Happiness in a relationship

10) Completely abandons the role they took to begin the dynamic. Stops being either Dominant or submissive and becomes totally vanilla instead.

11) One person stops growing as a person. No longer c ...

Sat Oct 29, 2022 10:02 pm • 29 Replies • 5870 Views

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My personal experience is that older women are much more likely to have dealt with trauma and be able to engage in healthy relationships than young women. (Obviously men can be victims of trauma, both ...

Fri Oct 28, 2022 10:03 am • 48 Replies • 10864 Views

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I get the feeling it was more my opinion that drove the nail in the coffin and I think you were more than diplomatic. I totally agree with you that maligning half the population does not lend very wel ...

Fri Oct 28, 2022 8:14 am • 48 Replies • 10864 Views

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Just noticed the OP has deleted her profile and left the site. I wonder why.

Fri Oct 28, 2022 5:55 am • 48 Replies • 10864 Views

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Solace wasn't chastising anyone and everyone is responsible for calling our discrimatory behavior and attitudes regardless of whether they are Dom or sub. I'm a sub and I absolutely agree with Solace ...

Fri Oct 28, 2022 5:50 am • 48 Replies • 10864 Views

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Women do not have a negative view of men as they get older. I am 52 and I honor and respect men more now than I ever have in my life. These generalizations are really harmful and doing a lot more dama ...

Fri Oct 28, 2022 3:29 am • 48 Replies • 10864 Views

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I should probably qualify my previous comment by saying that the other part of a dominant's job is to empower his sub by guiding her to become stronger and better able to stand on her own. It's a bala ...

Sat Oct 22, 2022 10:28 pm • 48 Replies • 10864 Views

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Being a sub is synonymous with being vulnerable and emotionally dependent (to a point). This is the basis of submission and a dom's job is to support that vulnerability and dependence amd even to enco ...

Sat Oct 22, 2022 9:17 pm • 48 Replies • 10864 Views

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I agree with Solitary. It's time to have The Talk.

You probably want to get real with yourself about what YOU want. If you want more that a long-distance, online only arrangement can give, then you ...

Sat Oct 22, 2022 8:57 pm • 48 Replies • 10864 Views

How did you figure out the D/s lifestyle is what you wanted/needed?

It was a developing process over many years and still not yet completed. Many different relationships left me feeling unsatisfied and I slowly put the puzzle pieces together as to why. Even my last re ...

Sat Oct 22, 2022 10:03 am • 11 Replies • 3121 Views