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My journey is a road I travel most of the time with friends by my side. Some days I walk alone, others I hold someone's hand. This is my journey on cage. If you really want to know about me go back 2 years ago to my first blog. Enjoy
5 years ago. August 1, 2019 at 2:33 AM

So my question is this... when you see someone you like what do you do, do you just sit back and see if they notice you. Subtle little comments on their blogs then they respond and you get excited. Or when they respond to another you wish it was you. How do you deal with it when they take notice of you and yet you still want them to reply to others because their words help others... is this jealousy? 

 

Anyway that's my question. I read a lot of blogs and the other day something caught my attention because it's in my profile. It said something about loyalty not being a fault for me it was.  I am loyal to a fault because I will go to the ends of the world for someone even if they dont deserve it.  My loyalty and devotion almost killed me a few times and I'm learning toxic doesnt deserve loyalty. So while loyalty is a great gift it also can cripple someone. I have learned to be independant and loyal. I have changed a lot and will continue to grow and evolve into the woman I want to be. When the right one is given my loyalty it won't be a fault but one of the many gifts I have to give. 

   Never stop growing... there is a Chinese proverb that says " be not afraid of growing slowly, be afraid of only standing still" 

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Pheonix J​(sub female) - Thank you for the advice. I'm learning to enjoy the moments.
5 years ago
overmyknee​(dom male) - Loyalty is always a good thing. Yes there are some who will use it against you but dont let them define the type of person you are.
If your attracted to a person let them know, dont let fear control you.
5 years ago
Pheonix J​(sub female) - Thank you and that is where I'm at now
5 years ago
Bunnie - Your question...

This is an easy one for me to answer because unlike most, I see it as a beautifully humbling thing for a submissive to approach a Dominant. This is vulnerability at its finest. Fear of rejection but making your interest known anyway. Sometimes it’s simply impossible to stay away.
It’s scary as hell, but for me, so worth it. It creates the space for growth into the desired dynamic from the beginning. Having said all of this. I have approached less than a handful of people, because when I do, it is with the intention of seeing it through until whatever happens (in other words, not lightly).
5 years ago
Pheonix J​(sub female) - Bunnie!!!! I love it you always get what in saying and make it clear to even me. Thank you as always
5 years ago
TheAnt​(dom male) - PJ,
From a Dom's perspective, an old guard at that, I say reach out and grab that Dom. It is your chance to demand to be noticed. He may have been thinking you are are out of his reach so he never approached you. BUT by grabbing the bull by the horns, so to speak, you scream "LOOK AT ME!!" If he chooses to not be with you or responds in a way you din't, "ahhh it's better to have loved and lost than not to loved at all." OR as I like to say "Crap or get off the Pot!" which means, for those who hate me sayings lol, DO IT or WALK AWAY.
Remember, in the Dom/sub dynamic, the sub is the one who chooses. We Doms are always at the mercy of our subs. Kitty choosing me, was the greatest day in my life and I have had around 18,750 days in my life.
-DA
5 years ago
Pheonix J​(sub female) - DA thank you for that. Its funny because I'm not one to make my self noticed. I like to be the wall flower because I dont want to be the center of attention. Yet I post. I appreciate what your saying a lot and have made my self known (yay me) the weird thing is I like to see what others say to this person but at the same time it still sends the heyyyyyyy pick me feelings. Guess it's the need to be the one to intellectually please another. Sorry if that's a little scatter brained kinda the way in process things lol
5 years ago
Daddy Zo​(dom male){Goodgirly} - As I have said . Give nothing. Make them earn it all just as you will have to earn your Dom. If you are looking for long term then this is the way . Dont be afraid to speak out or ask for anything. Your gifts (loyalty included) is given when trust and limits are talked about. If you have an interest go after them , use the bond , use the blog or hell... I'll help ya out and contact them for you.
5 years ago
Pheonix J​(sub female) - Thank you Z.
5 years ago

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