SPOT THE DIFFERENCE?

i think you have some great answers.

i will add that i think the question and answer to your first question is subjective, so there is no universal answer. We are all fluid and change, so the term ...

Sat Sep 11, 2021 8:15 pm • 15 Replies • 6079 Views

Golden showers

Golden showers can be an awesome part of WS (aka 'watersports').

Like others have expressed, it has a huge psychological/humiliation/degradation layer to it for me. Degradation/humiliation can ha ...

Sat Sep 11, 2021 7:37 pm • 53 Replies • 18141 Views

Less Experienced Dom and More Experienced Sub

@ButterfliesAndCuffs​

i think that in some D/s dynamic, simple communication can be construed as trying to 'top from the bottom' or control things. And that can indeed happen, eh? To me it has to ...

Sat Sep 11, 2021 4:29 pm • 13 Replies • 5362 Views

Subspace - here's mine, can you tell me yours?

i've written about this on other threads, but this is one of my most profound experiences of 'sub space.'

i was in Palm Springs at a gay resort. (for those who don't know, that is a clothing option ...

Sat Sep 11, 2021 4:09 pm • 19 Replies • 3719 Views

Less Experienced Dom and More Experienced Sub

IMO anything thing can work if you BOTH want it to and BOTH are willing to put int he efforts needed
but saying the above, if you already know and understand what you need and want, why even try? If ...

Sat Sep 11, 2021 3:15 pm • 13 Replies • 5362 Views

Re: The insta-dom approach?

So I have heard from a couple sub women here that some guys try to immediately become their dom. Like in the first message... It seems completely foreign to me. And all I can think of is someone's fir ...

Wed Feb 10, 2021 4:50 pm • 28 Replies • 6956 Views

Opening Up

i don't know of any core tenants of poly that i'd deem unacceptable.

Apparently you've encountered someone/s who have, i have never experienced animosity like you describe.
When i first divorced ...

Thu Jan 21, 2021 9:28 pm • 11 Replies • 3765 Views

The Word "Mold"

Ooooh, i like this question, thanks for asking it.

Michelangelo is quoted as saying: " Every block of stone has a statue inside it and it is the task of the sculptor to discover it. I saw the angel ...

Thu Jan 21, 2021 5:46 am • 10 Replies • 3913 Views

Unconditional

"Unconditional"

i see this word, or its implication, a lot in the BDSM community. It makes me literally cringe in pretty much any context. Unless one is a blank slate, there are always conditions. ...

Thu Jan 21, 2021 4:40 am • 9 Replies • 2291 Views

Dear Kit...BDSM vs Love

@MasterKit​(sadist female){Hmmm}

"Do you think that love in our realm should be monogamous? What I mean is, should that love be for only one? To me, this lifestyle...is one of trust in body. "

i ...

Mon Jan 18, 2021 8:36 am • 12 Replies • 3555 Views