hopefully) for profiles and post

I don't see it as an issue with it. I shouldn't have to tell everyone about my identity or sexuality. That's just too weird to me.
"Hey I'm J a straight cis man who is only interested in cis women" ...

Tue Sep 27, 2022 2:40 am • 23 Replies • 5612 Views

Re: Participating in website features out of loneliness/bord

I am not judging anyone when I ask this question. I have researched human communication. In this field, there is something called 'phatic communication,' which refers to a function of language which i ...

Tue Sep 27, 2022 12:07 am • 15 Replies • 6248 Views

Helpful hints (hopefully) for profiles and post

Starting this thread smiling and with friendly intentions.

When you read a profile or post, what are some of the things you encounter that may be a blind spot to the writer? Not necessarily a pur ...

Mon Sep 26, 2022 11:39 pm • 23 Replies • 5612 Views

Forum Fightclub

>>> Personally, I am of a belief that written responses are useless because they don't properly convey the subtle nuances of tone that we would use when speaking aloud to understand one anoth ...

Mon Sep 26, 2022 7:46 pm • 162 Replies • 41196 Views

Re: Why is there a segregated personals catagory just for tr

There's a personals category for subs seeking, doms seeking, etc. Yet they put all trans-related personals in one group as if transpeople don't fit any other category. Surprising as it may sound, tran ...

Sat Sep 24, 2022 7:02 pm • 16 Replies • 5240 Views

Dom's wanting submission and trust without earning it

i don't see it as a matter of earning my submission. For me it's more a matter of Him finding the keys to the rooms inside of me and knowing how to open the doors. i know where a lot of the keys are, ...

Tue Sep 20, 2022 7:20 am • 49 Replies • 21499 Views