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Badgirlblues​(dom male)
1 week ago • 11/23/2021 10:52 am

Participating in website features out of loneliness/bordom

Badgirlblues​(dom male) • 11/23/2021 10:52 am
I am not judging anyone when I ask this question. I have researched human communication. In this field, there is something called 'phatic communication,' which refers to a function of language which is meant simply to connect with someone so as not to feel alone or lonely.==and the intention is to get some feedback just so that one feels less isolated in the world. I'm wondering how many posts/topics, chat room participation, etc., are explored by members simply to be involved in 'connection' . The content doesn't matter. Here is a simple example. SOmeone cleaning his/her house might have the radio on just to feel less isolated. It doesn't really matter what station you're tuned into so long as it isn't offensive. It could be music, talk radio, interviews, etc. It doesn't really matter so long as you don't feel you're alone. So, how many people will ask a question or connect in other ways (even with ads) just to get responses. Not because one is curious about the answer or truly wants to hook up with someone. Thanks.
Curiousmind​(sub female){Principe}
1 week ago • 11/23/2021 12:08 pm
Curiousmind​(sub female){Principe} • 11/23/2021 12:08 pm
Probably lots of people use the social media including this site in order to “connect” with others.

Personally i write as the way of self-expression. I am not seeking a feedback but grateful when my blogs , comments resonate or touch people in some way.
Miki​(masochist female)
1 week ago • 11/23/2021 2:45 pm
Miki​(masochist female) • 11/23/2021 2:45 pm
.... and there are those for whom social media has served to replace actual face to face communication, be it because they're unable to go out and connect, or because it's simply easier to pull out the phone and start yacking.

For that matter, I've been to restaurants, bars and clubs and all too often I see each end of a "date"--- with their faces buried in their devices, communicating with yet another person who isn't there.

That's my take on today's social media-as-communication trend and not necessarily in answer to the original topic.


And to the original post. No judging here either, but "So what?" Why does one feel the need to research aspects of human discourse save to sate some curiousity of their own, or to stave off boredom?

Above all else, that's the overall purpose of this site and others with or without the twisted bent. This is not a dating site. Its primary purpose is not to facilitate "hooking up". There is a "Personals" section of course, and a chat function, and those areas are where one goes if they want to start some type of relationship beyond conversation.

Humans are social creatures, and when one is alone, it is not at all uncommon or unusual to have a sound system or television going "in the background"-- and/or that's why people who live alone often have pets.

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Richlydefined​(sub female)
5 days ago • 11/25/2021 5:55 pm
Richlydefined​(sub female) • 11/25/2021 5:55 pm
I do this. I spend a lot of my time alone. I work most days completely by myself. It's boring and lonely at the best of times. Often I get stuck in my head on a thought and I'll blog about it or surf the forums to see what people were talking about or even sit in chat just to have some form of connection to people.