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Why subs with trauma feel scared trusting

I think what you’re describing is something a lot of people with trauma experience, especially when submission and regression are tied to feeling completely safe with someone. When that trust has been ...

Sun Aug 23, 2026 9:14 am • 12 Replies • 1594 Views

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shortylotus

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Lifestyle BDSM

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Why subs with trauma feel scared trusting

I don't know what to do and need a bit of advice

Sometimes the hardest thing to do is admit that your gut is trying to tell you something you don't want to hear.

In a BDSM relationship, it's easy to explain away red flags because you want to trus ...

Sun Aug 23, 2026 9:07 am • 31 Replies • 2688 Views

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shortylotus

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Generally Speaking

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I don't know what to do and need a bit of advice

Forced-bi

Hmmmm...control...humiliation....it's better than watching a rerun of ncis...you do have a right to say no to any activity that makes you uncomfortable...they are only allowed to do what you will let ...

Tue Dec 10, 2024 4:30 pm • 17 Replies • 10293 Views

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shortylotus

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Femdom

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Forced-bi

What is “the norm”?

I am a 2-3 times a day girl...some might call that hypersexual...I call it self entertaining...you can't base your needs on someone else's standards..as long as your not imposing on others such as rub ...

Tue Dec 10, 2024 4:22 pm • 30 Replies • 7990 Views

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shortylotus

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Generally Speaking

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What is “the norm”?

Butt Plugs and Anal Play

Taking them out can be nightmare...I got so nervous I couldn't get it out...when I did it flew out of my hand and put a little dent in the wall...

Tue Dec 10, 2024 8:37 am • 21 Replies • 9732 Views

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shortylotus

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Absolute Beginners

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Butt Plugs and Anal Play

Getting responses to messages

I usually ask them if they want to wrestle. Second question...how do you feel about pudding?

Tue Dec 10, 2024 8:34 am • 30 Replies • 17360 Views

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shortylotus

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Generally Speaking

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Getting responses to messages

Jeeze

Yeah we all have encountered the dial a doms..and when your fresh out of the gate you usually will fall for anything...I can remember something about placing an ice cube somewhere..slipping and fallin ...

Tue Dec 10, 2024 8:29 am • 36 Replies • 8710 Views

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shortylotus

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Generally Speaking

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Jeeze

Feel free to tell me to fuck off

Maybe it was meant to be endearing lol

Tue Dec 10, 2024 8:19 am • 25 Replies • 5272 Views

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shortylotus

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Just for Fun

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Feel free to tell me to fuck off

Proof?!

Your a submissive...but not there submissive..meaning you do not have to prove yourself or let them dominant you.. however be respectful while telling them that ...even if they are a little dickwad. ...

Tue Dec 10, 2024 8:16 am • 60 Replies • 14349 Views

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shortylotus

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Generally Speaking

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Proof?!

Tips on setting personal boundaries?

I would say it has to start with you...I would take the time and write out what you enjoy and what you don't...along with things you would like to try and things you wouldnt..then be transparent about ...

Sun Dec 08, 2024 10:11 pm • 14 Replies • 3623 Views

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shortylotus

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Lifestyle BDSM

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Tips on setting personal boundaries?