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3 years ago. December 8, 2020 at 1:28 AM

So I've spent a day doing slave training and I already know it's not for me. Still exploring. Maybe a little? a Pet? I like submission to a point. I absolutely LOVE being bound/tied up. Does that mean I'm a sub or I just like bondage? is there a difference?

Balthezor​(dom male) - Little, Middle, Brat. You can be a submissive & not be a slave. Just because you’re a rope bunny doesn’t make you a slave. You’ll find where you want to be. Fingers crossed you always have a good Dom & good guidance.
3 years ago
SilverPhantom​(dom female) - Thank you!
3 years ago
SirsBabyDoll​(sub female){Pizza+☕}Verified member - What Balthazar said...sub does NOT equal slave...

Hey B, thanx for including Beats in your sub list. Most people don't recognise that Brats are subs.
3 years ago
Balthezor​(dom male) - 🤗. A lot don’t realize that Doms can be extremely caring either. I love Brats, they really get my playful side a ride of smiles. 😏🎄🍪
3 years ago
SSG{ENM-TLP} - Just because you like to be bound doesn't mean you are submissive. You just enjoy being topped in that kink. Take your time to learn about yourself.
3 years ago
Bunnie - You are simply you. I don’t see these things as being things that we “try on for size”... rather, I see it as discovering these aspects of ourself as we peel the layers away. Take this time to get to know and trust yourself... follow the breadcrumbs, and there you will be :D
3 years ago
SchrodingersDinosaur​(switch female){N/a} - Not trying to be a crank here (although grumpy dinosaur can't always help it...sorry) but I gotta ask if a Dominant (or possibly someone self identifying as a Master?) was guiding your slave training, Squirrels? If so, I'm a little.. dismayed, I guess... If it was supposed to be anything besides just a little taste or example for you, kinda thinking an experienced Master would have helped you suss out what sort of submission did appeal to you. Not sure that throwing slave training at someone new enough to have not identified their niche (and sometimes that takes a person awhile to figure out) is a good recipe for success. Master/ slave isn't an automatic level up from D/ s, it's a different flavor, but decidedly a more intense one. I suppose others may have a different view, but any 'slave training' that doesn't include a pre-existing attachment to the D doesn't seem like it could possibly give you an answer as to whether 'being a slave' is for you or not, make sense?
3 years ago
slaveMikayla​(sub female){MstrJ } - 100% to both Bunnie and MommaHenna.
So, it may totally not be your thing, it isnt MOST people's thing. I'd like to toss out that a slave heart is a part of your mind, your internal workings. It is a perspective, not a set of actions. By slave training I assume you mean either pose training or some form of sexual use training which if done by an instaramen Dom would be heavily peppered with derogatory language.... this is the PornHub version of slavery. Thumbs up for the folks who love it, but that isnt all slavery encompasses by a long shot, not for some of us.
Slave training for me: having my Momma point out to me in my hardest darkest scariest hour a parable we still refer to... to remind me where my head and heart need to be.
For me, there isnt such a wide gap between tpe submission and slavery, just a little tweak to the intentions, and where personal fulfillment is found .

We are here to support you whatever you discover, and wherever you land. ( it might even change as you go! )

~ Faith; the Velveteen slave
3 years ago
SilverPhantom​(dom female) - A dominant was guiding the training, yes. It wasn't his fault that it didn't work out. I wasn't sure what I wanted, but he was, and I wanted to please him so I agreed to slave training without being fully aware of all that it entailed.
3 years ago
SchrodingersDinosaur​(switch female){N/a} - Not attacking the guy, honest, but that was kind of my point. My thinking is that the prior discussion should probably be deep enough that the Dom intending to train thoroughly understands the prospective's wants, needs, and most importantly, knowledge level. If it's not, and a submissive is fast-tracked, there's a good chance of the outcome that occurred. A new person now sorta closed off to an area that may have been explored in a more meaningful way at a later date in her journey. Not trying to convince you that you SHOULD be a slave, Squirrels, just making the point that the training you experienced didn't really give you the necessary insight to adequately decide if it is for you to not.
3 years ago
Jack in the box - 👍
3 years ago

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