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6 years ago. December 6, 2017 at 8:26 PM

i wasn’t sure if i should right a blog or perhaps right something else. I just want to get out there that i am fairly new to this world and was looking for guidance on how to be a good submissive. I’ve read different blogs and try to catch red flags when i am talking to doms. Just today i thought things where starting out pretty good until i was told to delete my account. I didn’t really understand why that was asked of me if i had just recently made this account just days ago. Why i was being forced to submit to someone i bearly knew. As soon as i got my account recovered today he knew and then became very angry with me to the point of name calling and so on. But what really hurt was he told me since i didn’t obey him that this is probably the reason i am a single mother. Sorry for the long story but honestly i just want the correct guidance from a real dom

TakenLower - Nothing about any of that is OK and don’t ever let someone isolate you.

6 years ago

Lovensweetness26(sub female) - Thank you guys so much. As soon as i realized what he was trying to do i blocked him

6 years ago

SouthernFire(sub female) - I agree with the others. It is good that you blocked him. A Dom should let you have contact with others in the LS, even if it is other subs.

6 years ago

Cinder(switch female) - I am also new here and it can be discouraging to see things like this happen to fellow subs. But assholes are everywhere and you just have to learn to identify them so you can have a safe and enjoyable experience while you're here. I'm glad you blocked him.

6 years ago

Miki(masochist female) - I have not had to deal with heavy handed Doms in here but they are definitely forward. As you no doubt have already been told, don't take any name calling or abuse. You can either warn off those dudes OR follow the "report abuse" procedure and the administrations will deal with the dastardly Doms.

6 years ago

PetMaster(dom male) - I'm glad to hear that you blocked him, but I'm sorry to hear that you needed to. There are some good people out here. Don't let the bad ones discourage you. I'm glad to hear that you have been attempting to learn before jumping in. If you have any questions in the future, please don't hesitate to ask.

6 years ago

Lovensweetness26(sub female) - Thank you everyone for your kind words of wisdom. i will not let one person discourage me in my journey to find what i need

6 years ago

rosethorn(sub female) - Dont ever let anyone isolate you, dont listen to anything they say with regards to your abilities some out there do not understand that humiliation and degradation is not okay without consent, they just cant seem to help themselves. Feel free to look at some responses i have had, i posted them on my blog anonymously but it might give you an idea of what to look out for. good luck x

6 years ago

MsNevermore(other female) - "he told me since i didn’t obey him that this is probably the reason i am a single mother"
No this is why he is still why he is still looking for a sub.
As a lot of told you already, MAJOR RED FLAG: Isolation.

6 years ago

Lovensweetness26(sub female) - I have read your blog and thank you for commenting i think I’m gonna take a step back for a while and look with in myself as well as buy some literature to understand if I’m truly meant to be a sub. I feel it in my heart but I’m just not sure

6 years ago

MsNevermore(other female) - Im glad you liked the blog. Something in you brought you here. So don't question yourself as much as figuring out the what of who you are and are needing/desiring.,stepping back is NEVER a sign of weakness but rather strength in knowing you need more than just what some Dumbinant (yes, a term I use) who thinks that you will blindly submit to.

6 years ago

Miki(masochist female) - My favorite LMAO reply of all... "...No this is why he is still why he is still looking for a sub."

Of course there is no humor in running into a tool like that but the reactions and support you get and the mental-movie I get out of picturing some meat-head shining a flashlight around looking for a sub..

Nope. No sub for him. In fact I'd bet his last one ran away.

I would! Collar, broken chain and all.

6 years ago

evergrey(sub female){Ashigeru} - Wow, fuck that guy. Isolating you, red flag. Making such demands of you right off the bat, red flag. Don't get sucked in by some super intense person who comes on strong straight off the bat like that- a good dom is going to take the time to get to know you are a person, and they are going to RESPECT you as a person.
Please, if you've got a bit of time, go through my blog and read about positive signs of a good dom and red flags as well. Be careful, and value yourself. Take your time. Set boundaries. Nobody gets full access to you right away. Submission and dominance both should be earned, over time, like trust.

6 years ago

Bunnie - Good for you for recognising that something wasn’t right and trusting and listening to yourself. You should definitely give yourself a pat on the back ?

6 years ago

Balthezor(dom male) - Good for you. You build into the relationship you don’t just drop to your knees on day one it hasn’t been earned. 🎄🍪🎅🏻

3 years ago

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