1 year ago • 10/18/2019 5:29 am
LongerJohnny(dom male) • 10/18/2019 5:29 am
Wow, lots of red flags here!!!
Here's the thing,
Hes talking about making you his slave, not his sub. A meaningless distinction perhaps since all slaves - indeed all bottoms - must necessarily submit, but one worth making since you are pretty new to this and he should know better than not to explain it.
A few examples:
Being a sub is usually not 24/7, it does not place demands on your time and life that you dont agree to, and is always subject to consent in the form of limits and safewords.
Being a slave usually is 24/7, strips your freedom and sense of self, restricts your life to 1 master and his chosen commands, and all too often ignores limits and safewords.
Now consider just the basics of your particular situation:
- You two have never met in person. As well intentioned and honest as your feelings may be, 5 days not is not nearly enough time to define this as much of a relationship at all. You are using words like love and caring and dependence and submission and property when speaking about someone you've never even met. Would you do the same in any other relationship?
- Your profile says you want to be a mom some day. Wouldnt you prefer your kids to have both parents? Breeding and parenting are not necessarily the same thing. One just makes children, the other fathers them.
- What happens if after you become his property he decides you may not leave the house? No school, no job, no family or friends, no hobbies, no outside interaction of any kind. He may never do that to you - but what if he did? You're his property, you have no freedom, you have no say in it. Do you want that?
- Speaking of safewords, do you have one? Does he? (yes doms should have them too.) Are you "allowed" to have and use one?
- If this proposed move isn't for a few months then why is either of you making any changes to your lives now? How about spending those few months getting to know and trust and like each other.
Just a few things to think about.
And by the way, those contracts are not legally binding. Don't let anyone convince you otherwise. The are ceremonial and fun and good reference material, but that's it. And don't take my word for it either - look it up.
Romantic is good, naive is not, perhaps especially in the kind of relationship you're considering. It is ultimately and entirely your decision Just be aware of all the red flags. They are called that for good reason.