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The more "asks" there are, the fewer applicants there will be standing in line for an interview. All of the expectations that were initially listed are major hurdles to be jumped even singly. When com ...

Sat May 07, 2022 10:58 pm • 9 Replies • 1910 Views

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I'm a little late, but I think it is well written. It seems you cleared up the confusing parts.

As for not getting any traction, I have a few ideas of what may be contributing:
1) this site isn't ...

Sat May 07, 2022 5:46 am • 9 Replies • 1910 Views

A letter to female submissives (especially newer) from a fellow newer submissive...

I am fairly new to D/s. but I am not new to relationships in general. That for me has been the key. Relationship = Relationship be it vanilla, PE, kink, poly, MF, FF, whatever. When I was young I h ...

Tue Apr 21, 2020 8:57 pm • 40 Replies • 20240 Views

ABCBDSM: Let's Play!

R - RACK

RACK – Risk Aware Consensual Kink.

My preference over SSC - simply because none of it is actually "safe"

Sat Apr 18, 2020 8:42 am • 113 Replies • 40818 Views

Biggest Turn On

I have seen many pictures from the BDSM community with a man's hand choking a woman around the neck. This always looks scary to me. I can't imagine wanting to be choked. I was chalking it up to just a ...

Wed Apr 08, 2020 7:00 pm • 53 Replies • 21923 Views

Sleeping Sub

This sounds like a time to have a very specific consensual-non-consent conversation. Is the other person ok with 'help' to stay out of it? Are there any trigger points? Are they 110% on board with bei ...

Fri Apr 03, 2020 8:19 pm • 22 Replies • 11853 Views

Re: I took the BDSM test.

I can't remember the exact percentages but it said I was Brat first and Submissive second. I guess that explains why when one time I was getting a flogging I turned and told the Lady that was doing i ...

Wed Apr 01, 2020 9:46 pm • 6 Replies • 5532 Views

Online training? Seriously?

I even asked one how she was going to give me a spanking from long distance and she said that I was to do it to myself and then send her pictures of the resulting reddened bottom.

Exactly why my ...

Wed Apr 01, 2020 8:20 am • 47 Replies • 18281 Views

How to let someone know they aren't your type?

Assuming it is someone I have had really conversations with - I prefer a softer message: We are not a good fit. It could be that I am not a good fit for your needs, or you aren't for mine. Neither of ...

Wed Apr 01, 2020 8:09 am • 21 Replies • 9038 Views

Should the Dom Approach or should the Sub

If I see something in a profile that I wish to comment on, I send a message - doesn't matter if the other person is a D or an s . Having said that, yes, I start with reading the profile and honoring ...

Thu Mar 26, 2020 9:14 pm • 21 Replies • 12590 Views