Truly upsidedown

Sweetlydepraved​(masochist female){Owned} - It is a slog weeding through the undesirables. Don’t give up! It took me 3 or 4 years of hit and miss to find my Daddy. It’s like trying on swimsuits, some look great on the rack and terrible once you try it on and then maybe one looks good and you wear it to the beach for a little bit but by the end of the day it just doesn’t feel uncomfortable and you’re out $50. Doesn’t mean you swear off bikinis for good, you just restart the shopping process.

Sweetlydepraved​(masochist female){Owned} - That was supposed to read “just doesn’t feel comfortable.” 😂

upsidedown​(sub female) - Thank you!!

fluffypoppet​(sub female){Protected} - lol @sweetlydepraved
Finding a Dom = Shopping for swimsuits.
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@upsidedown
You did a great job with your first blog- the disappointment may be a shared experience, but no less valid for being common. I've run across some frogs while waiting for a prince. The thing is, I'm never quite searching for a Dom. For me, the real prize is the growth, learning, and sense of community.

You definitely can make positive changes. Setting some goals is the first step toward meeting them and it sounds like you're well on your way. 😊😊😊 Hope you keep updating on your journey. I'm rooting for you.

upsidedown​(sub female) - So kind. I appreciate and will trust w.

CapnRick​(dom male) - Being ghosted is one of those cruel things that way too many careless Doms inflict in their prowling through The Cage. All you can do is work to toss all that they brought into your 'bad memory bank' and move on. I love the bathing suit analogy--seeking the one that fits and looks best seems simple enough, but as Sweetly points out, there are just too many different parts to make it easy. Great first blog, even if a sad one. Your profile shows a mature woman in great shape--though maybe your eagerness might be bait for the opportunists out there. Just a thought. Good hunting from here on out!

upsidedown​(sub female) - I appreciate your ability to be candid.
I think I have been depressed with things at home and became immaturely desperate and obvi. No one wants that 51 year old. The worst is I knew I may have laid too thick too soon but couldn’t help it. I just really like his voice, our common thoughts (maybe not real) and our flow. It’s all a bit ridiculous now as I’ve discovered he had no interest in me. Thank you!

Sweet Ginger​(sub female){⚓ } - I'm sorry that happened to you! Unfortunately there are deceitful people. Try not to be too hard on yourself..you learned a lesson and next times, I'm sure, you'll be more aware.. ghosting occurs because individuals are cowards both Doms and subs do it *we* just much more frequently, we here about the Ds doing it.

Take your time getting to know someone..if someone is in a rush, be cautious..listen to what people say, not just what *we* want them to say, do they change their story?? go with your intuition ..I stopped chatting with someone on here because he couldn't keep his stories straight...and someone else after doing a little *investigating * I found out he is nothing as he pretends to be online..even though his profile says that he's single, he's actually married with kids..lying and being deceitful is a deal breaker for me ..so is married men..be careful! There are clowns on here, pretending to be all that, saying everything they think you want to hear...but there are also good people out there amongst the snakes!! Take care .

upsidedown​(sub female) - Great advice!

Notely - Well save you for something better. They disappear, they get their own demons to grow from not on you fix them.

Authenticly honest - First, keep your chin up because you are important but first, you have to feel important to yourself in mind where everything starts. To do that admit your own mistakes and the bad you did to others as well as to yourself and the bad others did to you then you will avoid future same downs and the good and loving inside you will have space to come out. Life is good so go after the goods. Respectfully Peter.

Vacquero one​(dom male) - There are amazing people on this site. Hang in there and keep breathing as best as you can.

Orgazmo​(dom male){serenity m} - Being ghosted sucks especially when you thought there was a good connection.

Been there.