The vague answers always suggested a lack of experience rather than scamming which I am sure happens more to men
i suspect you are right. i'm an older gay guy and i think that puts a target on my back for scammers. It really can be disheartening because it happens so often, but it's not always immediately clear. For instance, some guys are obviously from another country and English is a second language, so that has to be factored in.
i recently was chatted by a guy who admitted English was not his first language. He pushed my emotional buttons because he was very romantic on the one hand, on the other hand, he lied right from the start. He put in his profile that he was in Texas, but was actually in Armenia. When i asked why he wrote in his profile that he was in Texas, he never answered, but told me all about relocating from Russia to Armenia. He kept sending pictures of him doing various activities like catching a fish, playing soccer, all normal stuff that gave the impression of him being real. He also was upfront about wanting to move to the US. Even though i was very clear upfront that i do not ever give money to guys on the internet or assist with relocation, he never responded to that, but did keep pushing my romance buttons by telling me how much he loved getting my emails and how connected he felt to me. That happened way to quickly and i could not see a reason why he would feel that way so fast, so had to decide if he was just projecting because of his own needs/desires or stroking my ego and manipulating my own needs/desires for romance. i stopped writing after i saw that he'd been removed by the moderator from the site where we met.
This happens to me frequently, in various forms.
From another angle, a guy contacted me on this site recently. He had a new and short (but somewhat informative) profile. His 'emails' were not really emails, but short, simple questions where he tried to get, but gave nothing in return, i share it below, it won't identify him in any way:
Him: Good Morning
Him: I assume you viewed My profile?
me: Yes, that's the first thing i do when someone contacts me.
Him: I see.
And what did you think after reading it?
i cannot share my last response because it could give away his identity to anyone who has read it. His profile was short so it was simple to go down the line and respond to what he had written. my response was along the lines of the questions reading his profile evoked in me, i.e. i explained that i "wondered" what he meant by this or that, what "constituted" things like worship or humiliation to him. All response to his profile.
i didn't hear back after that lol. i guess that qualifies as him ghosting me, but honestly he didn't put anything out there in the first place to where i felt someone of substance suddenly disappeared.
So, two very different examples. The first, probably an obvious scammer, yet he pulled on my emotional strings, so i felt an emotional loss even though my rational mind screams "SCAMMER." The second guy seems 'real' to me, but not someone who wants to give as well as he gets. He didn't establish any connection from the start, so i didn't really feel a loss when he stopped contacting me.