Being sexy?

i think 'sexy' is often in the eye of the beholder. Though there are general things that many people respond to as "sexy," i think being intricately sexy, non generic, requires knowledge and understan ...

Sat Sep 25, 2021 3:50 pm • 15 Replies • 5188 Views

What made you switch?

my story is detailed in different pieces in The Cage, but a quick summary is: grew up i a religious culture that did not accept that there is such a thing as 'gay' (they equated it to a disease at bes ...

Mon Sep 20, 2021 7:25 pm • 15 Replies • 10238 Views

Advice

i stop shy of giving "advice" to anyone, but i will share my views.

i think it's tricky. In some ways you have been in relationship . and have fallen in love with, an illusion, a lie. There are obv ...

Thu Sep 16, 2021 6:55 pm • 13 Replies • 3164 Views

Military BDSM

Individual experience does not equate to universal truth. None of us can equate our experience to anothers, we are all individuals. We can share the pieces and parts that may be similar or overlap. ...

Thu Sep 16, 2021 6:41 pm • 6 Replies • 4388 Views

Lifestyle vs “bedroom” play

Yay you for knowing who you are and what you want/need.

This is as good a place as any, and i think probably better than some places if you want kink because there is a great core group of stable ...

Thu Sep 16, 2021 12:42 am • 18 Replies • 5265 Views

Is Anal Play Taboo For Young, Straight Subs?

This thread has been around for awhile, and resurfacing again. i noticed that i'd read it, but never responded.

i don't know that age is really much of a factor? i was anal way before i discover ...

Wed Sep 15, 2021 5:24 pm • 76 Replies • 36489 Views

Military BDSM

i agree with much of what SubtleHush says.

i think a lot of people who identify as "dom" approach D/s from the top down. What i mean is, they are looking for someone who submits from day one, or mo ...

Wed Sep 15, 2021 3:46 pm • 6 Replies • 4388 Views

Subspace - here's mine, can you tell me yours?

@Thotferatu

The experience was out of left field for me, totally unexpected. If someone had told me ahead of time: "hey, you look like a good candidate for regression" i'd have likely rolled my eye ...

Mon Sep 13, 2021 9:07 pm • 19 Replies • 4369 Views

Re: How do you determine the difference for yourself?

How do you determine whether your hesitation is simply a fear of jumping in, or intuition (“your gut”) telling you it’s just not the right path for you?

Ooooo, great question! (caution: nerd alert ...

Mon Sep 13, 2021 5:59 pm • 28 Replies • 5574 Views

Where to find *real* subs

Ok. Wow. I get the feeling in the room!
I think I have found a starting point. Thanks for the wake up call

lol, you "think?"

i think for many, the qualifier "real" in your question makes it ...

Mon Sep 13, 2021 4:46 pm • 23 Replies • 8260 Views