A question

A question

BeautifullyImperfect​(masochist female)​{Submissive} • Dec 28, 2025

This is not a bait post. I am not looking for “Let me fuck you and find out,” kind of thing. I have a genuine interest in the question and hopefully discussion.

Often, we take sex for granted. It is , after all, the stuff of legends. However, lately I have been pulling back from the thought of the physical act to the intellectual.

As I lack a penis, I will never be able to find out for myself. So, I ask..what does it feel like to enter another person’s body?

Much like a surgeon who has cut you open and is noodling about with your insides, you are physically entering a body. You are inside another human…:mind blown:

Not only that, but you are undulating inside of that human, moving around, thrusting. I can’t even begin to conceive what that could possibly feel like. Am I nuts?

Thank you in advance for your thoughtful answers.

Things to think about:

Does it change from vagina to vagina?
Anal versus vagina?
Does wetness or the lack there of truly change the experience.
Are there specific types of vagina’s that offer better or less stimulation?
Condom versus no condom
Orgasm inside or outside?

House Talion​(dom male) • Dec 28, 2025

Do you not have fingers or a toinge? Heck, try a toe. Thenpenisbis simply the most commonlybused item where as theres not much control besides penetration depth where as all other items previously mentioned gives you more control over what your able to do given the black ofnpentratjon depth.

But its quite empowering watching yournpartner literally grovel at your feet begging for more as they feel like their insides are being torn outshine being torn apart and they love every moment not it

TopekaDom​(dom male)​{Chaos } • Dec 28, 2025

And there is the main argument I have had with a great deal of people over the decades of my involvement in the lifestyle:

"Once you take the physical out of the relationship, D/s still works".

More and more people think the lifestyle begins and ends with the physical. The reason they do it is, quite frankly, it is easy. It does not take much brains to tie someone up, or beat their ass, or mouth fuck them. There is no "why" to that, other than the simple orgasum.

Now don't get me wrong, being kinky is fun. However there is more to it all than that. But those on both sides of the collar have to work at it and it ain't easy.

FutLug​(dom male) • Dec 29, 2025

Allow me to chime in from a personal perspective.
I've never noticed any major differences between vaginas and anuses in terms of sensation. Wetness, however, does make a difference; in both directions. Too little vaginal wetness makes it more intense sensorially, but you also start wondering if she's aroused enough. Too much, and you lose friction entirely, to the point where after a while you feel nothing at all.
Personally, I strongly prefer lubed anal, also from a sense of possession standpoint. I don't like pulling out to ejaculate, and assuming all safety standards are met (regular testing, etc.), condoms aren't my thing.
On top of that, I'm an aesthete and a voyeur at heart: I love watching, both when I'm actively involved and when she's pleasuring herself autonomously.

MidSummerDream​(neither female)​{BothHold🗝} • Dec 29, 2025

The mind must be aroused with the body before can get exited.

Re: A question

tallslenderguy​(kinky male) • Dec 30, 2025

Thank you for asking this question and starting the conversation.
As a total bottom gay male, i've experienced all of these (i was married to a woman for many years and was in the role of 'top' in that relationship).

i think it's impossible to fragment sex from our emotional and cognitive parts. i have often heard the sentiment: "it was 'just' sex," and that often strikes me as denial and suppression of some sort?

While we all know there are other ways to penetrate, other than with a penis (you even use the example of a surgeon... interesting), we also know the penis is different than other body parts. While one can experience some of the elements of penetration with their hand or foot or other body part, it's still different. Only the penis can ejaculate and trigger a multitude of feelings that accompany climax, for both the Top and bottom.

As to your individual questions:

Personally, i've only been in one vagina, but since i do not think the physical can be (completely) separated from the rest of us during sex, i'd say it differs from vagina to vagina. From a purely physical standpoint, there are no two vaginas alike (or anal either for that matter). The physical structure can be opened and molded by the Top to some degree. The bottoms body is different from person to person too. So, i think while all vaginas have traits in common, there are no two vaginas alike.

i've only been in a few anuses, butt to me, they were different from the vagina i was in from the physical standpoint. The friction felt different, as well as the approach. Anal is surrounded by glutes and the approach is different visually as well as physically. Psychologically, to me, anal has a layer that a vagina does not. There's culturally conditioned in taboo, and i think a different form of vulnerability that both the Top and bottom can perceive and bond with. With a guy, there is also the P-spot (prostate) which is often compared to a womans g-spot.

I've received a lot of guys anally. i find they often fall into two general categories: those who love 'tight" and those who love "wet, opened, sloppy." i by far encounter more of the latter, which to me is a mystery? i use my muscles to squeeze and milk a Mans cock while inside of me, but i also tend to fall into the latter category, or get there as a result of being penetrated and fucked during the act. A lot of Tops, in my experience, enjoy the act of making my hole opened, wet and sloppy. After i douche, i sometimes will put a tampon in in order to absorb any excess water or moisture.... my reasoning being drier will provide more friction for my Top and hopefully more pleasure. But the truth, I've discovered, is every Top is different in how they experience penetration and fucking, so i think it's an individual vs universal question/answer.

gotta cut this short... will answer the others later, gotta get ready for work

MidSummerDream​(neither female)​{BothHold🗝} • Dec 30, 2025

The butt can cum in away but this something may have to look into.

Ibtpp​(sub male) • Dec 30, 2025

I can’t speak a lot about this question, I have only been inside two individuals. But I never thought of it as being inside, it was always more like being enveloped. Like wearing a glove. The glove is enveloping my hand. The fact that it is perhaps my most sensitive part of me it is overwhelming. But to be honest the best feeling for me is a gloves hand and lube. But it does feel different from position to position. Doggy style being the most stimulating and the one that works bed for me. You feel the heat, the moistness, and as you slide in it is similar to lightly running a finger on my thigh but like 10 times more. It is almost electric

nastyfkr​(dom male) • Jan 5, 2026

This question is quite profound, it made me think for quite awhile.

For me at least, there most certainly is something very visceral about the act of penetration, always has been. Feeling every contour with slow fucking, changing positions, feeling the differences in grip, the very individual ribbed sensations. I find every vagina different in so many ways. I've had several partners who have various degrees of cervical prolapse and find this incredibly arousing. Hitting the cervix can be painful, pleasurable or neither it seems from the female perspective but for me it's like another level.
As a dom it seems like I've fully invaded the sub to her deepest core, and as a sadistic dom those that find it painful only encourage me more.

I also enjoy taking this to the extreme with a lot of medical play, using various speculums to explore the vagina fully. This allows me to correlate the sensations I feel with visual inspection. I've even found a large enough speculum to allow fucking through it. That is a sublimely different experience, the contrast of hard stainless steel with the fleshy folds bulging into it. For anyone into this kind of thing I can highly recommend you try it.

I should also put this into context, for me actual penetration only makes up about 20% of my average play time, so much more goes into the kinky foreplay. This usually includes considerable sensory play combined with bondage and often impact play. The build up to me is such an important part of the game. I want my sub so hungry for cock that she is willing to do just about anything to get it. When she is a begging, pleading, dribbling mess, only then does the fucking begin. And so very slowly, I love to feel every pulsing ripple as I enter while she tries desperately to draw my cock inside...

SubStanChill​(sub male) • Jan 5, 2026

Best way I can describe it when it feels the best is it’s like a warm embrace and an inviting kiss. But the sensation is also unique in that it works like the opposite of dropping a stone in a pool. Rather than the concentric circle pushing out, they are pushing in with each thrust. So when the damn breaks and everything flows, the vagina feels like the banks of a coursing river. It’s holding me close but not holding me back.

The challenge that many men have is they become so worried about making sure the damn holds long enough, but also not too long that they are too distracted to appreciate the external sensation.