Is having a secret dom considered cheating?

To me, this question needs a more fundamental inspection.
First of all, the word "cheating" has EXTREMELY negative connotations, esp when it comes to relationships...the unexpressed rule is that if e ...

Tue May 26, 2020 6:09 pm • 16 Replies • 7345 Views

In a sub/slave r 2 personalities, person & thing, only o

For instance, if you say to the person, "hi how are you doing today?"...the s/s does not understand this...at best it can say what it thinks is expected of it, but this is not from the person...on the ...

Sat Mar 21, 2020 1:21 pm • 12 Replies • 5313 Views

Re: Advice for first munch?

I’m a novice and planning to attend my first munch next week. I think most people feel shy about walking alone into a social event with complete strangers and of course, the kink factor ups the ante. ...

Fri Feb 07, 2020 3:45 pm • 11 Replies • 4414 Views

Meyers Briggs

INTP
I think it is accurate...at any rate it was useful at the time convincing my ex that such people as me actually did exist...but she still left ;-D

Tue Jan 28, 2020 7:15 am • 51 Replies • 20947 Views

Aging within the lifestyle

Pardon me...this is kind of a 'stream-of-consciousness type blog...there isn't much in the way of organization to it....

This Sunday I will turn 67.

I have no R/L sub/slave and haven't had one f ...

Tue Jan 21, 2020 10:10 pm • 18 Replies • 7034 Views

Just 4 fun: Sexy word game. Rules: Must be a sexy word.

leather

Mon Dec 02, 2019 1:10 pm • 6668 Replies • 1039626 Views

link won't work anymore

ok so this list helped alot......but You can just google the the words like "long distance Dom/sub BDSM".....or use any combination of the words...and other article will pop up.....there is alot of in ...

Mon Nov 25, 2019 1:07 pm • 17 Replies • 376549 Views

Violet Wands, anyone into them? What's the best kind?

Interesting Background:
When we were kids, (back when dinosaurs roamed the earth) we used to (non sexually of course) play with something similar. My dad had an old model T spark coil and we would ta ...

Sat Nov 16, 2019 9:32 pm • 23 Replies • 9202 Views

Violet Wands, anyone into them? What's the best kind?

https://www.violetwands.com/about-violet-wands/

Sat Nov 16, 2019 4:05 pm • 23 Replies • 9202 Views

How do I find a Dom?

More info on your profile would be helpful. Setting the bar lower would be good...any visuals (profile pic, things you like etc) would improve your chances. A word of advice: Guys are driven by sex. I ...

Wed Aug 15, 2018 1:50 pm • 17 Replies • 12149 Views