Fellas, if you have ever been in either of these situations, I feel your pain.
It is a warm spring night. They climb up the hill together, enjoying the spring air. They chat, sharing stories of their lives. They have so much in common! They laugh, talk, and enjoy the warmth of the air, and each other. They had been out a couple times, but yet he is trying not to rush things. Still, the longing is there, for her touch, for her kiss. The conversation pauses. He look into her eyes. She is beautiful, and sitting there, the setting sun reflecting off her hair, she gives him a warm smile, her eyes beckoning. He leans over, and gently kisses her.
She pulls back, alarmed, eyes suddenly blazing with anger. Giving him a shove backwards, she exclaims, "What are you DOING, you creep!"
And, embarrassed, he apologizes for his mistake. Silently, they walk down the hillside and back to the car. He drops her off at home, apologizing again. She never calls him again. Meanwhile, she tells her friends what an aggressive creep he was.
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A month later, it is warm summer night. They climb up the hill together, enjoying the spring air. They chat, sharing stories of their lives. They have so much in common! They laugh, talk, and enjoy the warmth of the air, and each other. They had been out a couple times, but yet he is trying not to rush things. Still, the longing is there, for her touch, for her kiss. The conversation pauses. He look into her eyes. She is beautiful, and sitting there, the setting sun reflecting off her hair, she gives him a warm smile, her eyes beckoning. He thinks about leaning over to kiss her. But he is wiser, having learned from experience. A long silence passes. They both sigh. Eventually they resume making more small talk, about sports, people they knew from college and high school, their favorite bands, and their annoying opinionated relatives.
Still chatting, they walk down the hillside and back to the car. He drops her off at home, hoping she will invite him in. She does not. In fact, she never calls him again, despite him desperately wanting to see her. Meanwhile, she tells her friends that even though he was quite a gentleman, he was a total dud because he wouldn't kiss her.
So, what is a guy supposed to do, when he gets mixed signals like this? I would rather be a lover, than fight a no win battle of the sexes. Anyway, this is why it can be tough being a dude. Unless of course you are already in a relationship- and even then, little misunderstandings in communication can and do come up.
Anyway, thanks for reading, see ya.
