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Random thoughts. Some of them will be erotic and kink-related, but some of them won't be, and as such people might find them boring. Some will be related to personal fantasies, but some to personal experiences as well.
10 months ago. February 1, 2024 at 2:11 AM

Fellas, if you have ever been in either of these situations, I feel your pain.

 

It is a warm spring night.  They climb up the hill together, enjoying the spring air.  They  chat, sharing stories of their lives. They have so much in common!  They laugh, talk, and enjoy the warmth of the air, and each other. They had been out a couple times, but yet he is trying not to rush things. Still, the longing is there, for her touch, for her kiss. The conversation pauses. He look into her eyes.  She is beautiful, and sitting there, the setting sun reflecting off her hair, she gives him a warm smile, her eyes beckoning.  He leans over, and gently kisses her.

 

She pulls back, alarmed, eyes suddenly blazing with anger.  Giving him a shove backwards, she exclaims, "What are you DOING, you creep!"

 

And, embarrassed, he apologizes for his mistake. Silently, they walk down the hillside and back to the car. He drops her off at home, apologizing again.  She never calls him again.  Meanwhile, she tells her friends what an aggressive creep he was.

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A month later, it is warm summer night. They climb up the hill together, enjoying the spring air.  They  chat, sharing stories of their lives. They have so much in common!  They laugh, talk, and enjoy the warmth of the air, and each other. They had been out a couple times, but yet he is trying not to rush things. Still, the longing is there, for her touch, for her kiss. The conversation pauses. He look into her eyes.  She is beautiful, and sitting there, the setting sun reflecting off her hair, she gives him a warm smile, her eyes beckoning.  He thinks about leaning over to kiss her. But he is wiser, having learned from experience.  A long silence passes.  They both sigh.  Eventually they resume making more small talk, about sports, people they knew from college and high school, their favorite bands, and their annoying opinionated relatives. 

 

Still chatting, they walk down the hillside and back to the car. He drops her off at home, hoping she will invite him in.  She does not.  In fact, she never calls him again, despite him desperately wanting to see her.  Meanwhile, she tells her friends that even though he was quite a gentleman, he was a total dud because he wouldn't kiss her.

 

So, what is a guy supposed to do, when he gets mixed signals like this?  I would rather be a lover, than fight a no win battle of the sexes.  Anyway, this is why it can be tough being a dude.   Unless of course you are already in a relationship- and even then, little misunderstandings in communication can and do come up.

Anyway, thanks for reading, see ya.

SmashedTaters - Hmm should have been consistent. She knew what happened last time she went up that hill. The second time she made an informed choice.
10 months ago
Max Heathen​(other male) - When she freaked and called him a creep. Leave her ass there. Just like she's under no obligation to treat him with respect or consider her words... He is under no obligation to take her back home. Let her call one of her friends to come pick her up.

In the case of the second, he should have stayed true to himself instead of bowing the ever changing whims of what she might want.

Option three... Date a dude, y'all have more in common and can get along better anyways. 😂
10 months ago
SmashedTaters - Lol
10 months ago
SchrodingersDinosaur​(switch female){N/a} - Hope you were kidding, Max. I get that there could have been more communication and not even remotely implying that steellover was overstepping or intimidating, but men (yes, women can do both as well but not generally with the same potential for physical harm/ coercion as males may be capable of) have been known to misread female cues of friendliness or buddying, and that’s just the ‘good guys’, there’s an entire other group that are more than willing to push just a little more outta a date than she’s willing to do. So no, although it woulda been cooler if she had been able to discuss everything rationally and in clear language, forcefully turning down unwanted physical contact isn’t ’freaking out’ it’s a defense mechanism that sadly is sometimes necessary. (Again, please don’t feel like I’m pillorying you, sl!) So following the logic is what gets us to the rape is her fault argument… she went there, she did this… in this case your argument, Max, is that she did not what what he did so leave her ass there stranded? Am I understanding correctly?
10 months ago
SchrodingersDinosaur​(switch female){N/a} - Fuck, fingers not working… *did not WANT what he did… sheesh, I knew what I was tryin’ to say!
10 months ago
Max Heathen​(other male) - Who was talking about rape? That went off the scale quickly.
The right to refuses an advancement is her choice. The right to call him a creep and by doing so, be verbally abusive is a character flaw but still a choice. Nobody has to take abuse over a misunderstanding.
Leaving her ass there has nothing to do with the rejection. It was the treatment afterwards.
If she even considered that he'd drive away, do ya think she'd choose those words, or found something more respectful. They had spend days talking... He went from being (at minimum) a great friend, to a creep in a heartbeat. What is her value scale of him?

Flip the stands, and she leans in for the kiss. He pushes her away and calls her a whore. Is that acceptable and understandable? To me it's not. Changes are all her friends would call him an asshat much like was written.

From my experience women feel they have a right to treat men like shit and still expect them to be chivalrous. It's bullshit. Consider the source of the story... He care about her, he cares about what she thinks of him, he cares about the social impact that fall out because of either decision. A man like that, will be hurting for months and struggle to ever try again, all because of the way she treated him after the rejection.

Myself, I'm not that man. If I mean so little to one that I thought I meant more to... I'll drop that shit like hot rock straight from the fire. Had she apologized and restored respect from one human to another, I'd reconsider leaving her there... But that rarely happens in these scenarios.
10 months ago
simplylaura​(sub female){djinni} - Why didn't he just ask if he could kiss her? Seems like an easy way to avoid both scenarios and doesn't have to be a cold question. A sweet "I'd really like to kiss you, how do you feel about that?" would keep both scenarios from happening. And probably end up with at least one kiss and a second date.
10 months ago
Max Heathen​(other male) - Blame it on the movies and Disney 😂... It's not the romantic solution. While I do agree and I think it's possible to make it somewhat romantic, the gentleman in this situation is thinking about "love" and romance novels... Wherein is the issue. We don't do romance novels in reality. Young men don't realize this, and young women faun over love at first site... The perfect moment... The one true love. Until it's the wrong person and he's oblivious to it.
10 months ago
Jack in the box -
I usually just said "sooo um, wanna fuck?"
I either got laid or slapped 😏
Lol
10 months ago
SchrodingersDinosaur​(switch female){N/a} - That works, Jack. You know exactly where each other stands then! 😁 Or lays as the case may be!
10 months ago
Jack in the box -
Lol 😏
10 months ago
Oliver Void​(dom male) - Nice writing style.
10 months ago

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