A scent of Woman

HOW HAS BDSM CHANGED
Has BDSM changed over the years?
I’ve been a Dom Since I was 18. Back then, it was more underground and not so sex-based. BDSM was focused more on the mind than just purely on sex.
I’ve been told it’s different how men of different ages approach women on here. Older men are more respectful and mature in the way they speak to women. As for the younger men, their approach seems to focus more on the sexual side of BDSM.
I remember being so young, but still wanting to know all the ins and outs of BDSM. I wanted to know what it stood for and how to get the best out of a woman. Is that something we still do today?
Do you know what BDSM is all about and how to get a woman to submit? How to show her respect or give her what she wants? Do we honor, obey, and respect her needs and kinks so we don’t push her too far?
Is it only sex we see now and not the true meaning of BDSM?
For me, the one true rule of being a Dom: You are not the one who is in charge. Yes, you can take control, but she has the power and right to say no.
As a young Dom, I got a tough lesson on the meaning of what it is to be a Dom. You must build a trusting bond and deep understanding. Know her inside and out. Pick her brain before you undress her. Show her you are loyal and will stand as her equal. Have her back. Do this and she will choose to submit to you.
Then, and only then, can you say you own her. Let her come to you. Let her show you what true submission is, and she will love you.
 

I Miss Having a Sub

I don’t know if many Doms feel lost when they don’t have a sub. It’s like my toys sit by themselves and I can’t go pick them up.

Then there’s the craving to have a sub or woman at your side to build a deep connection and bond of trust and loyalty.

It’s like a loss so deep it craves you to want and need it.

It hurts because you know you are a Dom and a Master but can’t play out your role.

For me, having her is like a drug racing through your veins to make you strong and feel like you have a purpose in life.

I feel like a part of me is dying without that special someone, to show her how strong she will make me. I want to be a Master again.

I want to be in charge again not feeling a loss in my life without that special someone to call mine.

Am I the only one who feels this after being deeply connected to someone and now I’m on my own?
 

HOW TO HONOUR A SUB
I may blindfold my sub, but I let her see my heart.

I may mark my sub, but let her feel the love in it.

I may bind my sub, but let her feel the freedom.

I may gag my sub, but let her taste the riches of me.

I may beat my sub, but I’ll never hurt her soul.

I do this to build her soul and spirit; to make her stronger and to show her she is free.

WHAT DO I FEEL AS A DOM
What do i as a Dom feel?

As a Dom what makes me feel what it is to be a Dom?
Is it the Passion that runs through my body or is it the toys I own?
Is it meeting that special sub who will drive me to make her the best I can?
Is it everything but to have the feeling of truly being wanted by her?
Is it my heart that needs to feel that deep love that no vanilla relationship can give to me?
Is it the sub giving me the power to show her how to blossom into her best self; to give you all you need in love and open her soul as she lays bare all that she is to you alone?
What is it I crave so badly?
Why is it I feel so empty?
And what is it about a sub I want so badly?
What? When I have to put so much work into her with my thoughts, my tools, my soul as I bare myself to her, as I take her, and shape her and I fall in love with her as I bare my soul to her and give her what she so desperately needs, I need to give to her.
As I lay my tools out and wait in darkness for her to come to me; my soul, my mind, and my body wait for that special sub to come into my life to ease my pain.
And I, the Dom, will reach into her soul to take what is mine.
I will show her what it is to be dominated, and what it is to be free, as I work on her mind, soul, and body.
Only then will she know what it is to be truly loved, respected, and honored.
With her in my arms, she will then feel completely herself.

Are you up for the task of being a real Dom??
 

SHE WAS LOST
She was lost in what she wanted and did not know which way to turn. So many men had given her only empty promises of what they could offer.
So, she built walls to protect her heart and soul. She saw all her friends in deeply loving relationships, and she craved what they had...that deep bond and happiness.
She would dream of a man who she could look up to the one who understood her thoughts on what she would read. The one who would feel all those solitary times she sat gazing out the window, longing to be in the arms of a man who would truly see her.
She was strong and Independent, but she had no choice but to be.
She longed for a man who would protect and hold her at night in his arms. A man who would be her wolf and stand as her equal. Where she could be herself in all she did. Where the promises were kept, the love was given, and she could grow to be the woman she always wanted to be.
We are out there. The men who understand and want to be loved by this woman.
Who only want to cherish her. To put a smile on her face and keep her in our arms at night.
We are the WOLVES of all your desires and dreams, so you will not be lost anymore.
 

HIGH EXPECTATIONS OF YOUR SELF

I want to take a look of what I feel is missing from my life and my BDSM life.
I put a lot into my profile and my life of BDSM to show people who I am and that I am not fake or I am here for the wrong reasons.
It not about kink sex for me or trying to have sex with women.
For me it goes way deeper onto the minds of people and what it means to me been in the lifestyle and a Master.
What do I want from the lifestyle is giving my Knowledge my understanding of what I see.
Most want a connection of some type.
Some just want the sex connection with the freedom to fuck and play with who ever there like and that’s good for them.
Some come to make money use what three given to make it and again if it works for them good on them.
You have the ones who come with the chaos inside of them looking for the Answers to switch it off and there want to find someone who there can connect with.
Some come to Discover themselves. To find out more about there own Sexuality.
We all have our own reasons for been here.
Does not make us bad,what makes it bad is what we tell people the lies of people and the fake bullshit people come up with on here to
Hide the Truth.
That’s where the hurt comes from on here.
So we have a lot of different people on here all wanting different things form here
As long as you make it clear to what you want it should not be a problem.

So I looking for that girl, lady , women what ever you want to call your self it up to you as long as you been real to your self.

So what do I want out of all of this ??

To make that deep connection.

To find that someone who wants to grow inside them selfs.

Who’s not afraid of changing for the better of them selfs.

Who wants a man to love and Cherish them and to be looked after in every way.

I want a women who wants to be in a D/s and is wants to build up to a collar relationship.

What do I ask from her Loyalty her Trust Commitment from her
Knowing she get it all back from me

A Relationship with great Communication each day.

I want someone who will want to Learn or know more to do with old school ways.

I want to make sure there well being is take care of and her needs are looked after in each way in what we set down.

It like rules and Protocols of each other where there are hard limits set down

Knowing she got safe words set
And tte aftercare of what she need as going to be done

Dairy tasks will be set out and followed

With a punishments in place for you to see with so you now what will be done

Your kinks will be written up on what we both want to do

I do ask for 2 books or two ways for you to write things down
1 use one is your Journal book
2 to put in your rules and Protocols that
Would be set down by both of us.

There are aspects of your life I don’t want any control of those are

Your job

Your money

I not in any Financial way I can take care of you fully Financially so I would expect you to work to support your own self.

If you have kids there are yours as my kids are mind I would not tell you how to Parent them.

My rules are simple and are set in ways that there all can be Discusses with in how we work them and may be changes in them if need to be

This is a out line of what’s I would except and want from a women thee are many other aspects to a good D/s but as long as the base is set I could not ask for much Else.

It you think it’s something you like come read my full profile and talk to me.
 

To know Me

When I feel blood running
Through my veins
As I swing the flogger
Over your raw ass
Where it takes me to my happy place
As I see the marks I put on your skin
As you look back at me with that
Smile on your face
I know I am home doing what I do best
Been your true Master
When I look across to my other tools
What shell I do to you
To make you see me for who I am
When I want you in my arms to keep you safe from the world
How do I work as Master you will see
And only you will know
As you submit to only me
You will not only hear my voice
But feel my soul and Spirit
And know you are Truly looked after
In ever way
As we take pledge for one other
Never to give each other to anyone else
So I teach you all there is to be a good girl?
As I lay down my rules and show you what Protocols are
And make you do your Journal
As I teach you how to reach sub space
As I do my aftercare on you
Then to hold you so close
To my heart as I put you on my chest
At night

Where is my mental BDSM gone

What’s happen to what we use to see a lot of the mental connection Way before you play
To build on that deep connection of what so many of us want out of BDSM

How do we get our mental connection

if it’s only about kink sex and yes it great to play but what must come first before we jump in

Just look at around you to hear the horror story’s of bad behaviour

People who think it a easy way to get sex or abuse people on this site

There are people who looking for a easy Targets to take out there sexual Desires on you

Who don’t give a shit around Protocols or rules

How far are you willing to put out

with someone who not taking care of your needs

Who steps over your hard limits and just does what there want to you

It happens in the Vanilla world all the time and it happens on here where someone is not listening to you or what you see is safe Boundaries

Do you have good safe words in place

Do you talk about what your Triggers are

How much talking are you doing
before you jump in

We just have to take a look at the Australian guy who killed the women over in Australia

That was just meant to be a bit of fun for her for a night

Crazy on what went down

To make you wonder how safe do you know who you Intend of playing with

How can you trust the one you talking to over the net

For me it’s all got to be that trust in what I say and how I going to make sure I got that mental connection before we can get to play

How do you I find your mental connection
 

JOURNAL ENTRY · 2 MIN READ
What’s Missing

I here and talk to a lot of subs out in the Community and I ask what is misting

Why can’t there find a good Dom or find that deep connection

Lot of it comes down to men don’t have a clue on how to be Doms I get told or there just don’t get what it is all about

The lack of Respect Manners and knowing it’s not all about kink or sex

Let’s break it down to what a Dom should be

First of all it’s about giving and showing a sub what you have to offer her as a Dom

It’s not aboot telling her what to do in the first 5 mins of knowing her

She not yours she’s not under your control let’s make it clear you can’t tell a woman to get down on her knees after meeting her

Or tell her what you going to do to her
It’s like the old saying goes all talk and all bullshit

No women wants to know about what you going to make her do in the first 5 mins

She want to know about you who you are what you about just be open and friendly with women

It not a race to get them to submit to you slow down get to know her Personality
What is is like as a woman what her Interests

What got her into BDSM what does she want to get out of it

Look into her mind her thoughts ? on who she is find out about her as a women

What makes a good Dom is some one who is open book who Listens
And get to no a woman before you try and go all hard in and Scare her away

It ok to find out small things about a women but don’t just go after the sexual side of her it only saying you after one thing

We want our subs to feel Special we want them to know we think about them as a friend then as a lover and then as our subs

There so many wonderful women out there who want to be good girls for there Doms
But you fucking it up by not looking at who there are as people

Yes there are some hard women to crack and some who only hereto make money but ti find that good sub that sits great with you don’t rush it take you’re time it like making a cake you just don’t grab all the Gradients and Chuck in a oven
We must mx and Measure

And it like a women you must ask the right questions at the right time take your time read her profile read her writings it will tell you a lot about

Invest your time into her and you get all you want out of her in the end as long as you treat her right

It’s so important as Doms we do it right and give them what there need as for me I take a long time to collar a sub it not done over night it along Process

To me it like a wedding ring you just don’t pop it on a finger or a collar around a womens neck and it like when you first start talking to a women it along going process

It not done in 5 mins now she’s mine
Where the respect
Where is the Manners
Where is the Gentlemen
Where is showing you are Genuine
As must men with out These won’t get far wil there

And I say all women do your homework on your Doms vetting someone is so important

Building Trust
Building Loyalty
Built in Friendship
Building connection
Work on These

Then you will have a better way to have a D/s

It’s not about sexual side it about the whole Package

I always say work in this Order

Mental connection first Connection
Spiritual connection Second Connection
Get to her soul Third connection
Sexual fourth connection

Do it in that order you both can’t go wrong
Do non sexual things on dates find Interests you both like it ready like dating in the Vanilla world at first

I sure of men took more time women would trust more easy then the bullshit there get on there inbox’s or the shit there have to listen to so come on let’s have more Respect for each other

JOURNAL ENTRY · 2 MIN READ

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What Do I Give As A Master
I was asked what do I give out as a Master
And this is what It’s for me it’s all about the subs needs and what she needs to work on
It all about giving my time and Energy into her making she feels wanted and special and safe in all I do for her it come down this

With the understanding of
Respect
Loyalty
Honesty
Connection
Manners
And been her rock

I would hope I get the same things back of what I put in

It’s all about making the deep friendship at first and growing it into something so special so she can see I am a real Master and my words turn into Actions

But most of all I want her to grow in all I show her to Inspire her to be strong in all she does I won’t need to hold her up she will be strong but with what I put in her life will only Encourage her to be more strong

It’s important she know who she is what are her Triggers are what things she want to work on
And for her to see me Supporting her on all she does this should be a outline for any male who you want in your life
As a partner
I not about sex I about love to different things love to me is the out come that come from showing your heart to someone who you care about Deeply

Sex is just a act you carry out on someone you find Attractive and I ask what do you get out of sex yes a Orgasm but not much else

You need to see what love gists you endless happy days with someone who is your everything

I want to bare my

Mind
Soul
Spirit
Body

I will never put a pic up of my cock on here and my pics are more to inspire people to have a better thought ?

As what we all looking for most of us is someone who will understand you or want to know you as a person not just sex

When I give my heart to someone I want to give it fully the Master side of me wants the same respect I give her

Noting in wrong in a brat with a Loose
Tongue ad long as she knows when to hold it and to use it

We all have Different personalities on what we see and how we act and thees noting wrong in that

The rules are Standard in my BDSM life for my sub They not hard to follow
And Discipline will be shown and if not punishment show fellow

But how do I bring my rules into her life with a set Period you I do a test time Trail
Set out a rule for 2 weeks and see how it sits with the sub then talk about it

If it working then set in Concrete if not you may both want to Adjust it or get rid of it noting a sub should do should be hard for her to do she should want to do it to please you buy it should be done in a manner for you both

Should all tasks be one sided NO for me it more for her in teaching her what she needs

Structure
Composure
Respect

If its for more for your own Benefit tell her what you like don’t make into a task she should want to do it for you to please you

Don’t over work her yes you can give her jobs to do but make them fun for her

The big thing is to Reward her for her work she done for you or a Completed task

I use time I ask for tasks ti be done on time
So she knows she got to get it done

Keep the Relationship fun

Give her what she loves when she’s been a good girl

But most of all keep her safe

That’s my job as been a true Master to her

Let me know what you think ?
What it is to be true Master