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THE CAGE Kink Questionnaire...

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5 years ago • Jun 14, 2019

THE CAGE Kink Questionnaire...

Villanelle​(staff)Inline member • Jun 14, 2019
Here's something for a bit of fun - our version of the famous Proust Questionnaire*. THE CAGE Kink Questionnaire is designed to give others a bit of insight in to your personality. I've kept some of the more general questions from the original and included new questions with a kinky twist. If you want to participate please copy/paste the questions below (for easy reference) and share your answers. Have fun!

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What is your favourite fetish?

What are your favourite qualities in a dominant?

What are your favourite qualities in a submissive?

What is your chief characteristic?

What do you appreciate most in your friends?

What would you consider your main fault as a dominant or submissive?

What is your favourite way to spend your time?

What quality do you most dislike in a dominant?

What quality do you most dislike in a submissive?

What's your idea of happiness?

What's your idea of misery?

If not yourself, who would you choose to be?

Where would you like to live?

What is your favourite BDSM implement?

What historical figure do you most identify with?

Who are your favourite authors (kinky and otherwise)?

What is your favourite representation of BDSM in popular culture?

How would you like to die?

What is your personal maxim?

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Asteria​(neither female)
5 years ago • Jun 15, 2019
Asteria​(neither female) • Jun 15, 2019
What is your favourite fetish?

- bondage... (OK, and leashes)

What are your favourite qualities in a dominant?

- accountability

What are your favourite qualities in a submissive?

- loyalty

What is your chief characteristic?

- stubbornness

What do you appreciate most in your friends?

- honesty

What would you consider your main fault as a dominant or submissive?

- impatience

What is your favourite way to spend your time?

- mountain hiking / running / reading

What quality do you most dislike in a dominant?

- inflated ego

What quality do you most dislike in a submissive?

- irresponsibility

What's your idea of happiness?

- simple things to enjoy and celebrate

What's your idea of misery?

- living in a lie

If not yourself, who would you choose to be?

- Elon Musk / Dana Scully (fictional character) (sorry, it is impossible to chose one icon_razz.gif)

Where would you like to live?

- Somewhere in Scandinavia or Kyoto (Japan)

What is your favourite BDSM implement?

- ropes

Who are your favourite authors (kinky and otherwise)?

- John Irving, Stephen King, Haruki Murakami

What is your favourite representation of BDSM in popular culture?

- Secretary (film with Maggie Gyllenhaal)

How would you like to die?

- if ever, then after being sent to Mars during one of Elon Musk's projects icon_biggrin.gif After all, you only live once icon_biggrin.gif

What is your personal maxim?

- Life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you're going to get
VWS
VWS
5 years ago • Jun 15, 2019
VWS • Jun 15, 2019
Not sure all of it makes sense, but ...

What is your favourite fetish?

- Female genital torture.

What are your favourite qualities in a dominant?

- Calm and concern for the welfare of the sub.

What are your favourite qualities in a submissive?

- Enthusiasm and a good sense of humour.

What is your chief characteristic?

- A very active imagination and strong self control.

What do you appreciate most in your friends?

- Loyalty, or at least a distaste for back stabbing.

What would you consider your main fault as a dominant or submissive?

- Being a strong introvert.

What is your favourite way to spend your time?

- Writing or reading (apart from female genital torture).

What quality do you most dislike in a dominant?

- Emotional cruelty.

What quality do you most dislike in a submissive?

- Being argumentative disguised as being bratty.

What's your idea of happiness?

- Being left alone to do my thing. An absence of drama.

What's your idea of misery?

- Intellectual boredom.

If not yourself, who would you choose to be?

- Someone independently wealthy so that I could be me.

Where would you like to live?

- I'm happy where I am in Singapore.

What is your favourite BDSM implement?

- A short leather strap suitable for pussy whipping.

What historical figure do you most identify with?

- - The Marquis de Sade (minus the horrible later life) or Qin Shih Huang (minus the early death)

Who are your favourite authors (kinky and otherwise)?

- Kinky? Apart from me, Aran Ashe, FE Campbell, Ellen and James Windsor, Anonymous.

What is your favourite representation of BDSM in popular culture?

- I'm not into BDSM as a lifestyle. Perhaps in film, "The Secretary", in text, Choosing Lovers For Justine.

How would you like to die?

- In the middle of a filthy dream.

What is your personal maxim?

- I know best what's right for me.
Bunnie
5 years ago • Jun 15, 2019
Bunnie • Jun 15, 2019
What is your favourite fetish?
*surrender (?) can that be a fetish?

What are your favourite qualities in a dominant?
*self awareness

What are your favourite qualities in a submissive?
*self awareness

What is your chief characteristic?
*curiosity

What do you appreciate most in your friends?
*loyalty

What would you consider your main fault as a dominant or submissive?
*stubbornness

What is your favourite way to spend your time?
*pottering around at home

What quality do you most dislike in a dominant?
*ignorance

What quality do you most dislike in a submissive?
*ignorance

What's your idea of happiness?
*recognising moments of joy and pausing to appreciate them

What's your idea of misery?
*guilt

If not yourself, who would you choose to be?
*whoever

Where would you like to live?
*anywhere with a garden and animals and close to water and bushland. Not too humid, not too cold.

What is your favourite BDSM implement?
*not sure yet...

What historical figure do you most identify with?
*ummm... historical figures is not a strong point for me. Marilyn Monroe (?)

Who are your favourite authors (kinky and otherwise)?
*not sure anymore

What is your favourite representation of BDSM in popular culture?
*probably a movie called Marie Poupee

How would you like to die?
*at peace and with ease

What is your personal maxim?
Be open to the possibility of anything and everything
CrimsonPaw
5 years ago • Jun 15, 2019
CrimsonPaw • Jun 15, 2019
What is your favourite fetish?

~Impact play

What are your favourite qualities in a dominant?

~Self-control and stability

What are your favourite qualities in a submissive?

~Loyalty

What is your chief characteristic?

~Altruistic

What do you appreciate most in your friends?

~Their honesty and loyalty

What would you consider your main fault as a dominant or submissive?

~Lack of confidence and self-worth

What is your favourite way to spend your time?

~Reading and nature walks

What quality do you most dislike in a dominant?

~Selfishness

What qualities do you most dislike in a submissive?

~Gossipy, deceitful, putting down other submissives instead of building them up.

What's your idea of happiness?

~Sweet friendships, hot cuppa, cuddling my Crunchie

What's your idea of misery?

~Loneliness, being deceived

If not yourself, who would you choose to be?

~A superhero! (Okay, so I just want a reason to wear tights and a mask anywhere I go) icon_wink.gif

Where would you like to live? 

~In a secluded snow covered cabin in the woods

What is your favourite BDSM implement?

~bondage furniture

What historical figure do you most identify with?

~Lagertha (only in my deepest fantasies) XD

Who are your favourite authors (kinky and otherwise)?

~Currently Paulo Coelho *changes almost weekly*

What is your favourite representation of BDSM in popular culture?

~I'll need to catch up on anything filmed after Secretary to have a unique answer. Got any suggestions for a movie night?

How would you like to die?

~Peacefully in my sleep

What is your personal maxim?

~The cream always rises to the top!
Azzabackam​(switch male){PawPawGirl}
5 years ago • Jun 16, 2019
What is your favourite fetish?
-That's a rough one. It's like you're asking me to pick my favorite kid, here. But, out of everything I'm into, power play has to take the top spot. Kink is all about trust to me, so a dynamic that requires a lot of trust to be exchanged does a lot for me.

What are your favourite qualities in a dominant?
-Communication, definitely. Being able to talk and convey feelings is the cornerstone of any relationship, so it's definitely most important to me.

What are your favourite qualities in a submissive?
-See above.

What is your chief characteristic?
-I'd say my conflict resolution skills. I'm a very patient person, and I'm good at getting people to talk about what's *really* wrong in the middle of a fight.

What do you appreciate most in your friends?
-Shared interests. It's not much of a friendship if there's not much to talk about. Honesty is a mighty close second.

What would you consider your main fault as a dominant or submissive?
-In practice, I haven't been very flexible as a Dom. I'm open minded, but being a non-sadist, I'm kind of adverse to inflicting pain. As you can imagine, this can cause problems.

What is your favourite way to spend your time?
-I like to sneak around at night with a pickaxe and put pot-holes in the roads leading out rich people neighborhoods. #revolution

What quality do you most dislike in a dominant?
- Disrespecting boundaries.

What quality do you most dislike in a submissive?
-Entitlement. You know those kids that can manipulate their parents despite being like, seven, in all those little annoying ways only kids can screw with adults? Yeah, doing that with your Dom twenty years later gets a big "Nah fam" from me.

What's your idea of happiness?
-My writing takes off, I have a partner that's happy with me, and my family's happy.

What's your idea of misery?
-Being alone.

If not yourself, who would you choose to be?
-Diogenes. Any man with such big dick energy that he sasses Alexander the Great is a man one should aspire to be.

Where would you like to live?
-Somewhere in the northern US, like Montana or Vermont, sounds nice. I like the cold.

What is your favourite BDSM implement?
-Rope. Ol' Reliable never fails.

What historical figure do you most identify with?
-A little modern to be 'historical' I guess, but Bruce Lee. Not in terms of physical prowess (good god, the man was a beast), but in his general disposition. He believed in giving kindness and respect to anyone who wasn't a clear-cut tool, didn't discriminate based on race (lots of martial arts schools in America didn't teach non-asians. Lee taught anyone who was respectful and eager to learn, a big point of contention between him and some of his contemporaries), and was by all accounts a wholesome guy. I'd like to think I'm of a similar thread, or atleast aspire to me more like his example.

Who are your favourite authors (kinky and otherwise)?
-Rick Riordan, Kim Harrison, Kat Richardson, and Andrzej Sapkowski (I love the Witcher books, even if Andy is a huge asshole)

What is your favourite representation of BDSM in popular culture?
-Honestly, don't have one. Lots of people just totally miss the point of the lifestyle and completely misrepresent it. If anyone has an example of someone who just "got it" and gave us a solid bit of representation, I'd really appreciate it.

How would you like to die?
-Fightin' dragons.

What is your personal maxim?
-"...if I’m to choose between one evil and another, then I prefer not to choose at all."
Villanelle​(staff)Inline member
Villanelle​(staff)Inline member
5 years ago • Jun 17, 2019
Villanelle​(staff)Inline member • Jun 17, 2019
I love all the responses so far! Thank you to everyone who has taken the time to share a bit more about themselves!
Manda Panda​(sub female)
5 years ago • Jun 20, 2019
Manda Panda​(sub female) • Jun 20, 2019
What is your favourite fetish?
Haven't had much experience yet, but so far spanking maybe.

What are your favourite qualities in a dominant?
Experience, knowledgeable in the lifestyle, loving

What are your favourite qualities in a submissive?
Loyalty, love for dom(me)

What is your chief characteristic?
Eagerness to learn

What do you appreciate most in your friends?
Willingness to listen and give advice. Loves me no matter what.

What would you consider your main fault as a dominant or submissive?
Lack of knowledge in BDSM

What is your favourite way to spend your time?
Reading, practicing my calligraphy, playing video games, spending time with friends (okay, my sister)

What quality do you most dislike in a dominant?
An unwillingness to listen, a know-it-all attitude

What quality do you most dislike in a submissive?
An unwillingness to listen

What's your idea of happiness?
No worries or conflict

What's your idea of misery?
Too many worries and conflict

If not yourself, who would you choose to be?
Someone who made smarter decisions when she was young

Where would you like to live?
Ireland. Or somewhere in the northern continental US or Canada, where there is less humidity.

What is your favourite BDSM implement?
I dont have one yet.

What historical figure do you most identify with?
Jane Austen

Who are your favourite authors (kinky and otherwise)?
Jane Austen, Susan Elizabeth Phillips, Sherrilyn Kenyon, Meghan March

What is your favourite representation of BDSM in popular culture?
the Secretary is about the only one I've seen besides the film that shall not be named.

How would you like to die?
In my sleep after a long, good life

What is your personal maxim?
Never say never.
Mama Bear JJ​(dom female){koa}
5 years ago • Jun 20, 2019
What is your favourite fetish?

Impact Play ... love to do it, watch it, hear it, read about it.

What are your favourite qualities in a dominant?

Communication, ability to be stern/silly when appropriate/necessary, ability to know person they are with enough to know when to push/pull back, and consistency.

What are your favourite qualities in a submissive?

Ability to let go completely, to trust someone else completely, and honesty in all things.

What is your chief characteristic?

Creativity ... I’m a writer, both generally and very, very, naughty things in my online relationships. I’m also a photographer and love appreciating the beauty in nature and things.

What do you appreciate most in your friends?

Humor and empathy.

What would you consider your main fault as a dominant or submissive?

The impulse to argue for things that are hinderances to, or that would delay, my goals, doing the things I need to, or getting the things I want/need ... the world won’t end if I’m not multi-tasking.

What is your favourite way to spend your time?

Writing, taking pictures, and having adventures. Love camping, hiking, rafting, kayaking, and zip lining.

What quality do you most dislike in a dominant?

Lack of communication or initiation of communication, both generally or as to expectations.

What quality do you most dislike in a submissive?

Blatant disrespect of the person they are with or established expectations/rules.

What's your idea of happiness?

Being outdoors, somewhere where I can let go and be free from technology, worries, problems. Wouldn’t mind those same feelings from a person.

What's your idea of misery?

Feeling out of control when it comes to actions, thoughts, or feelings, either personally or from not having someone to take over in those situations.

If not yourself, who would you choose to be?

I can’t think of anyone, so I’m going to go the silly route and say my dog ... so I can lick myself. I can do all kinds of things to myself, including taste myself, but I can’t eat myself out ... and I’d kind of like the option lol.

Where would you like to live?

In a cabin in the mountains, next to a river ... but with internet.

What is your favourite BDSM implement?

Flogger.

What historical figure do you most identify with?

Voltaire.

Who are your favourite authors (kinky and otherwise)?

In the past, Stephen King, presently ... into BDSM club series that mix in a bit of suspense - Golden Angel, Samantha Cole, Cherise Sinclair, Jane Henry.

What is your favourite representation of BDSM in popular culture?

The Addams Family - Gomez and Morticia, it’s there.

How would you like to die?

Doing something I love, something adventurous.

What is your personal maxim?

“There is neither happiness nor unhappiness in this world; there is only the comparison of one state with another. Only a man who has felt ultimate despair is capable of feeling ultimate bliss. It is necessary to have wished for death in order to know how good it is to live.....the sum of all human wisdom will be contained in these two words: Wait and Hope.” - Alexandre Dumas, from The Count of Monte Cristo

I have two parts of this quote included in my tattoos. May add one more!